Early love is a well-known term, many adolescent children will have this experience, however, early love this kind of behavior for students, harmless, not only on the learning will have a great impact, the consequences are serious, it is likely to be ruined in a lifetime.
In order to prevent adolescent children from falling in love early, parents and teachers also try to organize by all means, in order to avoid too closeness between male and female students, and even made reflective strips on the school uniform, but the effect is indeed minimal, for which many parents are also deeply distressed.
I have been working as a teacher for many years, and I have been wrestling with students in the aspect of early love, and summarized some experiences, and found some items that can see if students have early love behavior.
Adolescent children are more rebellious personality, in terms of emotions are not very understanding, perhaps curiosity and the influence of external factors, will let children have early love behavior, as we all know, children at this stage, personality is debauched, meet their favorite people, like to show off and friends to share, hope that everyone knows. At the same time, some objects will be used to prove the feelings between the two people.
After a long period of observation, young children have no economic base, it is impossible to buy some more expensive items, and parents are not allowed, so they will choose some more common accessories, such as couple backpacks, couple key chains, etc.
In addition, many boys will take the small jewelry given by the favorite girl to show off that they have a "girlfriend" through the circle of friends, thus attracting the attention and envy of others.
Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their children in normal times, whether they wear these items on their bodies, to find out whether the children have early love behavior.
If the child has early love behavior, how can parents correctly solve it? Most parents find that children have early love behavior, will be educated through the way of reprimand, in fact, this behavior is not advisable, adolescent children have their thoughts, violence alone is difficult to solve the problem, and even let the child go to the extreme, and eventually cause an irreparable situation.
So, today we will talk about how to prevent and solve the different problems encountered by adolescent children:
First, leave a message for the child through letters
Do not think that the child is in the adolescent stage some problems are difficult to talk about, when the child because of curiosity and cause a catastrophe even regret is useless, if the parents feel that it is very embarrassing to discuss these issues with the child in person, parents can leave a message to the child through the way of letters, so that the child understands the stakes and lets the child avoid making mistakes.
Second, tell the child about the seriousness of early love
Many parents find that their children have early love behavior, and now a sermon or beating, in fact, it is not necessary, parents can calm down and communicate with their children well, tell their children about the serious consequences caused by early love, only the correct guidance and communication will establish a healthy psychology for their children.
Third, you can let your child read more books about adolescence
Adolescent children, always have their own little secrets, do not want parents to know, but when they face these problems, the heart is very nervous, do not know how to deal with, then parents can give their children some books related to adolescence, through reading to guide children.
How to choose books is also a science, first of all, to be concise and concise, and secondly to confirm that the concepts inside are correct, after a long period of observation, this set of "Mother's Book for Adolescent Daughter/Son" is very suitable.
The book uses easy-to-understand words to explain the various problems encountered by adolescent children, and clearly tells children what things cannot be done, rather than warning children in the form of the above outline, so that children gradually lose patience when reading.
The book is very convinced of the psychological and physical changes of adolescent children, and gently tells children the causes and treatment methods of physiological changes, giving children an invisible care, rather than cold sentences, so that children can learn more about puberty.
Adolescent children's psychology is very fragile, personality is also more rebellious, they have their own ideas and cognition, so in life, parents should pay more attention to adolescent children, even if the child makes mistakes, do not educate through scolding, so that the child's heart will be more isolated, want to correctly guide the education of children, you can let the child read some books in this area, to deeply recognize themselves, so as to better help children solve problems, so that children's hearts are full of sunshine.