In this world, everyone seems to be equal, and as early as that invisible place, the gap between people is reflected in a clear view.
"Poor" people are not only materially deprived of money, but also have limitations in their way of thinking, such as the eyes of a rat, for example, they only know that they are worried about the sky, and they will not pay any practical action to change.
"Rich" people may not be materially reflected, but they have vision, thinking, pattern, and they never stagnate, let alone complain about themselves. A woman, whether she is "poor" or "rich" in her bones, look at these three places.
Look at the pattern of her life
Although Sheng Minglan in the TV series "Do You Know It or Not" has the love of her grandmother, compared with Rulan's honor as a concubine, although Mo Lan is a concubine, but the dignity of her parents' love, Sheng Minglan is still at the lowest end of the Sheng family's food chain.
Sheng Minglan was very intelligent, and when Grandma Kong taught them etiquette, she was also the fastest and best learned.
But she knew what she would usher in if she showed her sharp edge, such as Lan's honor and Mo Lan's dignity.
Therefore, she chose to be clumsy, chose Taoguang to raise obscurity, chose not to stand up for everything, and avoided all unnecessary troubles.
China's traditional culture has the "beauty of weak morality", and this "weakness" does not mean doing nothing, but doing something.
When Mo Lan plans to meet a foreign man privately, this is a thing that is not good for the woman's reputation, then Minglan will not stay out of the matter, she knows the importance of the name festival for women, and also understands the truth that one glory and one loss are lost.
Of course, Minglan chose to show weakness, and it was not really powerless to bind the chicken, and it was so weak that it was a mess.
When Minglan was young, Changfeng almost lost the hired goose of his eldest sister Hualan, and it was Minglan who stepped forward and turned the tide;
After growing up, the good sister Yu Yanran was bullied by her sister to take away the relics of her deceased mother, and it was also Minglan who stepped forward and won back what the good sisters cared about in her own way.
She didn't know how difficult Minglan's own situation was, but she still lived like a little sun, guarding clumsy when it was time to be clumsy, and standing up for the people she cared about.
She disdains the childish style of the small family, and the rich and noble are not what she wants, this is her pattern, which is the "honor" she has carved in her bones.
Look at the lowest point where she gets along with others
In the TV series "Do You Know It or Not", Sheng Shulan's ex-husband Sun Xiucai used her dowry to live a good life by relying on Sheng Shulan's mother's family, which should be grateful and moral.
But Sun Xiucai's mother and son had a good life, but they wanted to be demons, all kinds of difficult women, disliked Sheng Shulan like a wood, disliked Sheng Shulan and could not even give birth to a son.
As Minglan said, Sun Xiucai's behavior is to eat soft rice and hard food.
After this farce, Sheng Minglan knew that when this person gets along with people, the most important thing is to look at the lowest part of the other party.
Sheng Shulan's lowest point is softness of heart, while Sun Xiucai's lowest point is shamelessness.
The so-called lowest place refers to a person's character.
When we get along with a person, we also look at the quality of a person, not how good it is when it is good, but how bad it is when it is bad.
I've seen girls who smile at everyone, scolding her because her mother doesn't use her smartphone;
I've also seen a girl who seems unapproachable and cold, and when she feels guilty that the sanitation worker has soiled her shoes, she whispers "it's okay."
The "poor" people in their bones are poor in personality and poor in character, and the barrenness of these places allows them to expose their "poverty" at the lowest point.
The "rich" people in their bones are not humble and generous, their personality and conduct are extremely rich, and everyone who has come into contact with them will feel the continuous warmth.
Look at how she "spends money"
Du Yuesheng once said such a sentence: "How much money you have in your hand, don't count if you have money, you will spend money, you can count as you have money." ”
Whether "poor" or "rich" in the bones is not reflected through money, but how this person spends money.
Pei Na in the TV series "Ugly Girl Invincible", thousands of dollars a month of salary are used to buy clothes, shoes, skin care products and bags, and the investment in personal skills is almost zero.
She didn't know anything about work, and she always felt that she was good looking and didn't worry about work.
It's just that the beauty is late, people will have a day when they look old, and when Pei Na is no longer young and beautiful, there are probably very few things that can support her to continue her life.
Some women can be described as "Grande" for material desires, but they have always been generous for the improvement of personal skills.
You can not buy new clothes, but you must travel; you can not buy lipstick, but the books to read must not be less.
Such women are materially "poor", but spiritually "rich and oily", they understand what is the most important, they are "rich" in their bones.