In the original work of "Knowing or Not", Sheng Minglan had two major regrets, one was that he could not snatch the old-age right of his grandmother Sheng Changbai from his brother Sheng Changbai, and he could not personally serve his grandmother to live forever and repay his grandmother's nurturing and shelter, and the other was that he could not give birth to a daughter.
Sheng Minglan and Gu Tingye had four sons, all of whom had become mature. The eldest son, that is, Brother Tuan'er, is mature and stable, and is valued by the emperor and the grand prince, and the second son is also the Brother Yuan'er, who is like his uncle Sheng Changbai, or does not speak, and there must be no good words in one mouth, it is really violent, the older he is, the more powerful he is, and how many three or four officials are weak in their knees when they see it. The third elder sailed out to the sea to travel east, and the fourth elder traveled all over the country, and completed the "Jiangshan Quanyu Zhi" at the age of thirty-six, which was dedicated to the saints, sensationalized the world, and also charmed the only daughter of a king in the distant western region at an unquestionable age, planning to stay in the local old cattle to eat tender grass, and recruit horses to inherit the throne by the way.
Whether it is Gu Tingye or Sheng Minglan, they both want a daughter, and when Sheng Minglan was pregnant with a second child, Gu Tingye also talked to Sheng Minglan about picking a son-in-law.
Gu Tingye's standard for picking a son-in-law is called an unreliable and very unrealistic.
“...... In the future, Lao Tzu will pick a son-in-law well, and if he is learning martial arts, he must bravely win the three armies! If you learn literature..." Gu Tingye was not very clear about the standard of cultural attainment, and a 'talent high eight buckets' alone could not satisfy him, and finally remembered a certain sentence of Fu Xueqin, and said proudly, "I want three yuan and the first!" Otherwise, Hugh wants to marry my daughter! ”
Sheng Minglan despised him and mentioned Rong's sister's marriage. Although Sheng Minglan has no daughter, Gu Tingye has, and Sheng Minglan is also a generous person, raising Sister Rong as her own daughter, and naturally paying special attention to her marriage.
When talking about Sister Rong's marriage, Sheng Minglan chose a son-in-law for Sister Rong, and the standard proposed was a total of 7 points, which were the two points that were most easily overlooked, that is, the second and sixth points, women need to pay attention.
1, be careful of men with violent tendencies, so as not to encounter domestic violence.
"The kind of hand that rises and falls, kills people like hemp and does not change color, never want it!" Either practice to receive and receive freely, the dragon has regrets, or simply find someone who can't do martial arts, that kind of learning half-hanging, in the future to play the daughter-in-law, must not be light or heavy! ”
Women, remember to pay attention, we must avoid men with violent tendencies, otherwise, you are not only easy to lose money, but even life can not be saved.
Whether men have violent tendencies or not, you can see from two points, first, when you get along with them, you need to carefully observe to see if men are prone to anger, have no sympathy for the weak, animals, and even abuse animals. Second, you can look at his family, especially whether his father will beat his wife, and the influence of the original family on men can never be ignored.
2, be sure to pay attention to the other party's physical condition, be careful of genetic diseases.
"The body must be good, and it is not possible to be a widow at a young age." It's not that it's good to be as strong as an ox, you have to look at people's bodies, touch bones more, and ask people's elders and elders about their longevity? ”
This point is easy for many women to ignore, and men with this situation often deliberately conceal this point in order to achieve the purpose of marrying their wives, waiting until two people have ripped the evidence that the wood has become a boat to tell the woman, and even when your child is found to have a genetic disease, you will know, at this time it is too late to regret it, and your child will suffer a lot.
Before Xiaoqi's cousin got married, she did not know that the man's family inherited congenital heart disease, until her newborn child died of ineffective rescue, the cousin did not know the truth, although divorced, but as soon as she thought of her hard-working child in October, she would wash her face with tears and no longer have hope for marriage.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, it is related to two families, it is more about your children, for the sake of your children, you must also pay attention to this, you must understand the situation, malicious concealment, not suitable for you to entrust life, kick it early.
3. Pay attention to the economic conditions of the other party's family, and try to find a family with the right door to marry.
"The family lineage should not be high or low, too high to marry the past to suffer, too low to be wronged, the specific size of the Marquis look at it, the use of magic, with one heart."
Many girls want to marry high, want to live a life of worry-free food and clothing, no shortage of money to spend, but the high door has the requirements of the high door, they will require the daughter-in-law to have a family lineage to help the husband's family, require the daughter-in-law to have the ability to manage the family, if you can't do it, but also climb high, often self-insulting.
