Most children are more dependent on their mothers when they are young, because everyone's traditional ideological concept is that the male protagonist is outside, the female protagonist is inside, and the mother often pays more effort in the growth process of the child, so both boys and girls like to stay with their mothers.
But if the boy is older, he and his mother are looking forward to being together for a long time, and he does not have his own opinion, it seems less appropriate.
Case
Xiaoling's eldest son is 20 years old this year, and he also made a girlfriend after college, but he still retains the habit of letting Xiaoling go into the bathroom to rub his back when he takes a bath.
When the girlfriend came to the house, she accidentally found out about this matter, thought about it or could not accept it, and finally had to propose to break up. After such a thing happened, Xiaoling realized the seriousness of this and never bathed her son since.
Why do they all say that "children should avoid their mothers"?
It is normal for boys to be willing to be their mother's little tail when they are young, because they do not know the difference between men and women, but when they grow up, the mothers will consciously avoid it.
In fact, after the child grows up, the psychology will naturally have a sense of gender distinction, and the attitude towards the opposite sex will gradually change, and at this time, the attitude and guidance of the parents are particularly important for the child, after all, "the child should avoid the mother" has a great impact on the child in these aspects, and the mother should not pay attention to it.
Therefore, when parents educate their children, they must not only teach them to "avoid their mothers when they are older", but also teach them that "female students should avoid their fathers".
Knowledge Time: Even if Bao Mom loves her son no matter how much, some bottom lines cannot be crossed
1. Avoid parents of the opposite sex from taking their children to bathe together
When the child is very young, parents will take the child to bathe together, this is done, one is afraid that the child will be accidentally burned by the water, and the other is because the child himself will not wash, so that parents will often take the child to wash together, but also pay attention to avoid parents of the opposite sex with their children to bathe.
2. No matter how old your child is, consciously avoid changing clothes
The cultivation of children's gender awareness should start from an early age, after all, children do not have a strong concept of right and wrong, so parents, no matter how old the child is, must consciously avoid when changing clothes.
3. When your child grows up, intimate gestures stop at hugging
When the child is young, it is cute and cute, and when the parents see it, it is inevitable that they will kiss a few mouthfuls, but after the child grows up, the intimate behavior between father and son and mother and daughter should stop at hugging, pay attention to the sense of proportion, and avoid being too intimate.
Knowledge Small Time: Parents' practices will have a great impact on their children in these aspects
1. Help cultivate children's sense of independence
Parents' excessive care for children is easy to make children become porcelain dolls with "no hands and no feet", and it is also easy for children to develop introverted and self-reliant personalities, and appropriate free-range support helps to cultivate children's sense of independence and enhance children's ability to deal with unexpected events.
2. It is conducive to the cultivation of children's gender awareness
Most parents gradually cultivate their children's gender awareness from the age of 4, and when the child reaches the first grade of primary school, they will naturally realize the importance of gender.
3. Let your child feel respected
If you want to cultivate your child's sense of independence, you must make your child feel respected, and when you encounter problems, you can ask more about your child's own opinions, after all, they will need to enter the society to make independent decisions one day.
Warm message: Parents should also have a degree of love for their children, at the right age to let go appropriately, can not let the child live completely under their own wings, difficulties will make people grow, loss is also a blessing, let the child grow up in the stumbling, there are many advantages.