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In the TV series "The Marriage of the Two of Us", it is said:
"Marriage and love are not the same, love is only two people, one world, but marriage has many people, the whole world." Love can afford to lose, marriage can't afford to lose. ”
There are too many responsibilities to be borne by marriage, and we can love desperately, but we dare not risk marriage casually. If you marry the wrong person, your world is doomed to be dark, and it is difficult to feel the joy of life anymore.
Some women, who regard feelings as too important, seem to be their only way out.
But truly confident women, will not set limits for themselves, they will not only marry because of love, but also know how to carefully choose future partners, will not lose their minds.
Cai Lin and her boyfriend have been in love for three years, and the boy she admires does not need to have good family conditions, but must be self-motivated. Boyfriend Li Peng is a man who especially knows how to struggle, and compared with his peers, his career is relatively improving.
Li Peng rarely left a way out for himself, and every time he tried his best. This momentum in his body makes Cai Lin particularly like, and with him, she can also feel that life is hopeful.
In the beginning, they had no intention of getting married, they had common goals with each other, and they wanted to work a little more stable before thinking about the future. Now that they have been in love for 3 years and their boyfriend has also taken the initiative to propose, Cai Lin did not think about it for too long, and she also hopes that each other can plan for the future.
Because the distance between the two families is a little far, she first took her boyfriend home to meet her parents, and also did an engagement party at her house.
When it was almost the New Year, her boyfriend took her back to her hometown with her. Cai Lin was still quite nervous before going, she had already identified her boyfriend in her heart, and she especially hoped to have a chat with her in-laws.
She prepared a lot of gifts, and when she arrived at her boyfriend's house, Cai Lin was also very polite.
There were many guests at home, and her mother-in-law made a lot of meals that day, and at first she was worried that the atmosphere would be awkward, but her mother-in-law's personality was very cheerful, and slowly Cai Lin relaxed.
After eating, she quickly followed her mother-in-law to clean up the housework, and Cai Lin offered to help wash the dishes, but the mother-in-law refused.
She really wanted to do this, because her mother-in-law was already working hard to cook. But no matter what Cai Lin said, her mother-in-law did not agree, and let her go to the living room to eat fruit.
The mother-to-be can treat her like this, and Cai Lin is very touched in her heart, and feels that she has not found the wrong person. But after a while, the mother-in-law and Li Peng were in the room to dislike her.
The mother-in-law said to Li Peng:
"Now where there are girls will be so diligent, your girlfriend took the initiative to say help wash the dishes, but it is just a load, I told her not to wash, she really does not wash, you can manage the point, after becoming a family, can not let her bully you." 」
Cai Lin originally thought that her boyfriend would explain for herself, after all, they had been together for so many years, what kind of person she was, her boyfriend must know very well.
But Li Peng said:
"Mom, if you hadn't reminded me, I really wouldn't have noticed that much." Rest assured, in the future, the family must be my decision, if she is not diligent and fast, I will take care of her. ”
After hearing what her mother-in-law said and her boyfriend's attitude, Cai Lin immediately made a choice, and she directly proposed to withdraw from marriage.
Although her boyfriend is very motivated, she feels very attractive, but a man with a poor family style, she will never marry. Cai Lin did not let herself fall into the predicament of feelings, but decisively made the right choice. No matter how her boyfriend explained it later, she didn't have a soft heart.
In her opinion, the boyfriend's love for herself is too shallow. A man who does not understand who he is and does not give respect will find it difficult to bring you a happy marriage. If Cai Lin can't see this clearly and chooses to continue to marry him, then the suffering she will suffer in the future can only be endured silently.
She loves herself so much that she will not let herself step into a bumpy marriage road no matter what.
The larger the pattern of the mother-in-law, the happier the marriage
I have seen such a sentence: "Mother and daughter are related by blood, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are social relations." ”
No matter how deep your relationship with your significant other, when you get married, your relationship with your mother-in-law cannot be like that of mother and daughter.
If the future mother-in-law pattern is too small, then she will be very picky about you. Love is simple and beautiful, but marriage is very complicated, and the personality and three views of the in-laws determine the happiness index of your marriage.
Smart women dare to embrace love, but don't blindly marry a man. Cai Lin lived very soberly, the first time she went to her in-laws' house for the New Year, she thought she had found the right person, but after hearing her mother-in-law's explanation, she began to be afraid.
A person's thinking is difficult to change, and the mother-in-law has treated her as an enemy, so the future life is bound to be difficult.
In addition, the boyfriend's attitude makes Cai Lin more disappointed, if she is still overwhelmed by love and desperately marries him, then in the future, if there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the boyfriend will not only not protect himself, but may even continue to hurt her.
A woman who marries must look at the character of the mother-in-law, only if her pattern is large enough, your relationship with your partner can be more long-lasting.
With a wise mother-in-law, she knows how to think from your point of view, she will not treat you as an imaginary enemy, but will treat you as a family, and sincerely hope that your marriage can be sweet and happy.
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