For many parents, children are the gift of their own destiny, and they are very cautious in the process of raising children, for fear of not taking good care of their babies because of their own negligence.
In order to be able to let their children have a better growth environment, many parents have good care for their children, almost clothes to reach out, food to open their mouths, which leads to some seven or eight-year-old babies will not be able to dress and eat by themselves.
In addition, many parents feel that in the face of family affection, there is no need to take into account gender issues, mother and son, father and daughter can be intimate, is a special existence.
Xiao Zhang believes that his son is the flesh and bones that fell from his body, and there is no need to avoid gender issues in front of his son. Xiao Zhang's son is now nine years old, but he still dares not sleep on his own, and when he sleeps, he will put his arms around his mother, and if he sees any intimate movements between his father and mother, Xiao Zhang's son will also be very angry.
Slowly, Xiao Zhang realized that there might be a problem in the relationship between himself and his son. When she asked the relevant experts, Xiao Zhang regretted it and found that she had done it wrong at the beginning.
When her son was one year old, people around her advised her to sleep in separate beds with her son. However, Xiao Zhang found that her son was particularly afraid of the dark, only by holding himself could he sleep peacefully, as a mother, Xiao Zhang was very distressed, on the one hand, she wanted to take better care of her son, on the other hand, she felt that there was no need to care about these things between mother and son, so this sleep was seven or eight years. Because he has not slept in a separate bed with his son, he becomes more and more dependent on his mother in the morning and lacks the ability to live independently.
In addition, because he often slept in a room, Xiao Zhang himself did not carry his son on his back when changing clothes. Then in the process of growing up, gender awareness sprouted, and the parents' questioning practices were extremely detrimental to the child's physical and mental health development.
Therefore, Xiao Zhang's son's view that he does not need to avoid his mother is problematic. When your son is older, you need to avoid your mother, even if you feel sorry for your son, as a mother, you must avoid the following three "thunder pools".
: Sleep in separate beds as early as possible
Before the baby is one year old, he is not familiar with the things around him, extremely insecure, and sleeping next to his mother can make the baby grow better. However, after the age of one, it is necessary to consider sleeping in separate beds, one is to cultivate the child's ability to live independently, and the other is to avoid the formation of an incorrect gender view. At the beginning of the bed, the baby may cry because it is not used to it, etc., as a mother do not be soft-hearted, you can choose to accompany the baby's side to tell stories to coax sleep, but can not sleep in the same bed.
: Avoid going to the toilet to change clothes, etc
In the process of growing up, the baby's gender consciousness gradually sprouts, and curiosity about the different structures of the male and female bodies is very normal. After all, mothers and sons are of different genders, so they should avoid as much as possible when going to the toilet and changing clothes, which can help the baby develop a sense of protecting their privacy. Of course, if the baby is curious about similar things, you can give the child a proper science popularization to let the baby understand that these are very normal things.
: Do not bathe with children
Especially in many large bathhouses in the north, many mothers will choose to take their sons to the bathhouse with them. In fact, this kind of behavior is not right, which may cause precocious puberty and other manifestations, which is not conducive to the establishment of a good mother-child relationship. As her son gets older, it's best for a mother not to take her son with her in the shower. For the baby boy to bathe, you can let the child's father help, or teach the child to learn to bathe independently from an early age.
In short, although the emotions between mother and child are special, they still have to learn to avoid their mothers, and when mother and child get along, hugging and other behaviors are very normal, but remember to grasp the scale and help children develop a correct gender awareness.
Do you think it is necessary for sons to avoid their mothers when they grow up?