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"Parents love their children, then they have far-reaching plans" is in "Touching the Dragon and Saying Empress Zhao", as a parent's love for their children, they must make long-term plans for them, and cannot only take care of the immediate gains and losses.
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The first time I heard it was Minglan's Wei Xiaoniang who taught her that she was the biggest in life, and she was not allowed to call Ah Niang, wanting to save her life, not wanting her to come out of the woods.
The second uncle rescued Minglan from the hands of the water thief, and Minglan suggested that he should not let Sister Rong drift like this, delay the education of the children, and should be brought back to Beijing for good life and education, and advised him to "plan far-reaching" for Sister Rong.
In the end, the second uncle married Minglan, and she also planned for Sister Rong and Sister Xian": teach them to read the ledger, let them think about the cats in it, cultivate their cautious minds, and how to marry and live in the future is not afraid.
The third time was when the caretaker felt that he was running out of time, and entrusted his wife and children to the half-enemy brother and said this.
Although he did not like this younger brother, he was more afraid that his stepmother would be unfavorable to the child, the younger brother was a good character, and the younger sister-in-law was also a wise person.
The two fought for so many years, and finally involved the child, the eldest lang still gave in, the title was given to Erlang, and he also gave his mother a name according to his will.
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When parents say that life is really from the child to the adult feeling, before just seem to grow up, now force themselves to quickly adapt to the role, instinctively force themselves to mature in a 360-degree position to worry about not good enough, can not be strong enough to become a tree to shield the wind and rain.
In the end, I found that I seemed to be living more and more like my parents. I will think about my child's upbringing, what talents I will learn, what clothes I will want to wear, and how to make her self-reliant in the future.
There is a distant relative around him, from childhood he has lived into the envy of everyone, the family is well-off, the only daughter is very pampered, and her mother has been meticulous all her life.
Daughters have a habit after marriage, do not carry money in their pockets, buy a soy sauce to find their husbands, usually their own money are handed over to their husbands, they want to use it with their husbands, if they do not give, they will naturally manage their parents.
From this example, I felt that the careful thinking of education was extremely frightening, and her mother felt sad when she talked about it.
Since I was a child, I was afraid that my daughter would be wronged, and when I grew up, I didn't expect that the concept of money would be like this. I think it is precisely because I have never suffered a loss of money since I was a child, so I "regard money as dung".
People want to give their children what they lack from a young age, and it is too easy for children to become what they have from a young age, and they reach out and come, but they do not cherish it.
But the emotional value, looking at her daughter's appearance is like hunger and thirst.
This also made me think deeply, in the future, educating the baby really can't just let her learn and ignore the emotional intelligence thing.
Especially after work, it is true that what she has learned is applied, but emotional intelligence accounts for more than half of the problems at work, how to face difficulties, how to deal with those tricky interpersonal relationships, these are all things she has to learn.
Otherwise, what is the use of saving more money for her, and it is also to provide for others.
It is better to teach them to fish than to teach them to fish, and those children who are old and complain about their parents are children; those who are self-disciplined at a young age, have plans and thoughts, and know how to advance and retreat are also children.
That's where the power of education lies.
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Speaking of education as a child, it is interesting to think of, I think it is a pity when I was a child that I did not learn dance instruments and paintings.
Want to save some silver in the future to let the baby learn more talent things, the husband feels that it is very important for the child to wear well, because he was not cool enough to wear when he was a child, and he wanted to make up for the shortcomings.
Later, I thought that there are always regrets in life, and it may be precisely "our psychology of not getting" that is doing the work and projecting onto the child.
In fact, every child has regrets in childhood, even if she gets an A, after adulthood, her parents may be surprised to think that she has always been worried about the B that she did not have at that time.
I vaguely remember that I went to register for a jazz dance class during the summer vacation of my freshman year, and my mother was surprised that I had not missed a class, and I spent 600 yuan, and I felt that I was sorry when I was a child.
Think about whether you like it or not, but it is more of an experience obsession, not a love. For example, jumping to the heel pain, a lot of stretching can not be done.
I haven't learned it for more than twenty years, I haven't stretched, and I really don't jump. But the psychology is very relaxed, I feel that I have made up for a regret, and I can do the next thing.
So what to do, how to not let the child have regrets?
I think that life is always inevitable to have regrets, how boring it is for people to have no regrets in their lives, because there are regrets, and when they grow up, they will try to fill this regret.
In order to realize the wish of continuous efforts, the original family is the foundation, the family lineage is the advantage, the real self-improvement, live their own life or rely on themselves.
It is not like An Lingrong in "The Biography of Zhen Huan" to warm his own "self-murder" with the blood of others, but to cultivate his true ability and fold time to achieve his life goals.
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