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Text: Qianming Jingyu
Editor|芊明静语
Preface
In the context of increasingly close cultural exchanges between China and South Korea, many Korean actresses shine in the Chinese entertainment industry, such as Song Hye Kyo, Kim Tae-hee, Lee Tae-ran, etc., who have won the love of Chinese audiences with their excellent works.
As people often say, the boundaries of the entertainment industry have long been blurred, and today we are going to talk about two Korean actresses who are married to China - Choo Ja Hyun and Cai Lin.
Choo Ja Hyun is a name that many people may be familiar with in the two hit dramas "The Temptation to Go Home" and "Mufu Fengyun".
In these two dramas, she portrayed Lin Pinru and Aleqiu respectively, two popular characters, and her superb acting skills have won wide praise from the audience.
What is little known is that Choo Ja Hyun's development in the Korean entertainment industry has not been smooth sailing, most of her early roles were supporting roles, and she has even participated in large-scale film works, such as Song Baobao, who played the heroine Cha Yang-soon's friend in "The Success of a Bright Girl".
Since 2003, Choo Ja Hyun has chosen to enter the Chinese market and cooperated with Peng Yuyan to shoot the idol drama "Love Fragrance", which kicked off her career in the Chinese film and television industry.
In 2005, Choo Ja Hyun played the pure and refined Shui Lingguang in the martial arts drama "The Legend of the Banner Heroes", which made her gain a firm foothold in the Chinese film and television industry and officially launched her Chinese acting career.
What's even more amazing is that Choo Ja Hyun's Chinese level has reached level ten, and his fluent Chinese expression ability has impressed many Chinese colleagues.
In 2017, Choo Ja Hyun tied the knot with actor Yu Xiaoguang and became a Chinese daughter-in-law.
From the photos and reports of various public occasions, it is not difficult to see the deep affection and sweet interaction between this multinational couple.
Compared with Choo Ja Hyun, Cai Lin has a higher starting point in the Korean entertainment industry, and she was once very popular for playing the role of Jin, Seonmei in the classic Korean drama "The Temptation of Eve".
In 2004, Cai Lin turned her career focus to China and co-starred with Su Youpeng in the TV series "Love in the Aegean Sea", successfully opening the Chinese market.
In addition to modern dramas, Cai Lin's appearance in costume dramas is also very outstanding, such as Pan Yuyan played in "Yangmen Tiger General", Princess Shengping in "New Drunk Golden Branch" and Queen Hesheri in "The Secret History of Kangxi", all of which left a deep impression on the audience.
At the same time, Cai Lin's many film and television dramas filmed in South Korea also received popular ratings, among which "Dazi's Spring" became the annual ratings champion in South Korea that year.
As fate would have it, Cai Lin and Chinese actor Gao Ziqi sparked love when they collaborated on the TV series "Li Family Courtyard", and the two overcame differences in nationality, language, living habits, etc., and gradually developed into lovers.
Although Cai Lin had experienced a brief marriage before this, which only lasted 3 years, this experience did not stop her from pursuing happiness.
After ending her previous marriage, Cai Lin came to Chinese mainland to develop, and finally met her true son - Gao Ziqi here.
【1】
Two Korean actresses who married far away from China, the similarities, differences and challenges on the road to marriage
Cai Lin, the author's favorite Korean artist, deeply touched me with her courageous and fearless spirit.
When she resolutely chose to marry in China despite the language barrier, I was full of admiration for her.
I remember that in the program hosted by Li Jing, Cai Lin talked about the bitterness of living in a foreign country, and couldn't help but burst into tears, and at that moment, I felt deeply distressed.
Since the end of her last marriage, I have been sincerely hoping that this woman who has experienced ups and downs can find her own warmth and happiness on the road to remarriage.
People often compare Cai Lin to another Korean artist, Choo Ja Hyun, and they have many similarities: they are also from South Korea, they have chosen China as their second hometown, they were both born in 1979, they are sheep, and they also have lovely sons.
