Widowhood with dolls has long become the norm in social families.
Before giving birth, if the husband and wife do not make it clear in advance, the possibility of widowhood with a baby is very high, one party does not care, and the other side blindly endures, which is the main contradiction.
In addition, widowhood with baby not only refers to the normalization of those who do not contribute, but also to those acts of mentally torturing baoma. The frequency of postpartum depression in pregnant women is exacerbated.
"Widowed baby" turned me into a resentful woman
When Xiao Xin got married, the in-laws he found were not considered to be the right ones, and the conditions of the small new family were far less rich than those of the in-laws, and they were aware of the amount of the dowry and the bride price alone.
Although the mother-in-law was not very satisfied with Xiaoxin, she still reluctantly agreed to the marriage based on her son's wishes. But the mother-in-law never gave Xiaoxin a good look.
Soon after the marriage, Xiao Xin became pregnant, which was originally a matter of great joy for everyone, but in the eyes of her mother-in-law, it was the source of all evil. Xiao Xin didn't say anything more beforehand, thinking that her mother-in-law would definitely care about her own grandson.
However, after the birth of the child, Xiao Xin hardly saw the figure of her mother-in-law, except for the confinement period, who came to cook a few days of food and invited her for a month.
Every time the child cries, Xiao Xin is sighing, why is his mother-in-law so cruel, if his mother is still alive, he will never let himself bear such grievances.
And when Xiaoxin and her husband complain about this matter, her husband always avoids this problem, thinking that as long as he gives enough small new pocket money and children's expenses every month, he will be very successful.
In this way, even his own husband does not care, and he still expects his mother-in-law to take care of the children? When I thought that I didn't have any status in this family, I was even more afraid to come out.
Since then, All Xiao Xin can do is lower expectations, not asking anyone for help, and the pain in his heart can only talk to his girlfriend, and he has become a resentful woman in real life.
Because of the problem of bringing a baby, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deteriorated, which is both common and helpless
The mother-in-law only gives birth, regardless of the baby
Usually, the mother-in-law of the family is the captain of the birth team, and as long as the two children have established a marriage relationship, the mother-in-law will immediately spawn and want to inherit the family lineage.
Although many daughters-in-law are very reluctant, they are not easy to refuse because of their mother-in-law's face, and they think that their mother-in-law will be fully responsible for the child's eating and drinking, and it is not a big deal to have a child herself.
But in fact, although many mothers-in-law are verbally promoted, they will not intervene at all after the child is really born. After all, the mother-in-law has no obligation to help the daughter-in-law take care of the children, even if it is the norm in society, it cannot represent everyone.
The mother-in-law takes the baby and daughter-in-law to be dashing, and it is inevitable that she will not be willing
The previous contact between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is because of the husband, and the mother-in-law feels that the appearance of the daughter-in-law is to compete with her son, and she cannot assume the responsibility of taking care of her son, but needs her son to take care of her daughter-in-law.
It can be said that how the daughter-in-law bullied her son, the mother-in-law will intensify to find back. And the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are born with magnetic discord between them, and it is difficult to coexist peacefully.
Therefore, when the daughter-in-law gives the child to herself, they have enough time to do what they want to do, and this psychological gap is also unacceptable to most mothers-in-law.
Mother-in-law with baby is always laborious and unflattering
Even the most fashionable mother-in-law will do a bad job in educating her children, and they will stick to the parenting experience they have accumulated, thinking that only this is the most correct.
But these old parenting experiences are full of loopholes in the eyes of the daughter-in-law, coupled with the mother-in-law's attitude of thinking that she is very authoritative, which makes them crazy.
Moreover, the daughter-in-law's repeated correction of their behavior is also unacceptable to the mother-in-law. Is it true that there is no merit in taking care of your children without merit? Let the juniors "reprimand" themselves so much!
But in fact, isn't the starting point of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all for the sake of the children? It's just that the mother-in-law's affection for the child's next generation is innate, and it is really not easy to change it immediately.
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