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Text | Miki porridge
If it wasn't for the appointment, I would have almost forgotten to start school.
Because the winter vacation was particularly quiet, the atmosphere of the Spring Festival was like returning to the past, huddled alone in an empty dormitory, holding a book and staying peacefully all day.
The outside world has nothing to do with yourself.
Obviously, there are still two noisy children at home, how can they live in a space together, not as anxious as before?
And it's not just that I think the school starts to be calm, the mother group that usually has to put on a flower bomb as soon as the school starts, this year is also particularly silent, occasionally floating through a few innocuous problems, and there is no feeling of relief after a long winter vacation.
This study is particularly silky, and even the handwork to prepare the supplies for the opening of the school does not exist.
I thought about it, and it could be for several reasons:
We are accustomed to the transformation of repeated epidemics, and we have given up the desire for the quiet and good years.
Especially after experiencing the consumption of the punch card of the home online class on the mother, and feeling the destructive power of the divine beasts to smash the TV, it is not strange to see anything.
Two years later, if being a parent is a homework, then you have at least survived the college graduation and have a wealth of experience in peaceful coexistence with children in a space.
Like Maori said, life was in tatters. It is also slowly getting used to two children wandering around in each house, brushing their teeth and sitting in front of you.
And what about us? Like their tried-and-tested parents, they are already confused about the sudden arrival of all kinds of pain.
Which holiday is not ready to go out and there are sporadic cases? If you want to pretend to be stupid and stubborn, you can't do it, and the teacher will send a message to prohibit running around.
Nucleic acid travel is the norm, free activity is the abnormal. In the two years of the epidemic, we have long been prepared to isolate online classes at home at any time.
I was also used to days when there were no training courses.
Already able to calmly watch the learning and thinking of closing the teaching point, New Oriental's Old Yu group went to live stream with agricultural goods. Even teachers who can't get enough of the faces of relatives and friends to help tutor children are reported, and such things are not strange.
After all, even if you take your own online classes at home, you may be defined as "malicious self-study".
After the double subtraction, there is no class performance distribution map in the parent group, and there is no need to look at others in the circle of friends to force a high and low score... Even the chicken blood parents were silent.
Parents standing at the top of the chain of chicken baby contempt are in chicken sports. The results have become the basic indicators when they reach the limit, and those who read well and can play sports are the children in the circle of friends.
It's just a sample of the success of the double chicken, shining with a brighter light of money.
The lonely parents of the school bully finally walked down the altar by themselves, either to dry the dishes eaten for dinner, or to dry the middle-aged physical examination report, there was no bloody rain and wind in the extracurricular class, and the middle-aged people's group was full of fireworks.
The child actually completed the winter vacation homework by himself.
It's a miracle. The child who has been worrying you, it is useless to be nagged for several years, when the mother is determined to give up, and even began to think, if she can't get into high school to learn what craft to lean on, suddenly saw a glimmer of light, this child knows that he has to plan.
Each day, do a chapter of each of the four assignments, and calculate that it will take about ten days to complete. I was too little, so I took out the chinese mathematics small exam paper and said you should practice more. She actually took over without conditions, which surprised me. This is... The rebellious period is over?
In this way, the mother and daughter lived in harmony for two days.
She had to write her homework all morning, and she didn't have time to read idle books and didn't have time to take care of her brother. The younger brother was like a tank, running over every room. When the mother couldn't help it, she ran over to study the homework one by one, deleted the problems that didn't need to be brushed repeatedly and stupidly, and let her have more time to play. Both men rejoiced.
Before the start of the school, I did not stay up late, desperately doing the final sprint, and the beginning of the school also had a little more tranquility.
Before I always broke up with her, reading well is to make herself have a broader choice, she may not really understand what "choice" means, but there is a compromise, knowing that she has to do something, can not escape, it is better to get it done first.
The school year was calm not only because we "didn't struggle", but also because the year was too intense. Fierce to the point that we decided to only do the father and mother who lay flat.
The Winter Olympics have been refreshing China's pride, and there are constantly role models and parents to inspire, not just focus on the immediate gains and losses, but also to take a long-term view, and play can also play into famous schools.
After looking at the new generation of "other people's children" Su Yiming, after taking the Olympic gold and silver medal and showing maturity beyond age, will his parents still worry about what school he can enter?
I am afraid that the biggest problem he faces now is which top school to choose?
But would you be jealous? No.
This was not possible before. There will definitely be people competing, they think other people's children can do it, how can our children not? Now after the epidemic and the Winter Olympics, when parents' thinking has changed:
I'm sorry boy! I really can't be Gu Ailing's mother.
Parents' self-compromise is like a child who completes his homework in advance and knows that he has to admit his fate, but he can't escape anyway, but it is better to give up first.
Acknowledging that you are incompetent parents is not necessarily a bad thing.
Two years ago, I interviewed a strong woman in the workplace who managed thousands of people. Children are barely ever brought before the age of 3 and travel every day. Once after half a year on an assignment, the mother and daughter met, and the child did not recognize the mother.
But that didn't stop her from having a good child. A person goes to the United States to study and work, and keeps his own affairs in order. I wonder what's the secret? This mother said very implicitly, showing weakness.
Once, when she went out with her child and walked from the Mediterranean Sea to the Arctic Circle, this strong woman in the workplace lay flat all the way as an incompetent team member, eating, wearing, living and letting the child arrange everything. Angry to the point that the child can't help but complain while working hard:
How can you be such a worrying mom?!
When the mother is worried, the child must quickly become independent.
Most of our generation grew up with a bunch of keys hanging around their necks, washing clothes and cooking when they got home from school, and learning to sew buttons and scramble tomatoes and eggs very early. Unlike today's children, 8 or 9 years old, even the gas stove has not been turned on, teach her to make a small hanging pear soup, frightened hands even shrink back, rotate a dozen times the button is stunned is not able to fire...
This generation of children can't take care of themselves, all because the previous generation is too capable, and the children shout before they enter the kitchen: Danger! You don't move. I think when we were parents, my parents seemed to be "incompetent", how could they be "omnipotent" when they became grandparents?
We haven't survived to the age of omnipotence, so now rest assured to be incompetent parents and compete less with yourself. Once there is no competition, the opening of the school is no longer a test of chaos.
At most, tell the teacher to prepare the prepared materials, and the other words are too lazy to say more. Instead, the children went home to work, wrapped up book covers, and prepared stationery materials.
When mom watched silently, she finally couldn't help but breathe a sigh of relief:
Finally, it is not necessary to be like the disgusting old mothers in the dream of the Red Chamber, and naturally avoid the risk of being regarded as a "death bead" without glory by this post-10s.
This is life, and if you can put it down, you will survive it.