When the child is young, there will be an instinctive dependence on the parents, but as the child grows up, the parents must know how to withdraw at the right time, and cannot let this dependence continue indefinitely, otherwise it will inevitably adversely affect the growth of the child.
Ms. Li is a single mother who divorced her husband when her children were very young and has not remarried since. Although life is very hard, the relationship between mother and son is very good, and the son is also very sensible and hardworking, which makes Ms. Li feel very pleased.
However, there is one thing that makes Ms. Li not know how to be good, because when she divorced her husband, her children were still young, so she always slept with her children. I didn't expect to let the child develop a habit, and now my son has gone to junior high school, but he still has to sleep with her, otherwise he can't sleep.
Because she was afraid of affecting her son's rest and thus affecting her son's study, Ms. Li could only agree. But one night, Ms. Li suddenly found her son washing his underwear alone in the bathroom, and she quickly asked the child what was wrong?
The son was a little embarrassed, but he couldn't say it clearly, only saying that he seemed to be peeing his pants. Ms. Li understood as soon as she heard that her 13-year-old son is currently in puberty, and if he continues to sleep in the same bed as himself, it may lead to precocious puberty.
So she explained her stakes to the child and came out with a small bed on the 2nd day. Fortunately, the son did not object, and soon got used to sleeping alone. Of course, the feelings of mother and son were not estranged because they slept in separate beds, but became better and better, and became friends who talked about everything.
What are the adverse effects of children sleeping in the same bed as their parents all the time?
1. Serious dependence
If children still sleep with their parents in their teens, it is easy to cause them to become more and more dependent on their parents.
At an age when we should have tried to be independent, excessive dependence will naturally affect the growth of children, so that children become a person who has no opinion and is inseparable from their parents everywhere.
2. Cause children to have precocious puberty
Relevant experts said that if children still sleep with parents of the opposite sex after the age of 8, it will cause excessive hormone secretion in their bodies, and there may even be some physiological reactions that do not meet the age, resulting in precocious puberty in children.
3. Affect children's gender cognition
Children should receive early sex education from the age of 3, and at the age of 6, they should have a clear understanding of gender differences. If children are too close to opposite-sex parents, it is easy for them to have gender confusion and may even go down a crooked path in the future.
When is it appropriate for parents to sleep separately with their children?
1, the child has a sense of independence
Many parents take their children to sleep when they are young because the children are young at that time, lack of independent awareness, they do not know how to take better care of themselves, and it is likely that there will be accidents because of the situation of stepping on the quilt or turning over.
But when the child gradually has a sense of independence, parents can appropriately try to sleep in separate beds with the child. Because the child at this time has a certain sense of self-protection, it will not fall because of turning over, and when it is cold, it also knows to cover the quilt, so parents will be more at ease.
2, the child has a gender awareness
Although parents love their children and hope to spend as much time with their children as possible, in the matter of sleeping, if the child has a gender consciousness, then parents still have to sleep with the child in time to avoid affecting the child's gender cognition.
Because children's gender perception is very important for their growth, this is regardless of gender, whether it is boys or girls. Only by establishing a correct gender awareness can we better protect ourselves and not hurt others, otherwise the consequences will be very serious.
In short, parents must be timely about their children's sex education, and they must grasp the measure of getting along with their children, especially after the children enter puberty. Don't think that some things are small, but it is likely to have a subtle impact on the child and inadvertently harm the child.