Do you have children after marriage? Are you willing to be a stay-at-home mom after having a baby? On March 22, Lily Jiayuan Group and "Love Story" jointly released the latest survey report on the concept of marriage and love - the "Report on the Concept of Fertility of Unmarried People" (hereinafter referred to as the "Report"), which investigates how non-married people view marriage and childbirth from the aspects of fertility concept, parenting point of view, and cognitive impact.
Get married and have children? Eighty percent of women have to choose for themselves
The "Report" shows that 86% of women who are not married believe that childbearing is a right rather than an obligation, and they can choose to have children or not to have children, accounting for more than 22 percentage points of men.
In the eyes of many people, children are not only the crystallization of love, but also have the symbolic significance of marriage consummation. However, with the change of the concept of marriage and love, more and more women believe that happiness is the key criterion for measuring this marriage. For this reason, only 32% of unmarried women agree with the idea that "marriages with children are perfect".
It is worth noting that for women, childbearing has an important impact on life and work. Due to physiological problems, 82% of non-married men and 77% of non-married women believe that the ideal age for women to have children is before the age of 30. But in the workplace, this age stage is the rising period of career. For independent and career-seeking women, childbearing is bound to give up part of the career and spend energy on children, resulting in many women having to be cautious about fertility. As the report shows, 71% of women set their childbearing time on 1-3 years after marriage, but only 53% of women are willing to have children, and 37% are hesitant.
For hesitant non-marital groups, they put "relative income steadily rising" as the first factor in considering whether to have children, followed by personal energy and personal body. It can be seen that the economic level and personal energy are still important factors for the fertility considerations of the unmarried group.
Refuse "widowhood parenting", 50% of women are not "full-time mothers"
The birth of a child, from pregnancy, pregnancy to childbirth, in the case of feeding, education, care, etc., in addition to the expenditure of economic costs, there is also a lot of energy consumption of both husband and wife. Therefore, women want men to take the initiative to assume a reasonable division of labor. More than 70% of women believe that it is necessary to agree in advance with their partners on the division of labor in raising children; but less than 40% of men who hold the same view, and 30% think it is not necessary.
It can be seen that the concept of "men working, women running the family" still affects many men, who take the initiative to shoulder the burden of making money in the family, and hope that women can focus on the family.
In family parenting, the lack of fatherhood is a very common phenomenon in Chinese families, resulting in "widowed parenting" becoming an important concern for women's childbearing. In particular, the status of women in social development is becoming more and more prominent, the traditional family division of labor model has changed, nearly 50% of unmarried women and 30% of women with a history of marriage, unwilling to give up their jobs for their children, choose to become full-time mothers.
Do not accept unmarried births Ninety percent of non-marital "driving" for protection
Fertility problems affect economic and social development. From family planning, to opening up the second child, encouraging the third child, etc., all represent the process of phased development of the times. Although with the change of marriage and love thinking, people's concept of fertility has gradually become more liberal, but from the survey of the "Report", 60% of unmarried women have clearly stated that they do not accept non-marital birth.
"Fear of birth", "the cost of childbearing and raising is too high", "the pressure of their own life is too great", "the future marriage is uncertain", etc., are important reasons for the low willingness of unmarried people to have children. When they are not ready to give birth, the unmarried people are cautious and will strive to take protective measures in their daily love life, and about 90% of the non-marital groups said that "driving" with lovers will take the initiative to take safety measures.
Xiaoxiang Morning News reporter Li Shu