In China, there are also artists born in 79 who marry in South Korea, hoping that she can always be happy.
Marriage is like drinking water, knowing whether you are warm or cold, and everyone's feelings and experiences in marriage are unique.
Through the observation in the program, we can clearly feel that Qiu Zixuan's Chinese level is better than Cai Lin.
Choo Ja Hyun and her husband Yu Xiaoguang each worked hard to learn each other's language in an attempt to better integrate into each other's lives.
Such an attitude is a manifestation of positive expectations for marriage and a desire for harmonious coexistence.
Whether it's a long-distance or long-distance relationship, there are all kinds of challenges.
Many Chinese parents do not want their children to marry far away, worrying that they will be wronged in distant places, and they are worried about problems such as language barriers, differences in living habits, and conflicting values.
This is especially true of long-distance relationships, where you still need to go through visa procedures to go home, which is far from being as simple as buying a train ticket at home.
In addition to not wanting their daughters to marry far away, many parents also expect their children's marriages to be matched, and the family backgrounds and personal achievements of both parties are equal.
In this regard, Choo Ja Hyun and Yu Xiaoguang can be said to be a better match.
Choo Ja Hyun's parents divorced since he was a child, and his upbringing was not satisfactory, while Chae Lin had a failed marriage.
Although Gao Ziqi and Yu Xiaoguang are also from ordinary families, Yu Xiaoguang's parents are more open-minded and good at communication, which complements Choo Ja Hyun's grateful and cheerful personality.
In contrast, Cai Lin once said on Weibo that she doesn't like explanations, is introverted and sensitive, and tends to bear problems alone.
And Gao Ziqi's personality is relatively introverted, and the language communication between him and Cai Lin is not smooth enough, and he even needs to use his son as a translator, such a communication barrier undoubtedly increases the difficulty of getting along with the two.
In the show, when Gao Ziqi was filming in Nepal, he was in charge of the money, and when Cai Lin wanted to get some money, he put the money back in his wallet and joked: "You still want to cheat money from me?" This scene made me feel distressed about Cai Lin's situation.
In a relationship in a foreign country, it is often necessary for one party to make sacrifices, and if both parties insist on their own opinions, are unwilling to actively integrate into each other's lives, and lack effective communication and explanation, then the relationship will be difficult to maintain.
In many cases, the breakdown of the relationship is not due to the intervention of a third party, nor is it because the love is gone, but the small contradictions accumulated in daily life gradually erode each other's trust and expectations, and the distance between hearts is getting farther and farther away, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
【2】
The six-year marriage came to an end, and the peaceful response of both parties caused netizens to regret
On December 17, 2020, South Korean media released a news that shocked the entertainment industry: the well-known Korean actress Cai Lin and her Chinese husband Gao Ziqi have officially gone through divorce procedures, and their six-year married life has come to an end.
This news quickly fermented on the Internet, causing many netizens to sigh and regret.
In the face of the attention of public opinion, Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi both made their respective responses after the news of their divorce was announced.
Cai Lin posted a short and affectionate text on her personal social media: "I am not the kind of character who seeks understanding by explaining a lot, my life is just living silently and trying my best. In this passage, Cai Lin showed a calm and honest attitude, not revealing any unwillingness or anger towards the end of the marriage, but facing the changes in life with an indifferent attitude, showing her maturity and open-mindedness.
Subsequently, Gao Ziqi also spoke out on social media, expressing her final wishes to her former partner Cai Lin with a sentence of "sincere thanks, sincere blessings, may not be disturbed, and everything is okay 'gift mother'".
In the short words, Gao Ziqi conveyed her gratitude to Cai Lin for her past efforts, as well as her best wishes for her future life, and also expressed her hope that both parties can start their new lives calmly and without interruption.
The personal response of the two parties made this high-profile divorce finally settle.
