The first winter vacation under the "double subtraction" is also another winter vacation to encourage the new year in place. School is about to start, how is this winter vacation? I don't know how my son is, but I have learned a lot of skills through him.
When my son was 2 years old, I bought him a bicycle, and at that time, the car was very large, and I wanted to say that I could ride it for a longer time, and 5 years passed in the blink of an eye. Two months ago, he was shouting with high frequency, trying to change to a bigger car. So we chose the Internet, 20 inches tall more than 130, now he is not yet, but buy a smaller and afraid of riding for a long time, I also hesitated.
Until the end of the year, he took a lot of money. Every night he and his friends will race downstairs, and recently many of his peers have changed 20 inches. I thought to myself, well, delayed gratification is enough. Unexpectedly, he asked whether he could buy a new bicycle with his own pressure money. No need for me to spend money, I readily agreed. Opening the shopping cart that had been lying down for 2 months, from the moment he placed the order, my son would intermittently tell me how much he was looking forward to it. At the moment of arrival, his expectations turned into happiness and reached the maximum peak.
I learned:
Delayed gratification + spending money by himself, this trick not only reduces his idea of spending money indiscriminately, but also cherishes his hard-won possessions, which he has never had before - he puts the new car away, locks it, cleans it up, and protects it.
Winter Vacation Compulsory Courses: Catch homework before school starts. There is still a hand-copied newspaper that has not been done, and the A4 paper is required, and the home is just running out. Dad's inspiration was sometimes so rapid that the opportunity to train his son came: I decided to let him try buying paper alone for the first time.
The son frowned and muttered, "Huh? I don't dare. ”
I couldn't help but laugh: "In the flower market for the New Year, haven't you already tried to spend money to buy flowers for the first time?" Now you're just going alone. ”
The son let go of his eyebrows slightly: "But you have to accompany me." ”
I clenched my fists and said, "I'm sure you can." ”
After 10 seconds, the son gradually grinned, "Okay then." But I was afraid that my grandmother would scold me. ”
I smiled and said, "It's all right, I'll talk to her." ”
I first explained my thoughts to the family, so that they could rest assured that my son was wearing a telephone watch, reaching into his pocket with one hand and holding 50 pieces tightly, and went out with joy.
The distance from my home to the stationery store is less than 100 meters, with a small zebra crossing in the middle, which can be seen from my bedroom window. I took out my phone, my hands trembling slightly, and recorded my son's first life as I watched.
After about 5 minutes, I finally looked out the window and found my son. Although he walked forward with his back to me, and far away, I could tell from his unbridled arms and confident strides that he was not as nervous as he had imagined, and he must still be smiling at this time. Straight to the stationery store, 2 minutes later, I vaguely saw him walking back with difficulty, and the box of A4 paper in his hand was certainly not light. Immediately after crossing the road, he arrived home, his grandmother could not let go of her heart after all, I saw her go over to pick up her son, gave him two thumbs up, touched his head, and walked forward while holding his shoulders.
American educator Jane Nelson said in Positive Discipline: "Part of the art of parenting is knowing when to relax restrictions. "If you look closely at your child, you'll see that they're recklessly challenging the boundaries you've set again and again. Often, your child will have the ability to complete a bigger challenge before you're mentally prepared.
At the beginning of the holiday, I let him make his own winter vacation plan, and as long as the plan is completed, he can freely choose the time to complete. I don't want him to be strict to the machine work and rest every half hour, so as not to be frustrated or even lazy because he can't finish it, and cultivate his self-consciousness and self-discipline in learning.
Many people often say that when someone prides himself on having a good temper, please let him try to help the child write homework.
When I tutored him to do his homework during the winter vacation, when my emotions were about to explode, I would tell myself that I would think about the large amount of time spent reading parenting books, and think of my parents who were hospitalized for counseling on the news, so I slowly practiced the normal state of self-control and low blood pressure.
Respect and trust the child, let the child exercise the right to choose, the child is more willing to follow the choice they have made, believing that their child is a person who can learn from the challenges of life and grow into an excellent person.
School start anxiety?
The son said that he didn't feel much.
But I was very anxious. Provisional notice, the start of the school year will be postponed by one week. I'm anxious about when school will start! I need liberation and freedom!
Just as I was typing the last paragraph, the group in the class sent a notice: elementary school students have to delay the start of school again.
What else to learn? My mind was broken.