Puberty is an unavoidable stage for every child, and they are in puberty, not only have very large emotional fluctuations, but also pay attention to the opposite sex, and are also in a highly sensitive state.
Nowadays, many parents sigh that most of their children are in a state of precocious puberty, and even in kindergarten, they think of themselves as boyfriends and girlfriends.
Although it is a child's move, it also has to attract the attention of parents.
As openness and inclusiveness increase, the probability of this happening is very frequent.
According to relevant data surveys, in today's middle school age, 23% of students have the experience of early love.
Presumably, after seeing such a huge number, it will also make many parents fall into a state of panic.
It is necessary to know that early love will not only affect students' grades, but also make them go astray, and even their lives will be ruined.
This is also the reason why when it comes to the situation related to early love, parents often cannot maintain calm emotions.
In fact, adolescent students fall into a state of early love, most of them are affected by the following reasons, and have an inseparable relationship with their families and parents.
【Reasons for early love in adolescent children】
1. Caused by curiosity
Most children who fall in love early in adolescence, in fact, do not understand the love and affection of the adult world.
Most children, just because of strong curiosity.
Curiosity about the opposite sex has led them to the threshold of early love and crush.
After entering puberty, whether it is a boy or a girl, the body will have secondary development.
If you do not receive formal sex education at this stage, you are likely to fall into a state of confusion, so you enter the queue of early love.
2. Emotional needs
Children living in single-parent families or with a discordant family atmosphere are traumatized inside.
They have a great deal of hostility toward feelings and are extremely distrustful of them.
After entering puberty, once the opposite sex shows a certain characteristic, it is what they are longing for, and it will also make them fall into the ranks of early love.
The reason why they fall into the camp of early love is because there is emotional need, from small to large, the lack of feelings, all of which erupt in adolescence.
3. Affected by the environment
The reason why adolescent children fall into the camp of early love is, to some extent, also affected by the external environment.
Nowadays, most children are very precocious, although they do not know what love is, but all kinds of information from the Internet and life are coming.
It is this state that makes them enter the environment of early love, in the final analysis, there are children's own reasons, but the external environment can not be ignored.
[In the face of adolescent children, we should pay more attention to these points]
1. Necessary sex education
For every adolescent child, parents must pay attention to the development of sex education.
Most Chinese parents are relatively closed, especially on sexual issues, and are completely in a state of avoidance, because the education parents received as children is like this.
In the face of the new generation, parents must pay attention to sex education.
Only in this way can they maintain a more stable state of sexuality, avoid making them make the wrong choice because of curiosity, and enter the queue of early love in advance.
2. The setting of life goals
In the face of adolescent children, what they hate most is the long talk of their parents and the daily chatter.
Therefore, parents should reach a consensus with their children as early as possible to find a goal for their children to work hard in the future.
Only in this way can they resist the adverse influence of the external environment and constantly launch a charge towards the established goals.
3. Listen to your child's ideas
In the face of adolescent children, the attitude of parents is very critical, as a parent, we must listen to as much as possible in the child's inner thoughts and wishes.
As long as parents are willing to communicate with their children, the emotional deficit and inner gap will gradually be filled, so as to avoid them from focusing on the opposite sex during adolescence.
In the face of adolescent children, in addition to more companionship, we must give a certain amount of respect, which is also an important point that cannot be ignored.
When children's ideas and personality space are respected, they will also be more integrated into the atmosphere of the family and avoid entering the queue of early love.
【Author's Message】
Garfylau once said that the three conditions for studying are: more observation, more hardship, and more research.
Adolescent children have unlimited creativity, but there are also many hidden contradictions in them, and a little carelessness may enter the fork in the road of life.
Whether adolescent children can grow up healthier and devote more attention to learning.
And parents' daily education methods are inextricably linked, in the face of adolescent children, especially for children with early love, the attitude of parents is very critical, the above principles must be kept in mind, only in this way, can children grow more healthily.
Today's topic sharing: Do you think: In the process of adolescent children's education, in addition to the problem of early love, what issues should be paid attention to? Feel free to share your parenting experience below.