Han Han is 3 years old, she feels that she understands more and more things, but there is one thing she can't understand, she has asked many children in the kindergarten, but everyone's answer is different.
"Where did you come from?" Han Han asked Xiaomei.
"My mother said, like an orange, I was plucked from a tree." Xiaomei said.
"Where did you come from?" Han Han asked Niu Niu.
"My mom said I picked it up from the park." The cow replied again.
There are many different answers.
"My grandmother said I was fished out of the river."
"My grandmother said that I jumped out of the stone, like Sun Wukong."
"My dad said, 'I'm an alien, flying down from the sky.'"
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Han Han was even more unsure, where did he come from? She decided to ask her mother for clarification.
In the face of children's questions, parents should be honest with each other.
"Where did I come from?" I believe that many parents have been asked this question by their children, and how to answer this question is actually a test of the parenting level of parents to a certain extent.
Some parents were very perfunctory, casually telling their children that he was "plucked from under the tree" and "fished out of the river", and sent the children away.
Some parents do not know how to answer their children for a while, so they find a topic to divert their children's attention and let the children no longer ask questions.
Some parents attach great importance to this problem, thinking that this question can just be a sex education for their children, so they will explain it to their children from a scientific point of view.
It can be said that the different answers of parents affect the child's cognitive level to a certain extent.
Parents are advised to answer their children's questions frankly.
Admittedly, most Chinese parents are more traditional and reserved, and they will be a little embarrassed when answering this question, so most of them have passed it in one go, and the children are still ambiguous and do not understand how they came to be.
So children who are "misled" by their parents, such as those who are told that they were picked up from the park, begin to be less intimate with their parents and feel that they should stay in the park, which is his home.
How do I answer "Where did I come from"?
Nowadays, with the rapid development of science and technology, the source channels of information are no longer limited to traditional media such as television, newspapers and books, and there are still many channels for children to obtain what information.
On one side are parents who speak ambiguously, and on the other side is the extremely informative Internet, which attracts children to find answers on their own.
The information on the Internet is disorganized, and children who go to find answers on their own are likely to be confused by false information. Therefore, parents should not take the initiative to properly explain life, heredity, and sex education to their children.
Some parents will worry that if they tell their children about this knowledge, will they understand it? The book Behavioral Psychology of Children states that
It is entirely possible to instruct children in kindergarten and lower primary schools to enrich their concepts of heredity and reproduction in life. This will not only promote the development of scientific and biological concepts in preschool children, but also lay an important foundation for their future biological learning.
So, when the child asks "where did I come from", the parents should not care about him, but tell the child generously.
Han Han's mother told her child this.
"Mom, where did I come from?" Han Han asked.
"You were born out of your mother's belly." Mom pointed to her stomach and said.
"It's amazing, I was born out of my mother's belly. But I'm so big, can your stomach fit? Han Han was both happy and puzzled.
Mom patiently explained that when she was first born, she was very small, less than six pounds, and then she grew up little by little.
Han Han remembered that her parents took a lot of photos of her, recording her growth from childhood to adulthood, and indeed as her mother said, she grew up slowly.
But how did I get into your belly? Han Han asked again.
Mom pointed to her stomach and said there was a scar there, and the doctor took her out of there with an opening.
"That would hurt, wouldn't it?" Han Han was distressed by his mother.
Mom put her arms around Han Han and said that although it hurt a little, she also brought them a lot of happiness, and the pain could be endured.
"When everyone is born, do they have to cut a knife in their mother's stomach?" Han Han's small head was filled with big questions.
"No, some babies come out of a passage under their mother's stomach when they are born, but it hurts a lot." Mom said.
Han Han finally knew where she came from, not from the outside, nor from the tree, but from her mother's belly, and she was very happy to be so close to her mother.
Han Han grew up a little longer, about five years old, and she had doubts again.
"Mom, how did I get out of your belly?"
Mom thought about it and gave her an analogy, saying that she was like a little seed, growing up little by little from her mother's belly.
"Dad has a lot of seeds in his body, and he planted the fastest seed in his mother's body, and combined with one of the seeds in his mother's body, he became you." Mom is like taking care of a seed, watering and fertilizing it, delivering nutrients to you, and you grow up and give birth to it from your mother's belly. Mom said.
Mom also told Han Han that there are many seeds for his father, and she is the fastest of them and is the champion, which makes Han Han feel very proud.
"How did Daddy's seed get into your body?" Han Han asked again.
Mom thought about it and said, "Daddy's seed is in his genital organs, Mom's seed is in Mom's genital organ, and when they meet together, Daddy's seed is planted in Mom's body." Mom said with a smile.
At this point, Han Han finally understood.
However, her mother solemnly told her that this matter was a little secret between her and Han Han and could not tell other children. Han Han agreed.
Han Han's mother's answer not only satisfies the child's curiosity, but also simply gives the child science science and sex education, and her answer is worth learning.
Write at the end
"Where did I come from?"
When children around the age of 3 ask, mostly out of curiosity, parents can simply tell them, "You were born to your mother", and they will be satisfied.
When a child around 5 years old asks, parents have to explain it well, you can refer to the above han mother's answer.
In short, when parents answer their children's questions, do not ignore the children, do not use "picked up on the side of the road" to prevaricate the children, and explain them to the children scientifically and reasonably according to the specific situation of the children.
Because, to some extent, the parents' answers affect the child's cognitive level.