It is said that daughters are the intimate little cotton jackets of parents, and sons are their armor, which shows the importance of children to parents, and it is enough to see the bonding and maintenance role of children in the emotional relationship between parents.
However, recently there is a saying that "children avoid mothers, and women do not avoid fathers", so what is the reason for such a statement?
Reasons for avoiding motherhood:
1. Guide your son to establish a correct gender awareness and prevent precocious puberty
Children will have a general understanding of gender around the age of three, and will also be curious about the differences in posture between men and women, at this time, cultivate boys' independent living ability, and gradually get rid of dependence on their mothers.
Guiding boys to get along with their fathers will make them gradually clear their gender awareness, knowing that they are a man, a gender different from their mothers, and their physical characteristics are the same as those of their fathers, and women like their mothers are different.
As a result, boys will have a clear gender distinction, and will not be curious about the difference in physical posture between men and women into a precocious deformity.
Allowing boys to leave their mothers as soon as possible is to cultivate their independent personality, but also to establish healthy and correct psychological values and lay the foundation for future growth.
2. Help boys develop a perfect personality and qualities
In today's society, the number of "ma bao men" is increasing, and all boys who are supported by their mother's opinions listen to their mothers' words excessively and without opinion.
In society, this category of people is spurned by society. And this type of mother treasure man is precisely because he does not avoid the protection of his mother in time, he cannot become an independent personality.
In the process of growing up boys, mothers cannot interfere too much in their lives, and proper withdrawal is the most correct way to do for their sons.
Encourage sons to be independent and not dependent on their mothers, so that they can establish a perfect personality, become strong and courageous, become a boy who stands tall in the sky, and exercise responsibility and responsibility.
3. Cultivate your son's social practice ability
If there is always the protection of the mother, everything is taken care of, the son will not understand the true meaning brought about by social practice, and there will be no courage in their world to go forward and fight bravely.
Mother decisively let go, let the boys go on their own, they will experience different lives, through setbacks and obstacles, in order to continuously break through themselves, cultivate the ability of life, become useful to society.
Reasons why the female eldest does not avoid her father:
1. Create a sense of security for your daughter
Daughters are often fragile at heart and sensitive in their hearts. They have a strong sense of uneasiness in their hearts.
Long-term uneasiness and sensitivity will make girls have an anxiety, if this anxiety can not be well alleviated and eliminated, girls will become more depressed, which is a great burden on their psychology.
Therefore, the family should give the sensitive daughters more security, let them be solid inside, and let down their guard.
In the family, the role of the father is equivalent to a big mountain, giving the daughter a sense of solidity, the father's kindness and majesty is the daughter's safe harbor, and encountering grievances to find the father will make the soul feel comforted.
2. Cultivate your daughter's cheerful character
The image of the father will have a great influence on the daughter's values and outlook on life. The daughter communicates more with the father, and the father's behavior is more rational and better at listening, which will make the daughter express herself freely.
Such catharsis can cultivate a daughter's cheerful and outgoing personality, and a girl who is more cheerful in society will have a broader space for development.
3. Enlightenment and navigation for the life of the daughter
The father is like a sail, always leading his daughter forward, and can use his own life experience to guide his daughter to take fewer detours.
You can also use your own experience and work experience to help your daughter analyze the problems encountered in life and work, and become the person they seek help and rely on, so that the daughter does not avoid her father, and the long road of life will go more smoothly.
When children grow up, how can parents reasonably avoid suspicion?
1. Don't interfere too much, proper guidance
Parents must give their children plenty of space, encourage them to explore and break through on their own, only need to give positive and correct guidance on their outlook on life and values, and do not let them go to extremes and get lost.
But please also believe in the child's ability to encourage and support their every decision, every action, as for the specific implementation, choose to avoid suspicion and return it to the child himself.
2. Boys and girls are treated differently, so that children understand gender differences
The child avoids the mother, and the female does not avoid the father, which is to let the children have a clear distinction between gender consciousness from an early age, and to clarify what should be done as a man and a girl.
Only when children truly understand the meaning of male and female genders can they establish a healthy outlook on life and embark on the right path of life.
This is the reason why "children avoid mothers, women do not avoid fathers", in general, it is still for the children's good future, do you all agree?