Although netizens regret the breakup between Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi, feelings and marriage are after all personal matters of celebrities, and no matter how sorry and lamented others are, they cannot influence their direction.
While respecting the privacy of celebrities, netizens can only send silent blessings, wishing the two of them to find their own happiness on their respective life paths.
【3】
In the past, loving couples changed their marriages due to postpartum depression and poor communication
Cai Lin, the former Korean household name superstar, as early as 2000, at the age of 21, she quickly became popular all over Asia with the innocent and kind goodness she portrayed in "The Temptation of Eve", and won the love of countless audiences.
In 2004, Cai Lin decided to shift her career focus to Chinese mainland, and has participated in a series of popular TV series such as "Love and Love Sea", "Yangmen Tiger General", "New Drunk Golden Branch", with her excellent acting skills and unique charm, Cai Lin has gained a large number of fans in China and is deeply loved by Chinese audiences.
In terms of personal feelings, Cai Lin had a brief marriage with South Korean singer Lee Seung-hwan, but eventually divorced due to personality incompatibility.
Under the arrangement of fate, Cai Lin and mainland actor Gao Ziqi became attached to the drama during the filming of the TV series "Li Family Courtyard", and the two hearts gradually got closer.
In March 2013, Cai Lin chose to disclose her relationship with Gao Ziqi on Weibo, announcing their sweet love to the public.
Two years later, in 2014, Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi held grand weddings in China and South Korea, officially entering the palace of marriage.
On December 12, 2017, the transnational couple ushered in the crystallization of love, Cai Lin successfully gave birth to a son, and named the child "Gift".
In the years after marriage, Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi fell in love, they ran a happy family together, and envied others.
The good times didn't last long, and at the beginning of 2019, rumors about the cracks in Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi's marriage began to spread on the Internet.
According to a person familiar with the matter, the two have been separated for more than a year, and the reason for the separation is that Cai Lin unfortunately suffered from postpartum depression after giving birth, and she hopes to return to South Korea with Gao Ziqi in order to get better psychological treatment and family support.
Gao Ziqi deeply felt that China was his roots, and was unwilling to leave the familiar environment, so he rejected Cai Lin's proposal.
Long-term disagreements and poor communication have deepened the estrangement between husband and wife.
Finally, in December 2020, South Korean media took the lead in revealing that Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi had completed the divorce procedures, and the six-year transnational marriage came to an end.
Gao Ziqi then responded to the divorce on Weibo, in which he affectionately called Cai Lin "gift mother", revealing his nostalgia for the good old days and his love and blessings for Cai Lin's mother and son.
【4】
Language barriers, conceptual differences, translation software is difficult to solve
Soon after their marriage, Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi participated in a reality show with their parents, aiming to show the audience the true face of their transnational marriage.
At the beginning of the show, the camera captured Cai Lin busily packing her travel luggage, while she muttered in slightly jerky Chinese: "This is Mommy's, that's Dad's." Although she is a daughter-in-law, Cai Lin's Chinese level is still at the beginner stage, like a babbling child.
On the other hand, Gao Ziqi's English level is not ideal, and she can only barely reach the level of kindergarten children.
The language barrier undoubtedly caused a lot of inconvenience to the newly formed family.
In the show, the communication between the parents-in-law and their daughter-in-law Cai Lin is almost at a standstill, and they are unable to have an effective conversation due to the language barrier.
Whenever they noticed a change in the other party's expression or subtle tone, both parties would fall into unwarranted speculation and worry, but Gao Ziqi, who was supposed to play a mediating role, seemed helpless in such a situation and could not effectively resolve the communication problems between family members.
Gao Ziqi's parents are both people's policemen and have relatively conservative ideological concepts.
Whenever they witnessed Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi interacting intimately in front of the camera, her mother-in-law would always look embarrassed.
In their opinion, the intimacy of the young couple should be carried out in a private space, especially in a public place where the program is recorded, and inappropriate behavior should be avoided.
