Daughter-in-law, your anger is deserved. Many daughters-in-law complain that they do not return to their hometown for the New Year, do not love to go back, are unwilling in their hearts, and are rejected. Why? Because back home there is no room of your own, or there is,

Daughter-in-law, your anger is deserved.

Many daughters-in-law complain that they do not return to their hometown for the New Year, do not love to go back, are unwilling in their hearts, and are rejected. Why?

Because when I got home, I didn't have my own room, or I had, I was arranged by my mother-in-law to my eldest sister;

Because Chinese New Year's Eve meals are cooked alone, and no one waits for her to eat;

Because her husband is looking for her buddies to play cards and drink to contact feelings, she is left alone to face her unfamiliar family;

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The reason is that my cognition has been attacked and I feel uncomfortable.

Back home there is no room, no, we are sons, are the masters, at least more than the daughters of the host, to arrange, we should give priority. If there is no priority, we have to say hello, we can let go, can not be passively dominated. This is the psychology of not being valued, and then reasoning and people, it is the mother-in-law who does it, she does not value us. So, complain about grievances.

Chinese New Year's Eve meal is cooked by one person and eaten by the whole family. What age is this, women go to work, why does the kitchen have to be a woman's? Why doesn't my son do it? And why being directed, being called, is a nasty feeling. Done and still can't eat, once again ignored, unappreciated feelings of anger. This is passively brought into the role of "female protagonist" and "junior filial piety to the elders", so it is wronged.

The husband went drinking and left him alone. Strangeness creates confrontation, feeling that you are a doll, and the husband and this guy use the role of spouse to bring back to their hometown. This character, in this scene, is exploitative, alienated from snubs and unloved.

Imagine, what kind of situation, you are not wronged, do not complain, do not feel snubbed, and you, as is the treatment?

Yes, right?

Yes.

Therefore, people's happiness is a kind of thinking, in line with their own thinking order, there is a strong sense of happiness, otherwise, there is a sense of frustration, and the discomfort of being attacked.

Aware of this, many people are displeased, resist, and resist the behavior of quarrelling, fighting, lifting the table, not returning next year, and complaining.

Moreover, if you realize this, although it does not solve the problem, she is also a good smart daughter-in-law. If the next time you argue and argue, you can categorize, what is the problem, who does how you are comfortable, he can not change what strategy you have, whether to communicate or leave. In short, you will not be out of anger, you will think calmly and deal with these problems. If you're better able to try to solve these problems, you really have a great kind of thinking, because there is no way to worry about it.