"Such a simple question can also be wrong, how can you be so stupid?" Everyone takes a test of 100 or more, 90 points or more, you can't pass a pass! Can you understand something? When Jiajia took the test paper home to her mother, her mother opened her eyes in anger and reprimanded loudly, and Jiajia was scared and cried.
The test results were not good, Jiajia had been criticized by the teacher in the class, and when she returned home, she really hoped that her parents could listen to his grievances and troubles. But mom and dad didn't understand her at all, and would only scold her and reprimand her.
What should parents do with their children's test scores?
As a parent, you must first see whether your child's test score has improved or regressed, and then you can guide your child to say whether her recent learning situation is careless or not as serious as before. Parents should consider from the perspective of the child, do not judge the child with contrast and utilitarian psychology, which is very unfair to the child.
Each student's grades cannot be completely stable, it is normal to be high and low, children do not test well, they will be sad, but also think that parents will scold, the pressure is greater.
To tell the truth, the child's usual grades are really not so important, a good attitude is the most important, and the examination room for major examinations relies on a good attitude. Usually too tight pressure and big mentality is certainly not relaxed enough, as long as the usual basic can be stabilized at a level, maintain the mentality, normal play, this achievement is qualified.
When children fail, it is often the best time to cultivate children's courage and ability to resist setbacks, but many parents have lost the opportunity of education in vain, turning their children's failures into children's disasters.
To educate children about setbacks, it is not only necessary to provide children with the opportunity to be frustrated and let children experience setbacks, but also to cultivate children's resilience to setbacks, so that children can be relieved from the pain of setbacks, cheer up, and have the confidence to start life again.
This requires parents to first understand the child, to have the ability to enter the child's inner world, and secondly to seek a solution. When talking to your child, listen carefully and patiently to your child's ideas and let your child feel that you understand and support him.
If the child's mouth is blocked with the authority of the parents in an aggressive posture, the child will hold the grievances and pain in his stomach, so that every setback will increase his sense of inferiority. Whether the child is right or wrong, we should not rush to interrupt the child's words, let alone criticize the pointer, otherwise the child will stop the conversation and close himself off for fear of criticism and attack.
Teacher Chen Wumin, the founder of China's dream education ideology, said in the mingmin education offline courses: "Educating children to be angry and scold children is the most incompetent performance, every time they scold, children hate in their hearts, especially when they speak language that hurts children's self-esteem!" Parents should understand that it is not difficult for children to improve their academic performance, it is difficult for a child to change their awareness of learning, why it is more important than learning, efficiency is more important than effort, and learning planning is more important than tutoring institutions! Three steps to enhance learning awareness: 1. Protect good learning interests and feelings from an early age! 2. Inspire children to have great dreams in life! 3. Plan a clear route for your child's education!
As a parent, we must give our children enough security, so that children will have enough love and energy, and at the same time bring enough courage and confidence to their children. Wrong love stops is forward! Understanding is the language of love, the love of parents will warm the child's frustrated heart, the child will draw strength from it, build confidence to overcome setbacks, and hold his head high to meet more challenges.