Although Cai Lin tried her best to figure out her in-laws' thoughts, and her in-laws tried their best to show a friendly attitude towards their daughter-in-law, the language barrier was like an invisible wall, which made the two sides frequently deviate in understanding and expression.
Over time, this misunderstanding not only affected Cai Lin's relationship with her in-laws, but also quietly changed the interaction mode between her and Gao Ziqi.
In their daily lives, Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi rely almost entirely on translation software for dialogue, whether it is daily communication or occasional disputes, they need to use cold machines to convey each other's emotions and intentions.
Translation software is not a panacea, it can make mistakes and even make the situation more tense when the couple tries to lighten the mood because of inaccurate translations.
The helplessness and powerlessness of this way of communication undoubtedly aggravated the troubles of their married life.
During the recording of the program "Hua Shao Arrives", Gao Ziqi once revealed her heart to the host Hua Shao in distress: "She is also under a lot of pressure, she doesn't know what the people around her say, but she will think a lot for me, and it can be said that she lives here for me." Gao Ziqi's words revealed the tremendous pressure that Cai Lin was under in a foreign marriage.
When Cai Lin heard that her husband understood so much and felt sorry for herself, she could no longer suppress the grievances in her heart, and tears instantly slid down her cheeks.
These silent tears are not only her silent indictment of the difficult process of this marriage, but also her grateful response to her husband's deep understanding and support, and more intuitively show the various pressures and challenges she endured in a foreign marriage.
【5】
Language barriers, identity gaps, and regret of not being able to compromise
In the public eye, Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi, a transnational couple, have always shown their loving and harmonious image, and to the astonishment of countless fans, the Chinese and Korean couple, who have walked hand in hand for six years, have finally failed to resist the impact of reality and have come to the end of their marriage.
There are some insider revelations circulating on the Internet, revealing the truth that the couple had separated long before the divorce.
It turned out that all this stemmed from Cai Lin's depression after giving birth, and she longed for her husband Gao Ziqi to accompany her back to South Korea to develop her career and seek psychological comfort.
Gao Ziqi has a deep attachment to his hometown of China and believes that it is where his foundation lies.
He was worried that his acting career would be limited after going to South Korea, and it would be difficult to find a role that matched his positioning, so he was reluctant to migrate with Cai Lin.
This disagreement gradually evolved into an insurmountable gulf between the two.
Feeling uncertain about her career prospects in China, coupled with the loneliness and lack of one to talk to due to the language barrier, Cai Lin finally decided to return to South Korea with her son alone.
Even during this period, Gao Ziqi tried to go to South Korea to visit the child, but was politely rejected by Cai Lin.
Analyzing this marriage in depth, communication barriers are undoubtedly an important factor in the deterioration of the relationship between the two.
It is reported that Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi have not made substantial efforts in language learning, one is unwilling to learn Chinese, the other is unwilling to learn Korean, and their daily conversations mainly rely on mobile phone translation software and body and facial expressions to figure out each other's intentions.
In the early stages of a relationship, the sweetness of the atmosphere may be able to mask the inconvenience of the language barrier, but as the marriage enters a lull and the petty frictions between the couple increase, effective communication becomes crucial.
Often, a misunderstood word can trigger an unnecessary quarrel and exacerbate the emotional rift.
There are two main reasons for the breakdown of Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi's marriage: one is that both parties have failed to make enough efforts to adapt to each other and maintain their marriage, including learning each other's language, and second, there is a significant gap between them in terms of status and popularity.
With the decline of Zhang Nara's popularity in Chinese, Cai Lin has risen rapidly in China with a number of hit dramas, becoming an earlier and well-known Korean actress with rich acting resources.
In contrast, Gao Ziqi's career is much more bland, and neither fame nor resources can be compared with Cai Lin.
