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What is it like to have a "monkey" boy in the family?
Grandma Xiaocheng: "This ass sits on the stool for less than 30 seconds, and so does eating!" Chasing and shouting after him every day, I feel like I have to live 10 years less! ”
Teacher Xiaocheng: "He is the most skinny in the class, and he can't sit still at all!" Forced to sit there and draw with children, he can do all kinds of tricks, but it is not good to draw! ”
Xiaocheng's mother: "Only I can stop him in the whole family, but it is only superficial!" ”
Xiaocheng Dad: "Boy, it's just too lively, it's useless to force him!" ”
This sentence of Xiaocheng's father was bombarded by the whole family. Because he is the most "lazy" in the whole family, regardless of the children, regardless of housework. After being counted down, Xiaocheng's father said helplessly: "As soon as I spoke, you said that I didn't understand anything with my children, and I didn't bother to say anything more!" ”
The consequence of this sentence is that the family will give the small town a winter vacation to the father to take.
Then what made the whole family dumbfounded was that the small city was really brought out of the "super concentration"! When the teacher came to visit the home at the beginning of the school, he was also surprised to see the small town sitting at the study table and seriously cooperating with his father to do puzzle games!
Although the "lazy" father is lazy, the method used is not the immediate "stupid" method, but in this 1 month, the 3 "stupid" methods used by the small city father have convinced the family.
Stupid method one: When the child plays, he either plays with it or does not bother
When the lazy father is accompanying the small town, as long as the small town is playing and there is no danger, then the lazy father never bothers. When there are requirements in the small town, the father will be like a child, playing with the small town.
Grandma and mother of xiaocheng were very troubled by this, and the "monkeys" in the family changed from 1 to 2.
Then Dad said, "A child is already energetic, let alone a boy." He needs to drain his energy to sit down. Moreover, whether the child is sitting or standing, you always stop him, always shouting him to drink water, get dressed and undress, which is destroying his concentration! It only makes him more and more reluctant to calm down and sit down. ”
Many parents should learn from this view of small town fathers: the premise of cultivating children's concentration must be to "protect" children's concentration!
Stupid method two: to make the child "sit still", parents pick up the book
Small-town dads never play with their phones during their time with their children. He would call his son to his study to play, and the town could not sit still, and was certainly not interested in books full of words.
But seeing Dad reading a book intently, Xiaocheng will also be curious and will ask Dad what he is reading. Therefore, Dad began to tell stories such as "The Classic of Mountains and Seas" and "Journey to the West" to Xiaocheng.
The little guy listened to it with relish, at least, when there was a story, he could sit still.
Children who do not have enough concentration either like to play with mobile phones or like to watch TV, but they do not like to read books. Because the video-based content of mobile phone tv is actively transmitted into the child's brain, it is too late and does not need to think, and it will only destroy the child's concentration for a long time.
In the process of listening to stories and reading books, children need to think, and thinking is also a manifestation of concentration.
Stupid method three: want to make the child "more focused", training books to help
Regarding the tools of training attention, Smalltown Dad thought a lot.
Mom and Grandma said that no tools worked, there were a lot of toys at home, and then they were all fresh for a few days, even hours. Xiaocheng Dad said, "These messy, fancy toys are useless for concentration!" It can even be broken. ”
In the end, Xiaocheng's father listened to the advice of one of his early education friends and prepared a set of training books for Xiaocheng on "The Development of the Potential of the Strongest Brain left and right brains".
What is the relationship between left and right brain development, thinking training, and concentration?
In fact, it is not difficult to understand that as long as the child is willing to think and train in accordance with the way, then his thinking is rotating in the process, and the left and right brains have been developed. During this whole process, the child is focused on thinking, and the concentration is naturally improved.
There are 10 books of training books on the potential development of the left and right brains of the strongest brain, each of which has special training, such as language expression, discriminating analysis, mathematical thinking, observation and cognition, memory development, spatial perception and so on.
This set of books is also very simple to play, only need parents to tell their children about the rules of the game on the current page, and then the children can play on their own! The games and question types are very attractive and are designed for children aged 2-6 years!
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Children like Xiaocheng are willing to sit down and play, and play for half an hour or more! Moreover, the more children play, the smarter they get!
Children's concentration, in addition to protection, also needs to be cultivated.
Instead of letting the child "play blindly" and playing with parents and teachers, it is better to use the training book to let the child "play" out of concentration, thinking ability and so on.
The same is play, but the gap is very large!
Summary: In fact, these three methods are very common methods, without any skills, without too many bells and whistles, and without high fees, which seems a bit "stupid", but it can still raise a super concentration baby.
Pistachio Mom message
From the perspective of child developmental psychology, the most important thing for preschoolers is to "play"!
Similarly, the best way for preschoolers to acquire skills, cognition, etc. is to "play in middle school"!
Therefore, instead of complaining that the child is not focused, learning can not be learned, etc., it is better to find the right way, tools, etc., so that the child can gain a certain aspect of the ability in "playing"!
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