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In "Know It or Not", the most infuriating scene is the confrontation between Sheng Shulan and her husband and mother-in-law.
As the eldest daughter of the grand master of the Sheng family, Sheng Shulan is gentle and virtuous, since marrying Sun Zhigao, she is diligent and thrifty, hoping that her husband can obtain a meritorious name and have a better future.
During this period, the mother-in-law often had difficulties, and although Sheng Shulan was sad, she did not pay attention to it, and she was always filial to her mother-in-law. However, what she did, in the eyes of her husband and mother-in-law, was deserved.
This is mainly because of the social atmosphere at that time, so the audience can still understand. But since Sun Zhigao was admitted to Xiucai, he has completely lost himself. All day long, he fantasized about himself as the prime minister, becoming a person above ten thousand people under one person, and has been admired by everyone ever since.
It is nothing for a man to daydream, after all, everyone has had feelings that do not know the height of the sky, but he should not squander his daughter-in-law's money; it is nothing to squander his daughter-in-law's money, after all, it is a world where men are superior to women, but he should not scold his daughter-in-law all day after squandering his daughter-in-law's money.
Whenever they saw Sun Zhigao's villainous face and his mother's mean face, everyone could not help but hate the decay of feudal society. It's so devastating to women.
I thought that with the development of society and the progress of civilization, this old feudal thinking has disappeared forever. Unexpectedly, you can still see it.
The so-called dowry is actually a guarantee fund given by the woman's parents to the daughter's future life. This custom originated in ancient times. In ancient times, it was the male lord and the female master, even the children of large families were often busy in order to maintain the operation of the whole family, in this case, women did not have time and energy to earn money.
In order to make the daughter not be unable to live because of no money, the large family will accompany the daughter to marry a rich dowry when the daughter is married, the intention is to tell the man that the money that his daughter needs to spend in her life is all given by the family, and if you don't need to support it, then you have no reason to bully my girl.
The status of modern women has been significantly improved, but the parents who love their daughters will still prepare a dowry for their daughters. As we all know, the dowry is the property of a woman before marriage, and whether the marriage with the husband continues or not, the husband cannot embezzle the dowry of the wife.
This is the right that modern society has given to women.
But in the eyes of some conservative or selfish people, since women have become a family with them, then whether it is a woman or the property carried by women, it is their family. As the helmsman of this family, generally the in-laws and mothers-in-law, they can use the dowry of the daughter-in-law without authorization, and require the daughter-in-law not to resist and not to question, otherwise it is filial piety.
Zhou Lan's mother-in-law is one of them.
Zhou Lan is an only child, and her family occupies a medium position in the city, which can be regarded as having no worries about food and clothing. Or maybe it's because she never worried about money when she was growing up, and she values his character more than money when it comes to choosing her future partner.
Zhou Lan's husband's family is rural, and his father is an ordinary person, who has no ambition and does not make any big money. The mother is more eccentric and prefers the sweet-mouthed brother. Everything is mixed into one sentence, that is, the family is not very well-off. Therefore, Zhou Lan's husband asked Zhou Lan to consider it when the two of them determined a relationship.
Zhou Lan is not a two- or three-year-old child, and naturally knows what it means to choose a husband, but because of his honesty and sense of responsibility, he finally chose him as a life partner.
For his daughter's decision, Zhou's father and mother were opposed, and during this period, they also thought of various ways to prevent it. But he still couldn't extinguish the fire of love in Zhou Lan's heart, so he had to grit his teeth and accept it. But in the dowry, they moved their minds.
They did not do the same as Zhou Lan's mother-in-law, who was also a dowry building and a dowry car, but only gave their daughter a dowry of 300,000 yuan.
If the son-in-law really loves his daughter, then he will work hard to buy a house in the city as soon as possible and give his daughter a warm home. If the money is not enough, the daughter can subsidize the point appropriately. If the dowry is replaced by a house and a car, it may make the son-in-law lose the motivation to work. If the son-in-law does not have such a thought, then after this incident, the daughter will also see his true face, which is also a lesson for her.
Zhou Lan and her husband naturally couldn't think so far, so they had no objection to the practice of the second elder of the Zhou family. The former, as a woman in the new era, prefers to earn bread and a house by herself; the latter feels that everyone has given him such a good daughter, and it is a dowry, which is enough. If you complain again, you are really not satisfied.
However, the second elder of the Zhou family did not expect that the son-in-law did not have the idea of moving his daughter's dowry, but there was one person who was worried about this huge amount of money, that is, Zhou Lan's mother-in-law.
Zhou Lan's marriage allowed her to improve the standard of the second daughter-in-law, thinking that the daughter-in-law of the second son should be better than the eldest daughter-in-law, so she always went to the blind date in the city to help the second son find a partner.
The girls in the city look good, and their standards for the other half are also high! And Zhou Lan's uncle who graduated from junior high school is naturally not as competitive as Zhou Lan's husband who graduated from college, so Zhou Lan's mother-in-law has not found a suitable one. In order to increase the "value" of the second son, Zhou Lan's mother-in-law decided to buy a house in the city.
It takes money to buy a house, and she doesn't have any, so she has her eye on the eldest daughter-in-law's 300,000 dowry.
One day, when Zhou Lan returned home, she heard that her mother-in-law was encouraging her husband to use her dowry. Fortunately, the husband was able to carry it clearly, and did not do this, but blindly persuaded the mother-in-law to think of another way. And the mother-in-law cried and made trouble.
Zhou Lan's fire was ignited at one point, and he directly opened the door and angrily said: How can you embezzle my 300,000 yuan to marry my uncle to buy a house?
The mother-in-law replied slowly and logically: You are my son's, not to mention money. Then he realized that something was wrong with this, so he put on a smiley face and said that they were a family and should help each other. After being rejected by Zhou Lan, she scolded loudly, and was later pulled away by Zhou Lan's husband.
In the evening, Zhou Lan's husband said that he would not move the 300,000 dowry, but if his brother bought a house, he would definitely add points, after all, he was his brother.
Zhou Lan understood.
It is not uncommon for a mother-in-law to be partial to her younger son and repeatedly ask her eldest son to pay, but there are not many men like Zhou Lan's husband who can carry it clearly and refuse their mother's unreasonable request in time.
Tu Lei once said: A woman marrying you is a kind of courage, giving you children and having children needs more courage, a man can't even tolerate his own woman, what to talk about?
As a man, you must bring a sense of security to the woman you love, especially in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. For the mother's requirements, we must not blindly meet, but use the most basic bottom line.
May all women meet a partner who can carry it well.
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