We all understand the principle of "women avoid their fathers, men avoid their mothers", but in real life, some parents regard this sentence as an empty word.
Some time ago, I saw a daily life shared by a mother on the Internet, this mother is a single mother, with a 13-year-old son living with her.
When the mother was in the shower, she did not shy away from letting her son rub her back, and shared this matter on the Internet as a daily routine like eating and drinking water.
For the trivial matters shared by this mother, many netizens believe that the three views have been hit and have left comments.
"You're ruining the child, you know";
"The child is 13 years old, don't think of him as a child anymore";
"The world is so big, it's really strange, this mother you are still very proud of, isn't it?"
Children do not have gender awareness is sad, parents do not teach children to recognize their own gender is a very selfish behavior, when the child's psychological development can not keep up with the speed of physical development, the consequences are often unimaginable to parents.
How parents should cultivate their children's gender awareness
Be careful what the family wears
When the child is about 3 years old, parents must consciously cultivate the child's gender awareness, in the family, the most important thing for parents to do is to pay attention to clothing.
Dad should not be naked, only wear a pair of underwear, and Mom should not wear too revealing. When changing clothes, parents should also avoid the child's sight and do not "live broadcast" to the child.
Gender-specific venues should go right
Some parents will take their children to the opposite sex bathroom or bath, which is very detrimental to the physical and mental development of the child. If you do this for a long time, it will also make the child's gender consciousness blurred and unable to recognize the difference between men and women.
After the child is 3 years old, the sex of the other place must let the child go right, let the father take the male treasure to the men's bathroom, and the mother takes the female treasure to the female bath.
Let the child know where the body is forbidden
In Chinese families, many parents are secretive about sex education, which will make children full of curiosity and even use some improper means to understand the mysteries of sex.
In fact, parents can pass this knowledge to their children in their daily lives, so that children understand where their bodies are forbidden.
For example, when bathing a child, tell the child that only the father/mother and the doctor can touch certain parts, and can only be touched in certain circumstances, and no one else can touch them.
At the same time, we must also tell the child what kind of behavior is considered a violation, and what kind of way to deal with it in the face of infringement.
Do not wear clothing of the opposite sex
In order to satisfy their curiosity, parents may put on the clothes of the opposite sex on their children, this behavior may have no impact on children before the age of 3, but when the children gradually increase in age, this behavior of parents will leave a shadow in the child's mind. Even let the child breed inferiority psychology, which is not conducive to the physical and mental development of the child.
In order to let children better understand their gender, parents must let boys have a "male appearance" and girls have a "female appearance".
It is very important for children to recognize gender, and children understand the secrets of their own bodies, so that they can be less confused in the process of growing up. Cultivating gender awareness is a very important lesson in children's lives, and parents must not forget to teach their children a lesson.