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When you are young, you always think that love can resist everything in marriage, and when you really enter marriage, you know the material basis and the importance of marriage stability.
In those married life, the small things you can't see can often destroy the love in marriage; the expenses of those families, the trivialities of oil, rice, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, can completely consume the warmth of love.
If a man can't meet the daily expenses of the family, women can't buy anything after marriage, and when they want to use money, they will only get the white eyes of men's contempt, which is the biggest sadness of women in marriage.
A woman who has been married for ten years told me about her heartache: "It is really too difficult to get married to a couple without money." ”
She and her husband have been married for ten years, and when they get married, their feelings are also sweet and intimate, and men are good everywhere, but they are not motivated by their careers.
The woman's parents disagree because they feel that a family that can be taken care of is entrusted by the woman.
The woman blinded by love does not believe her parents' words at all, she loves this man, because she loves each other, she also marries.
A few years before marriage, life was still passable. Although the two people have no money in their hands, they have their own jobs, and they can still live as usual.
When the child is born, the woman cannot go out to work, and the family can only rely on the man to make money alone, the sadness of no money in the marriage is transparent and invisible.
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The monthly rent of two people is 1500 yuan, including the child's milk powder diaper money, including the money of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, even if how to save, 3000 yuan is also out of the head.
The man's monthly salary is 3,000 yuan, if he saves a little, the salary is handed over to the woman to take care of, and the two people bite their teeth, although the money is less, there is also a way to have less money.
The problem is that the man does not have the consciousness of handing in money at all, and he feels that the money he has worked so hard to earn is left to the woman to take care of.
He is only willing to take out half of his salary every month, give it to the woman for living expenses, and the remaining 1500 yuan, he has to keep it for himself.
As for the part of more than 1500 yuan per month, the man is not responsible.
He is doing a leisurely job, without any promotion requirements, without the idea of improving learning, and without the consciousness of working overtime to make more money.
He never spent his time on women and children, but instead asked a few fox friends to drink and drink together, fish and fish together, and play games together.
About how to live a life, what kind of education will children receive in the future, and what should be done in case of accidents in life and when money is needed?
When men don't worry at all, he is at ease with his life, women complain that he makes less money, and hope that men will shoulder the responsibilities of the family, but the man is not ashamed to say: "Then you go out to make money, you think the money outside is so easy to earn." ”
The once deep love and honey, in the face of real life, is beyond recognition.
Men accuse women of being too realistic and will only look at everything in front of the money; women complain that men have no ambitions and will only eat and wait for death.
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After 10 years of entanglement and quarrelling for 10 years, the days did not get better and better, and the feelings of the two people became weaker and weaker.
In such a poor marriage, they did not do this to each other, did not make each other better, but consumed each other.
Once a woman thought that love is the most important thing in marriage, in this decade of poor marriage polishing, she really found that can really maintain marriage, stable and long-lasting, love is only the foundation, more importantly money.
Because 90% of the problems in life can be solved by money, money is really too important for life, for marriage.
Some men always feel that women want to make a lot of money because women are too materialistic and worldly, but they are not.
Women hope that after marrying a man, they can provide a better education for their children, they can provide a better life for their children, as long as two people work together, even if they are self-made, they can work hard to achieve the good life they want.
In marriage, what women are afraid of is not men, but temporary poverty; women in marriage, what they are afraid of is not men, but temporarily do not seek progress; even women in marriage, what they are afraid of is not that they will suffer for a while, but that they will suffer for a lifetime.
When a man can't earn money, when a woman can't rely on a man, the man's contribution to the family is equal to 0.
A man who can't earn money, no matter whether he is bad for women, is useless, because when the family needs money, when the children need money, he can't support everything in the family, and the advantages that were originally cute in the eyes of women will all become shortcomings.
This is not a woman's reality, nor is it a woman's material, it is precisely because too many women, who have tasted the pain of no money in marriage, will desperately make money after leaving this marriage.
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However, women should also be clear: if a man is only temporarily poor, temporarily unable to make money, temporarily encountered, career blows and setbacks, please accompany him through this period of time, difficult time.
Such a man is worth your waiting, because he is still working hard for your good life, and he is still working hard for your good life.
His hard work and hard work, life will definitely give back to him a greatest gift, will not let you suffer in vain.
Please women also remember that a good married life is created by two people together, do not put all your hopes on men.
Instead of taking the time to complain that a man can't make money, it's better to improve his earning power and be a woman who can make money.
A good marriage model is not only the male protagonist outside the female protagonist, but also the female protagonist outside the male protagonist, as long as this marriage model is acceptable to the two of you.
Since you don't want to accept a poor marriage, don't want to encounter the pain of no money, whether it is before marriage or after marriage, women must have a career of their own, and they must have the ability and confidence to make money, which is the basic guarantee of your happiness in life.
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