Text/Little Snow Mom
We have a younger female colleague in our company, who has just graduated from college, and there is a brother in the fifth grade at home, and the brother of the colleague is almost twelve or thirteen years old, but he still sleeps with his parents at night, or with his sister.
When I listened to my colleagues, I was very surprised, when the normal child went to elementary school, he slept in a separate bed and room, even if he was a little older, he did not say that he would sleep with his mother every day in the fifth grade, after all, the age was not small.
Considering that the child is about to enter puberty in less than two years, and also sleeps with his mother and sister, this is not very good for the child's growth, in addition to saying that it is easy to develop a dependence psychology, there is also the problem of "inappropriate".
After all, now the Internet is so developed, children play mobile phones are also more "precocious", between mothers and sons, there are some behaviors to avoid when they should avoid it, do not think that the child is still small, it does not matter, in fact, the child is already very large.
We often say that "children avoid mothers, women avoid fathers" are all reasonable, children reach a certain age, parents do some things to know how to avoid suspicion, this is for the child to grow well.
"Children avoid mother" is inevitable, the following 3 minefield mothers do not step on
First, pay attention to the image in front of the child, do not be too exposed and too casual
The son can be said to have been raised by his mother, and when he was young, his mother took a bath with him, and even went to the bathhouse with his mother. In the mother's world, the child grows quite slowly, or the child in his own eyes. But now the child is not small, he began to have a gender consciousness, need a certain degree of privacy and respect for privacy awareness.
When at home, the mother pays attention to changing clothes, closing the door when going to the toilet, and not walking around in front of the child in only underwear, or wearing pajamas, or ordinary house clothes.
Because if the mother does not pay enough attention to this issue, it will indirectly blur the child's attention to the "gender issue", and some not-so-good situations may occur later. For example, children mistakenly express their liking for female classmates, and there is a problem of "precocious puberty", and then make up for it at that time, and time may not keep up.
Second, the son changes clothes and goes to the toilet, and the mother must also avoid suspicion
Not only the mother should pay attention to changing clothes, but also the mother should pay attention when the son changes clothes and takes a bath. Some mothers may notice their own problems, but when their sons change clothes and take a bath, the mother still naturally pushes open the door and even says that it is not appropriate to give the child a bath.
Just like there are many women who can't understand that their objects are in their twenties, when they take a bath, they also let their mothers help them scrub the bath. And this is the early stage of the mother's lack of attention to this problem, resulting in children feel that it does not matter, are a family is not embarrassed.
In fact, this is a kind of destruction of the child's privacy, after the child is older, slowly will have their own privacy and small secrets, parents should pay attention to avoidance, such as entering the child's house door, remember to shoot the door or reminder, give the child a certain space and privacy.
Third, after the child is older, some intimate behaviors should be paid attention to
I remember a friend complained to me before, saying that after his son went to the first year of junior high school, one night after dinner, he went out for a walk with his son, he took the initiative to hold his son's arm, and was avoided by his son, which made her feel very lost, felt that her son had grown up, and suddenly he was not close to himself when he was a child.
In fact, this is a very normal phenomenon, the child has entered puberty, he began to pay attention to some behaviors that are inappropriate, and in his heart he began to feel that he was a small adult, and the previous kind of intimate contact, the child felt some embarrassment and some were too childish.
After the child enters puberty, some of the mother's too intimate behaviors should not be had, such as kissing is not appropriate, this stage is more suitable for hugging, the child is more acceptable.
Children are growing and changing day by day, we parents should also follow the growth and change of children, to constantly adjust their own education methods and attitudes, can no longer take the original vision to look at children, so that we can grow up with children, communicate with children at any time, and become good friends and good parents on the road of children's growth.
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