In addition, as a member of the entertainment industry, Cai Lin seems to have a certain prejudice against insiders, making it clear that she does not want her spouse to be from the same industry, especially excluding actors, men younger than herself, and people with blood type B.
Gao Ziqi just met these four "prohibitions", although Cai Lin may have avoided people with blood type B because of her past experience, Gao Ziqi's persistent pursuit and chatting day and night with the help of translation software finally touched her heart.
Unfortunately, their love has not stood the test of reality.
Gao Ziqi and Cai Lin have never been able to overcome the language barrier, lack of substantive mutual compromise and change, and the relationship maintained only by a momentary passion is unsustainable after all.
The two even had a heated argument over language differences, and Gao Ziqi blurted out the word "god J disease" during a conflict, but everyone knew that this word was extremely disrespectful and invective in Korean culture.
As a result, language problems become more pronounced after having children, and the challenges of transnational marriages become more and more severe.
Compared with Choo Ja Hyun and Yu Xiaoguang, who are also transnational couples but can work together, they know how to pay for each other and work hard to adapt to each other's culture, Gao Ziqi and Cai Lin's situation is more like a tragedy like Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng - the man wins the woman's trust with sweet words, but fails to give due love and tolerance after marriage, and finally divorce seems to be an inevitable ending.
【6】
Choo Ja Hyun: A strong actress who blooms from adversity
Choo Ja Hyun's marriage experience is completely different from many people, and her acting career is also full of ups and downs and persistence.
By starring in the TV series "The Temptation to Go Home", Choo Ja Hyun left an indelible impression on the audience and quickly became popular in China.
Behind this glamorous and glamorous, she has an unknown bitter past.
Choo Ja Hyun's birth did not bring joy to the family, but because of the patriarchal concept in the family, she was neglected since she was a child.
The life was already full of hardships, and it was even worse after his sister's accidental drowning.
Her mother suffered from schizophrenia because she couldn't bear the huge blow, and every time she got sick, she would speak ill of Choo Ja Hyun and blame her for not being the one who died in place of her sister.
Such a family environment did not make Choo Ja Hyun succumb to fate, but made her stronger and braver.
When Choo Ja Hyun was 17 years old, her parents chose to divorce due to emotional discord, which made her have to rely on her own efforts to face the weight of life.
She worked part-time and worked hard to get into college, but because she couldn't afford the high tuition fees and daily expenses, she even had to choose to shoot large-scale photos to get by.
Although these experiences have become her black history, they have also made her cherish the opportunities she has now.
In 2006, Choo Ja Hyun successfully won the opportunity to perform in the movie "Life and Death" with his excellent appearance and superb acting skills.
Her performance in this film was widely recognized, and she won the "Best New Actress" award at the 43rd Korean Film Awards.
This laid a solid foundation for her future acting career.
In 2007, Choo Ja Hyun followed the trend and came to China to develop.
Faced with the difficulty of language barriers, she not only did not back down, but worked harder to learn Chinese in order to better cooperate with her partner.
Her professionalism and professionalism have made the crews she has worked with full of praise for her.
Subsequently, she successively starred in film and television works such as "The Legend of the Banner Heroes" and "The Legend of Chu Liuxiang", and gradually emerged in the entertainment industry.
In 2011, the hit broadcast of "The Temptation to Go Home" made Choo Ja Xuan popular all over the country.
This drama not only brought her career to the peak, but also won her the honor of "Most Popular Overseas Actor" at the Asian Idol Festival.
Since then, China has become her second hometown, where she has found her own stage and sense of belonging.
Choo Ja Hyun, a Korean actress who has created roles and touched thousands of audiences with her true feelings, although she shines brightly on the screen and has won the love and followers of countless fans, behind the spotlight, whenever she returns home after a busy day's work, she is accompanied by endless loneliness.
How she longs to have a soulmate to share the joy of success with her and spend every bit of life together.
