As you get older, if you handle these three relationships well, you will be blessed more and more. 01 Around us, there are often such old people, retired, worry-free, and children to take care of

As you get older, if you handle these three relationships well, you will be blessed more and more.

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Around us, there are often such old people, retired, have no worries about food and clothing, have children to take care of, have a house to live in, but complain every day and say some frustrating things. He could feel his unhappy life from a great distance.

Carnegie, a master of interpersonal relations, said: "Only 15% of a person's career success is due to his professional skills, and the other 85% is due to interpersonal relationships and external skills."

Young people need careers, and older people don't need to talk about careers when they leave the workplace. This is the concept of many elderly people. In fact, "career" is not only a career, but also a person's goal.

Smart old people make the pursuit of happiness a lifelong cause. So he will deal with the following three relationships, let himself slowly grow old in a beautiful environment, and get rid of the internal friction of interpersonal communication.

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The relationship between children and parents: Let society discipline children, not parents.

I've seen a cruel quote like this: "If parents don't care about educating their children, society will discipline them when they grow up."

Some spoiled children, in their teens and twenties, do not know how to live and are not educated. When a child makes a mistake, his parents always protect him and throw out "he is still a child and does not understand things".

Parents are too old to protect their children, and children have to go out into society. At the moment, I don't know why. Such children have to start all over again, like seedlings in a greenhouse, they have to peel off a layer of skin to survive.

There is a person named "Ji'an" in the "Cautionary General Book", born in the Song Dynasty, who opened a liquor store in Lin'an Province and gave birth to only one daughter.

In order to inherit the family business, the family recruited a door-to-door son-in-law, my daughter and son-in-law wanted to move out, but Jian did not agree.

As the saying goes, "Getting too close is a disaster." ”

Ann and her son-in-law will inevitably have conflicts together. After a long time, Ji An felt that his son-in-law was not filial and unreliable, so he drove him away.

After the daughter remarried, she did not understand the sinister nature of the human heart and could not take the initiative to adapt to society, so she was embarrassed to divorce.

Warren Buffett once said, "The most valuable thing is your own mind and body, because it takes a lifetime."

No matter how good a parent is, they can't fight for their children, nor can they take care of their children for a lifetime.

As you get older, push your kids into society and let them travel. While they'll trip up, they'll soon get up and get some support from their parents. If you are very old, you must force your children to make a fortune. Whether your child succeeds or not, you will not be blessed, and your child is more likely to fail.

Let go of the child, sooner rather than later; only caring about the child is a lifelong thing.

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Second, the relationship between the elderly and society: only by actively integrating into society can they enjoy social welfare.

Carnegie said: "To make others like you, first you have to change your attitude toward people, relax your spirit, have a natural expression and smile, so that others will feel like you."

As an old man, if you like to rely on your elders and wait for others to serve you at any time, then you will be particularly disappointed, because everyone is very busy, concerned about their own small family, and will not care about you at all.

If you're always glaring at people, don't expect to see a smiley face. Even if someone smiles at you, you will feel embarrassed and will not laugh next time.

The Aphorism Couplet says, "Many families come from ancient and modern times, and this is nothing more than virtue."

What can change the living environment is not only the "three major movements of Mengmu", but also "hand in hand".

According to the realistic conditions, what you can do is not where you want to live, where to buy a house. People are old, and most of the places where they live are "nailed down".

When the writer Sanmao lived in the Sahara Desert, the surrounding environment was very poor, and women did not like to be clean and sanitary. She and her husband, José, cleaned up the weeds and weeds, and Sanmao taught the women to do handicrafts and tidy up the rooms. Soon, the environment changed.

One cannot change the whole world, but he can change a community and a unit of architecture. When the old man is fine, he moves his hands, cleans up the garbage, takes the initiative to contact the neighbors upstairs and downstairs, understands each other, and the atmosphere becomes better.

Walk into society and insist on kindness, then you will also get help from the people around you. Instead of complaining, smile; instead of hating society, accept it.

Times are good, society is normal, but what is bad is my "heart" and my "crooked" eyes.

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Third, the relationship between money and life: exchange good money for the warmest life.

There is a saying: "The child wants your money!" Instead of leaving money to children, invest in health! This sentence will probably appear in the mouths of some businessmen.

There is a saying that there is no profit and no early, no adultery and no business.

The elderly are stingy on the one hand, and are willing to invest in health on the other hand. For example, if you go shopping, you can spend half an hour haggling with others, but when you go shopping for health products, you are generous.

Spending money cannot be directly equated with "happiness and health". Old people, don't misunderstand your point of view.

Pu Qianguan, an expert on health care in the Song Dynasty, wrote in "Tips for Health Maintenance": "Daily diligent behavior will be light and clear, the tendons and veins will be smooth, the food will be easy, and there will be no stagnation."

People should go with the flow and grow old slowly, rather than forcing themselves to do something or blindly following suit. Reasonable exercise, good attitude, stretching every day, adjusting diet, is the best health care, low cost, good health.

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According to The Book of Liang, Xu Mian, a minister of the Southern Liang Dynasty, had no savings at home, and he gave all his money to his relatives and friends, who were short of food and clothing.

Some people are puzzled, thinking that Xu Mian is too inconsiderate of his family.

Xu Mian said: "Children and grandchildren are talented and self-defeating; if he is incompetent, he will eventually have it." Although I am not sensitive, I really have my own ambitions, I am very obedient, I dare not fall. ”

The best asset of the younger generation is "ability". If the younger generation is incompetent, no amount of money will eventually belong to someone else.

Blessings are not unique to one person or to a family, but are common to society. Every family is integrated into society, assumes social responsibility, and can pass on the good family style. Every generation is blessed.

May you and I, born in a blessed land, do more good deeds, be kind to others, and be kind to ourselves.

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