Under the pressure of the college entrance examination, many parents are more anxious.
If a child is rebellious or her academic performance is declining, parents may be so overwhelmed that they can't sleep all night. If you encounter a child who has an early love tendency or has been confirmed to be in early love, it is even more difficult for parents to calm their inner anger and anxiety.
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Recently, there have been several screenshots circulating on the Internet about the mother and girl's WeChat long preaching after the early love of the high school son. Its content is -
Girl: "Hello, who are you?" ”
Boy Mom:
"Hello, baby."
"I'm Mingze's mother."
"Auntie plus your WeChat has no other meaning, this time Auntie has considered for a long time, and made up her mind to talk to you."
"Your feelings, as parents, do not agree with early love, after all, you two are still too young." At present, the main learning task of both of you is to study and work hard for a better future life. My aunt has also been mentioning this matter to Mingze, but he promised me that I would have a good relationship with you without delaying my studies. ”
"Auntie has also been young, and has experienced it from your age, and understands your hazy feelings of adolescence. So auntie to say this, but also to make a few suggestions for you two, but also to decide! ”
"First, since you two have the confidence to fall in love without delaying your studies, you must keep your promise. It's almost time for the monthly exam, and that's when it's time to see the difference. If Mingze's academic performance declines, the aunt will have to take measures, and Mingze himself knows what measures are. ”
"Second, since you two have the confidence to go on, encourage each other to learn, do not always stay in love, love and love, and hide your feelings in your heart." Boy! You still have two years to go, say that it is not long, it will pass in a flash, don't waste your studies, youth and youth! Baby who will regret it when the time comes! ”
"Third, listen to Mingze say that you are an art genius, very promising, then it is all the more important to get the culture class up, you also encourage Mingze to constantly improve themselves in learning, only if you two make progress at the same time, you will have a guarantee in the future."
"Fourth, Auntie would like to make a request to you, you two don't stay up late at night to chat." Mingze he can't stay up late, even if he stays up late, he hopes that he can seize this time to review the content of the day's study and complete the homework. ”
"In short, auntie and you have said so much is nothing more than not to delay your studies because of love and miss your future."
"Actually, Auntie has seen your picture, you are a lovely child, Auntie likes you a lot." When the holidays are over, Mingze will lead you to your aunt's house as a guest. ”
"Baby, Auntie hopes you two don't disappoint me and study hard." Academic success, you two still want to do things. ”
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From the chat records, we found that the boy's mother talked a lot, while the girl was silent and did not respond. After the screenshot was posted online, it caused a heated discussion among netizens.
Some said: "I am also an adolescent boy in the family, I will only teach my children how to protect and respect each other in the early love stage, and will never impulsively teach girls how to do things." Some said: "As a parent of a boy, why don't you take care of your son?" Why educate other people's children? ”
Some people said, "If I were the boy's mother, I would educate my own children first, and other people's children would not be able to take my turn to educate." Some said: "If there is a mother who adds my daughter's WeChat and she says so, I will let her block." Although the wording is very good and the words are correct, but it sounds a little awkward, let's take care of our own sons first. Some said, "Although there is not a word of reproach, if I were that girl, I would break up immediately." ”
After learning of their son's early love, many parents hope to save their children from water and fire, on the one hand, they do not want their sons to be hurt in their youthful feelings, and on the other hand, they do not want their children's academic performance to be affected in the slightest. So, is it really wise to be extremely dissatisfied with the child's early love, but pretend that the emotional intelligence is very high, and find the girl's contact information for private chat? In fact, this kind of self-made smart intervention of parents is the biggest taboo.
After the child enters puberty, he gradually develops a good feeling for the opposite sex, which is a very normal thing. Many parents are habitually too nervous, and they treat love as a flood beast, and some even feel that their son's early love is confused by what girls do.
First of all, the early love of adolescent children, even without the intervention of parents, can only end in a breakup. Because children are too young to know how to maintain this relationship, a little conflict may make each other parting ways.
Secondly, adolescent children have a rebellious energy, and the more parents do not allow things, the more children feel stimulated. The more the feelings that are not favored by their parents, the more children want to prove to their parents with their own persistence.
Finally, instead of standing against the child because of early love, it is better to change your thinking and stand on the same side with the child. For example: guiding a son, liking a girl Is a normal emotion for everyone entering puberty. But we should not break this harmony at this stage, all we need is to study hard, keep improving, and do our best to make ourselves as good as each other, so that we will be with her for a long time in the future.
If parents are willing to guide in this way, not only will it not affect the child's academic performance, but also make the child work harder and harder, and the sublimation of the parent-child relationship is also beneficial and harmless.
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After reading these chat screenshots, some netizens said this:
"My son is a freshman in high school, and I told my son that it is okay to fall in love, but as a man, you must be responsible for the person you love, and you must know how to protect girls. You can delay yourself, but don't delay others! Love a person to plan for the long term, don't be a few years later, people recall this first love, the heart is full of hatred. ”
Some netizens also shared their real experiences:
"My son is a freshman in high school and has admired a girl since his third year of junior high school. The girl studied well, and then I told my son not to express this love, so that he could become as good as the girl, enough to match her. Then my son listened to me and was admitted to the ideal high school with the girl.
After going to high school, his son took the initiative to say that he would wait until the end of the college entrance examination to confess to the girl. I said yes, you should work hard for these three years. Then some time ago the girl gave my son a conversation, let my son study hard in the future, anyway, I said what I wanted to say to my son. The next day my son got up at 6:30 to study, and I was thankful for the little girl.
Later, when the class was divided, the girl fell from the experimental class, a little lost, and I enlightened in the name of my son. I told my son that no matter what happens in the future, we must cherish this good friend, because only by treating you as a friend, she will point out your problems to you without reservation, because she wants you to be good. ”
Netizen "Hua Xi Yu Gui Tian" said:
"I will tell my son that if you can maintain your best grades, then I will feel that this love is positive, and it is not bad to have a positive love." If your grades go down, then I would feel like you're not a good fit for a relationship. We are all people who come here and know how much magic love is, it can make you super god, it can also make you a demon. ”
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Life is full of learning, for the son's early love, how do you deal with it as a person who has come over? Welcome to discuss with Xi Xi's mother.