Speaking of today's elementary school students, some of them are really precocious, and they know a lot of things that we didn't know when we were kids. For example, like boyfriend and girlfriend, makeup, love, marriage... Wait, I don't know where they learned it. So like the little love letters that we only write when we are young in junior high school, some fifth- and sixth-grade elementary school students can already write as if they have entered puberty.
But adolescent boys and girls, do they really understand what is love, what is marriage, and what is responsibility? It is precisely because they do not understand these things that the crush or romantic relationship that occurs between them will be called early love.
The early love of adolescent boys and girls is immature and irrational, and some even affect their own learning and growth, so many teachers and parents will be wary of children's early love, as long as they find signs of early love, they will ruthlessly nip their early love behavior in the bud.
But without any reason to stifle, can it really correct the children's early love behavior and block the children's early love signs? The answer to this question is already in everyone's heart! So if this is the case, as a parent, how to give children a good "lesson about early love"?
Regarding the education of children's early love, Xiaomeng is very much in favor of a father's approach, and now shares this method with everyone, hoping to help everyone.
When the father's son was in the fifth grade of elementary school, his mother found that his pants pocket contained many small notes that were folded into various shapes. Most of these small notes are "love letters" written to him by girls in the same class or grade. The content is nothing more than, "I like how cool you look!" "I like you!" "When you talk to XXX, I feel so bad!" Wait a minute.
Sensing the "seriousness" of the matter, the child's mother hurriedly woke up the father and told him about the little note and his worries. But unexpectedly, the father did not take his mother's worries seriously, and asked her to quickly put the small note back intact, not letting his son know that they had seen the note.
On that day, the father invited his son to exercise (and used to go often). When exercising, the father asked his son, "What kind of treasure are you holding in your pants pocket?" Looking heavy, if you don't want us to see it, find a place to hide, don't pretend to be on your body. Sure enough, the next day those little notes disappeared from my son's trouser pocket.
Later, during a time when both father and son were relaxed, the father told his son a story of his own. The story goes: He fell in love with a girl when he was very young, but he didn't fall in love with that girl until after he was in college. The son asked his father why, and the father told his son that because he felt that he was not capable and qualified to fall in love at that time, he did not know what he would do in the future, nor did he know whether he could support the person he liked. Later, I was admitted to college, knew what I could do in the future, and felt that I could be responsible for the girl I liked, so I began to fall in love and eventually married the girl.
When the son was thinking after listening to his father's words, the father asked the son at the right time, "Do you think I am happy with your mother?" ”
It can be seen that in the process of educating his son, this father did not mention those small notes from beginning to end, but gave his son the best education. His actions not only cared for his son's young heart, maintained his son's dignity, taught him how to deal with those small notes, but also taught his son to be responsible for feelings. This may be the wisdom of education!
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