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In the past, when family planning was planned, the first child born in the countryside was a boy who could not regenerate, and if the first child was born to a girl, the second child could be born every 4 years.
So Li Li and Honghong have two girls in the family, and the living conditions at that time were not as good as they are now, so in order to raise two children, my mother not only had to work hard, but also the cost of the family was to be frugal.
Because they are two sisters, they are of similar shape, so every time my mother buys clothes, she buys them according to the height of her sister Lili, because after her sister wears them, she can wear them for her sister.
So Honghong grew up wearing her sister's old clothes, she saw that her sister had new clothes to wear, very envious, she also wanted to wear new clothes, but her mother said that this dress was bought for her sister, too long and too big you can't wear it, you have to wait for two years, you can wear it like your sister so tall!
Later, the two sisters grew up and married, Honghong herself became a mother, on the 2nd day after giving birth to her child, her mother-in-law excitedly brought a bag of hundreds of clothes from her hometown (that is, some clothes worn by the children of relatives and friends) from her hometown, because the children grew fast when they were young, and the clothes they generally bought were worn several times and were relatively new, and the mother-in-law said that she had washed and dried at home and was very clean.
Honghong also knows that there is such a custom in the hometown, the meaning of wearing a hundred clothes when the child is young: the child grows up to be healthier, and the hundred clothes are also washed several times, some of the formaldehyde or dyes left on the clothes have basically been washed, the clothes are relatively soft, and it is also good for newborns, but Honghong sees the mother-in-law rushing to take a hundred clothes, to pack up the hundred clothes to bathe the child, he suddenly broke out, why should my child wear old clothes? Can't my child wear new clothes?
At that time, the mother-in-law was stunned, and quickly put away the hundred family clothes and went to get the new clothes prepared by Honghong before, Honghong also felt that she seemed to be too impulsive, why should she be angry with her mother-in-law? Later she found the answer in the book of controlling emotions, it turned out that she had been envious of her sister's new clothes since she was a child, and when she was a child, she had been wearing her sister's old clothes, which led to her having a desire for new clothes, and now that she had a child, she hoped to give the best things to the child, and did not want the harm on her body to appear again on the child, so the mother-in-law would collapse and get angry when she took the old clothes for her child.
There are many second-child families, the mother will wear the old clothes of the second child in order to be frugal, which looks like there is no problem, there is nothing wrong with it, after all, the two sisters are well, but in fact, it is easy to raise two children.
Generally, we find that parents will be more eccentric in the second-child family, because we think that the sister has grown up, the sister should be sensible, to let the younger brothers and sisters, in fact, there is a kind of reverse eccentricity, that is, to buy new toys, new clothes, new books for the sister, and so on, the sister has used, and the old ones are used for the younger siblings.
The reverse eccentricity of the two-child family is easy to raise two children
The boss feels that as long as it is new and good, it will develop a very domineering personality of the boss
For example, when Li Li was a child, she felt that as long as she bought new clothes at home, new things were mine, because every time I used the old ones to give to my sister, such a child would naturally think that the good things were her own children would become more domineering and did not understand etiquette.
When a child grows up and goes out into society, he still thinks that his boss and his colleagues will give the best to themselves, which is very easy to offend people. It is also difficult to be liked by others in work and study.
The second brother will become more inferior and have a sense of unworthiness
Although the clothes worn by the sister are not broken, there is nothing wrong with wearing the sister, but the sister and the sister's personality is not the same, the color that the sister and the sister like, the style of the clothes is certainly not the same, always take the old clothes of the sister to wear, will make the sister herself have resistance in her heart, because she likes to wear, wear what she does not like, over time the sister will feel that I do not deserve to have good things, I just want to wear other people's old clothes. When these children grow up, they will become more inferior and feel that they do not deserve to have good things, new clothes, and good lives. People who have a sense of unworthiness in their hearts cannot attain happiness.
There are also some people who will have childhood retaliatory compensation, such as when they were young, their parents always wore old clothes for themselves, and when they grew up, they worked and paid wages, and most of their monthly wages were to buy new clothes, and not being able to save money was also a very vicious consumption habit.
Therefore, the mother of the second-child family must pay attention to the fact that the economy in the family is too difficult, and do not ask the younger brothers and sisters to pick up the old clothes and old toys of the older siblings every day, and buy new clothes for both of them.
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