For example, in "Knowing or Not", Shen Xiuqiao, the youngest daughter-in-law of the Sheng family, has a girlfriend, who is married to the son of the governor of Liangguang, and the door is very good, but life is very sad.
The door is a good door, but the Zhou family is four generations in the same house, three rooms live together, the uncles and brothers in the family are a large pile of cousins, and the embroidery has listened to it several times without remembering who is who. The sister of the Zhong family has always been good with her, after getting married, she did not go back to her mother's house to cry and complain that her husband's family was sad, every day from morning to night, tired for a moment, I could not rest, I could not eat well, I could not sleep well, and I could hardly hold on.
If the girl marries low, the man may have a feeling that she can't marry except me, and look down on you, such as Sheng Shulan low married to Sun Zhigao, and was almost bullied to death by Sun Zhigao's mother and son.
As Tu Lei said in the program: "Love is not distinguished between high and low, but marriage is not the same, marriage is best to be the right door, the original family parents' life, lifestyle, is the key to long-term marriage." ”
Marrying the right person, your three views are easier to fit, and it is easier to come together.
4. To look at the family style, if he has unreasonable immediate family members, especially parents, marry carefully.
"The best population in the family is simpler, but if there are many people, it must be a good door, a harmonious family, a harmonious group, and the most important thing to live at home is harmony."
Yuan Wenshao was indeed capable, and he was the second son of the Count's Court of Zhongqin, but he had an unreasonable old mother, an evil mother-in-law, who bullied Sheng Hualan miserably. If it were not for the fact that Sheng Hualan's era was a kind of destruction for women, in modern times, Yuan Wenshao would have lost his marriage a long time ago.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, even if you do not live together, you can not avoid each other's parents, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along, your marriage will become chicken and dog, very sweet.
5. To look at the character of men, men with bad character must not marry.
"Scholars should especially inquire clearly, every time the righteous slaughter the dog generation, the negative heart is the most reader, don't look at the gentle and frugal, who knows what bad water is in the belly? The kind of person who has gained a little merit is indispensable, and it is the most hateful! Cough, Hou Ye didn't know, I had a very bad cousin-in-law... Forget it, don't talk about him! ”
The person Sheng Minglan is talking about is Sun Zhigao, a lustful and immoral, soft rice and hard eating, opening his mouth and closing his mouth is insulting Sven, in fact, it is he who insults Sven. If Sheng Shulan's mother's family had given strength to support her daughter and leave, Sheng Shulan would have died at the hands of Sun Zhigao's mother and son.
6. Be sure to inquire about the emotional history of men, don't be small three.
"Curry also has two jars of bamboo leaf green, Lord Liu Zhengjie doesn't like it, turn around and send it over, trouble him to help check the details, don't be a chen Shimei who cheated on marriage, there is already chaff in the family ..."
This is also extremely important, because being a third party and interfering in someone else's marriage is a manifestation of moral inferiority and deserves to be condemned by the world. However, some girls are deceived by the little three, they are deceived by the scumbags, they are not only deceived by their feelings, but also lose their reputations, and are shouted and beaten by everyone, how pitiful.
When women are in love, they must pay attention to it, to find out the emotional history of men, and find that those who deceive your feelings immediately hide far away, and the husband of a woman cannot touch it.
7. Don't always think that you are very good, think that you must have someone who wants it, and look down on the man.
"We must not be like Ting can sister, who feels that the strange goods can be lived in, so we take it lightly and sit on the Diaoyutai." Guard against arrogance and impatience! The world is impermanent, and it is not even until the moment of worship of heaven and earth? It is necessary to investigate in many ways and find more candidates, and this can not be made up. Family style, in-laws and concubines, character to learn, which is not a day can be found out clearly... So plan ahead! Marrying a daughter, the first one is wrong, the next few girls can still be good? The so-called first battle is successful, in order to be able to drum up a drum and win every battle! ”
Gu Tingcan thinks that she can live in a strange place, has a good reputation, and does not worry about marrying out, but her marriage is full of twists and turns, and after marriage, she lives in her own world, refuses to be a good daughter-in-law, and ruins her life.
According to these seven criteria, Sheng Minglan finally chose Grandma Chang's grandson to be Rong's sister-in-law for many years. Perennial is a new science soldier, the future is promising, the family population is simple, the mother has died, Chang Mama is a transparent old man, certainly will not bully Sister Rong, Sister Rong's life is very happy.
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