Li Meijin: Raising girls, keeping these 5 pieces of advice in mind, children can take many detours in the future

Parents with daughters must keep these 5 tips in mind.

October 11 is the International Day of the Girl Child, and in today's world, there are still many girls facing many injustices and dangers, and the education of girls has attracted more and more attention from all walks of life.

As the saying goes: "Raise a son to worry about for a while, raise a daughter to worry about a lifetime", it seems that this is indeed the case, when I was a child, I was afraid that my daughter would be bullied by others, and when I grew up, I was worried that my daughter would not have a good life. The daughter is the little cotton jacket of the parents, and it is also the concern of the parents' life.

Professor Li Meijin, a well-known criminal psychology expert in the mainland, once said in a program:

"Many families are working hard to cultivate girls in the direction of everyone's boudoir. But a beautiful girl, once married to a rogue, has no ability to protect herself at all, because when she was a child, she was educated to be particularly civilized and polite, self-denying. But others are not self-disciplined, others will bully and hurt these beautiful girls. Therefore, parents want to let their children enter the society safely, and they must teach their children two things, the first is how to know people, and the second is how to protect themselves. ”

Professor Li Meijin has talked about the education of girls more than once in the lecture, and each of them has benefited parents a lot, and I hope that parents can remember it.

01

Stick to the principles

Keep the bottom line

Professor Li Meijin once told such a story in a lecture:

An adolescent girl comes home after drinking in the early hours of the morning.

A few days later, her father asked her out for a drink: "Try to drink, get drunk, and Daddy will take you home." That night, the girl fell drunk on the bar.

The next day, as soon as she woke up, she saw a letter from her father: "Do you remember how many drunks you drank last night?" There are two beers and five corners of high, and remember, that's your limit. There are a lot of bad people in the world, I can't always be around to protect you, so let you know your limits, you must learn to protect yourself.

This story tells us that the best protection for a daughter is bottom-line education.

As a girl who wants to get more respect, then you must adhere to the principle, keep the bottom line, and know that the principle and the bottom line are the most important self-protection tools for girls.

Take the child's early love, girls who understand the principles and bottom line do not have to worry about their parents at all, because even if they meet themselves in the like of boys, they will not give up their principles and bottom lines, and they will go home at night, and they will also wear their clothes tightly.

For such a principled girl, boys will generally show respect and cherish such girls more in later life, on the contrary, those girls who have no bottom line and principles are not only not respected, but also have a very high probability of breaking up after being together.

As a parent, we must pay attention to the principle of bottom-line education and cultivating children when the daughter is young, so that it is the best protection for her.

02

Even girls have to be rewarded and punished

Don't over-enrich

In the past two years, the most popular way of parenting in the mainland is: "poor children, rich women", but almost all parents have misunderstood the meaning of this sentence, the so-called poor children are to cultivate the ambition of boys, and rich women are the spirit of rich daughters, not pure material wealth.

Excessive enrichment will lead to excessive arrogance of the daughter, affect the daughter's values, and even lead to the formation of a "princess disease" in the daughter, making it difficult for the daughter to adapt to the normal relationship between men and women. Professor Li Meijin once found that those children who did not have a princess's life, but were princesses, would hardly be too happy when they grew up.

Punishing children is to play a certain deterrent role, so that children understand that everything has a bottom line.

Of course, if the girl does a good job, don't skimp on the reward. Encouragement will make girls yearn for a better future.

03

Give the girl enough paternal love

Professor Li Meijin said:

In gender-deficient families, children are more likely to fall in love early.

For example, boys without mothers, and girls without fathers, the probability of early love is very large.

The father is the first male that the girl comes into contact with in her life, which largely determines the girl's view of marriage and mate selection.

If you look closely, you'll see:

Most of the girls' mate selection criteria will be very similar to those of their fathers.

If the father's image is gentle and respectful of women, girls will follow this standard when looking for a boyfriend.

And the better the father, the higher the girl's vision, and the less likely it is to fall in love early.

Therefore, spend as much time as possible with your daughter and talk about gender and mate selection.

04

Parent-child relationship

Since ancient times, girls love beauty can be said to be natural, so many mothers will also dress their daughters beautifully every day after having a daughter, but Professor Li Meijin said that try not to dress girls too beautifully, why say so?

In fact, in the stage of children's schooling, it is very normal to dress up cleanly, but if the dress is too exquisite, it is a bit of an inversion, because if the child puts too much energy on appearance, it is easy to lead to poor learning, especially for those girls who have entered adolescence.

Many girls love beauty when they are older, they don't listen to classes well, and they all love to look in the mirror, which not only affects learning, but also easily attracts the attention of criminals, so parents try not to dress their daughters too beautifully.

05

Be sure to conduct sex education

Although today's society has become very open, but in this aspect of sex education there are still many unspeakable secrets, many parents are talking about sexual discoloration, always feel that children are still too small, grow up to understand, but Li Meijin said, you think the child is small, but the criminals will not, the mainland every year sexual assault of children is not a minority.

To know that the best period of sex education is when the child has just had gender awareness, for example, the child said to you: Mom, I also want to stand and pee, then this time sex education must be urgent.

As a small cotton jacket for parents, when she warms us, we must also protect her, and parents with daughters must remember these 5 pieces of advice.

May every girl be treated with tenderness

Allow them a better future

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