Fortunately, all these shortcomings were successfully made up for after meeting Yu Xiaoguang.
The two became acquainted because they co-starred in the TV series "The Legend of Nanqiao Mechanic Heroes", and during the filming of the crew, there were many romantic scandals between them.
It wasn't until 2015 that Choo Ja Hyun publicly admitted her relationship with Yu Xiaoguang on Weibo, and published a long affectionate confession, announcing to the world that she had found her own happiness.
After two years of love, the lovers decided to enter the palace of marriage hand in hand, and netizens left messages of blessings, especially for Xiaoguang: "Take good care of Choo Ja Hyun." It can be seen that this Chinese daughter-in-law Choo Ja Hyun has a very high degree of favorability and popularity in the hearts of the audience.
After getting married, Choo Ja Hyun and Yu Xiaoguang were invited to participate in the Korean variety show "Same Bed, Different Dreams", and the program camera truly recorded their sweet daily life.
In the show, Yu Xiaoguang's love for Choo Ja Hyun is beyond words, he not only learned Korean hard in order to better communicate with his wife, but also took the initiative to hand over the family finances and was willing to accept Choo Ja Hyun's "training".
Under Choo Ja Hyun's "coercion and temptation", Yu Xiaoguang even signed a series of seemingly "unequal" husband and wife treaties.
Although in the play, Yu Xiaoguang often shows people with an honest and tough image, but in private, he is an out-and-out "wife slave", often selling cute and playing treasures, just to win a smile from his beloved wife.
Yu Xiaoguang's parents also know that Choo Ja Hyun has not been easy along the way, and they love Choo Ja Hyun as if she were their own daughter.
In the show, once Choo Ja Hyun accidentally burned his hand while cooking for his in-laws, and her mother-in-law immediately asked with concern: "Is it hot?" This simple but caring sentence made Choo Ja Hyun's eyes red instantly and moved.
After marrying Yu Xiaoguang, Choo Ja Hyun not only gained a happy love, but also experienced the family care that he had never experienced before.
The warmth of family, which is so common to us, is as precious to her.
Whenever Choo Ja Hyun and Yu Xiaoguang disagree, her in-laws always stand on her side without hesitation, and this unconditional support is enough to show Choo Ja Hyun's important position in the family.
【7】
Communication, dedication and career choices determine the direction of happiness
Once upon a time, Choo Ja Hyun confessed affectionately in public that if there was really an afterlife, she would still choose to marry Yu Xiaoguang.
These words undoubtedly reveal the deep emotional bond between the couple and the happiness of their married life.
In contrast, Choo Ja Hyun and Chae Lin's marriage went to a completely different ending, and the key factor behind it was the quality of communication between the husband and wife and the level of effort they put into each other.
Good communication allows both parties to better understand each other's needs and expectations, thus laying a solid foundation for the harmony and stability of the marriage, and being willing to make changes and sacrifices for the other party reflects the value and responsibility of the marriage.
Further analysis shows that the deep reasons for the breakdown of Cai Lin and Gao Ziqi's marriage are closely related to career development.
After Cai Lin moved from South Korea to the Chinese market, she faced a huge gap in career status, which made it difficult for her to accept this psychological gap, and she was eager to return to South Korea to find new development opportunities.
Gao Ziqi is reluctant to leave China, which he regards as his foundation, and the conflict between the two career plans and marital difficulties are intertwined, forming an irreconcilable contradiction.
Under this double pressure, Cai Lin unfortunately suffered from depression, and her physical and mental health was seriously affected.
On the other hand, Choo Ja Hyun, her career has not only not been hindered by transnational marriage, but is thriving.
What's more, Yu Xiaoguang wholeheartedly supported Choo Ja Hyun's career and worked with her to manage this transnational marriage, so that they achieved a successful outcome in both career and marriage.
Choo Ja Hyun is very satisfied with this, so her life is full of peace and happiness, with few complaints and dissatisfaction.