Some people say that 80% of the contradictions in a family can be solved with money.
But no one tells you where the money comes from and how to keep your wallet.
Most people think that it is better to make money by any means than to be poor.
Since ancient times, home and everything is prosperous, and qi can make money.
"Harmony" is more precious than gold. Even if the family is poor, as long as the family is united, it can slowly become rich.
As the old saying goes: "After the mid-autumn festival, the brightness decreases, and people are free from everything in middle age." ”
Therefore, middle-aged couples, in the process of running marriage and family, are often afraid of the following four things. See if your home has one? If there is one, it will be changed, and if there is none, it will be encouraged.
01
The children did not argue, and the hearts of their parents were chilled.
In the TV series "Little Shed", it tells the story of a group of adults who have gone through countless hardships in order to educate their children.
In the opening sermon, Nan Li's daughter Huan Huan won the first place in the singing competition at school, and her grandfather called at the first time to express congratulations; Nan Jianlong Zhang Luo ate with the whole family.
In order to educate children well, adults like to toss. It costs a lot of money to buy a school district house, accompany students, participate in tutoring classes, etc., but at all costs.
Reality always strikes parents hard – too many children, unsympathetic.
Gorky said: "Whoever loves the child the most will love him, and only those who love the child can educate the child." ”
Parents' licking of calves, if not reciprocated, will be cold.
Think about it, when you go home after overtime and see your children slowly swallowing up their homework, or an arrogant and rude attitude, how can you not be angry?
Children do not fight, parents work hard, but also feel meaningless, slowly decadent.
02
Husbands and wives have different hearts and help each other.
Many couples are not divorced because of lack of money, but because of the three views.
I have seen such a passage: "Life is getting worse and worse, when two people's outlook on life values are different, how painful it is not to be able to communicate, now you can only get by for the sake of your children, trust and respect are mutual, at this moment you can only say to yourself for the sake of your children for a while." 」 ”
For the sake of the growth of the child, the husband and wife endured again and again, swallowed the angry words alive, desperately squeezed out a smile, and pretended to walk and eat casually.
When the heart is depressed to the extreme, the husband and wife will not quarrel, but will not say a word. Busy with each other, even if someone betrays the family, it is a blind eye.
It is very realistic that in the process of starting a business, a person strives hard, a person speaks coldly, and desperately pours cold water. A good career has also become a bad luck.
Husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken. Couples with the same three views do not abandon each other, and they can survive the hard days.
03
The sisters are not harmonious, and it is difficult for them to work hard.
The old patriarch told us: "Brothers are like brothers and sisters." ”
The family's money, whether in the hands of the boss or in the hands of the second, does not matter. The left and right hands cooperate with each other, the strength is stronger, and the accumulation of money can do great things.
During the Kangxi Dynasty of the Qing Dynasty, Lin Xi, a southern student, went to Beijing to take the exam, and all the way to eat and sleep, plus the living conditions at home before were too good, and people looked squeamish, so they got a serious cold.
The student Qin Feng's family was poor, and he walked to catch the exam, and a few pairs of shoes were torn on the road.
Coincidentally, the two of them stayed in the same inn. At night, Qin Feng heard Lin Xi in the next room coughing, so he went to knock on the door. Since then, the two have become friends.
Lin Xi spent money to buy clothes and shoes for Qin Feng, and Qin Feng took good care of Lin Xi and helped him boil medicine to cure his illness.
Later, both of them were admitted to the jinshi, and their children also married happily, which was passed down as a good story.
Brothers and sisters are more united than any friend. Regardless of winning or losing, it is their own business, making money, and the fat water does not flow to the fields of outsiders.
However, some brothers and sisters, in order to compete for their parents' property, borrow money from each other, etc., make a lot of noise. A big family like a scattered sand, that is, money passes through the door, and it will also be lost because of endless competition.
Middle-aged couples, as members of a big family, if they get the strength of their brothers and sisters, they will easily solve difficulties, if they can't, they can only die, and they may also achieve nothing because their relatives dismantle the stage.
04
Health is not always there, and it costs money to suffer.
I have seen a message: Liu Lingfeng, a 37-year-old man born in Wuhan, originally had a happy family. The wife is beautiful and diligent, and the two sons are well-behaved and sensible. He worked hard and became a well-known local advertising planner.
For a while, he felt that his body could not hold up, and rushed back to his hometown in Wuhan to the hospital for examination.
Soon, he was diagnosed with peritonitis with gallbladder stones, kidney stones, urinary tract infections, intestinal obstruction, and was admitted to an intensive care unit. Even more incredibly, he had stomach cancer.
Before entering the hospital, he sent a circle of friends and said: "I feel like I am coming to the end of my life." ”
A heartless word, speaking through his own destiny.
Middle-aged people must understand: "In this world, except for life and death, everything else is a small thing." ”
When you're desperately trying to make money, think about how many more years you can live.
Children cannot live without parents, elderly parents cannot "send white-haired people to black-haired people", lovers cannot lose their marriages; the family cannot be without pillars.
One person gets sick and drags down the whole family. There are many such things, perhaps around you. You should take this as a warning and adjust the way you live your life.
When you put your heart in the world of money, you should wake up. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, don't get together with your family, and don't alienate your parents.
The house is smaller, as long as it is warm; the car is used for transportation, do not blindly pursue.
Stay healthy, everything you lose, you can get back. Even if you are poor all your life, you can embrace the sunshine in your arms.
05
As the saying goes, "Having money makes a ghost grind." ”
Be human, really don't be carried away by "chicken soup". Everything should be divided into two points: money is a necessity of life, but more money and less money can live a life.
When people reach middle age, what is rare and valuable is that they are lowly worthy of life.
Don't blindly buy things, don't be tempted by the variety of goods in the market. You can buy it or not, and you will not buy it resolutely.
Not comparing with others, as long as the life of their own family is slowly getting better, it is a gratifying thing.
Do not force the family to do anything, but according to the actual situation, guide the family to take the right path and be a useful person to society.
Instead of competing for the parents' property, actively take care of the parents. Brothers and sisters, let one let go, the heavens and the earth are wide.
Middle-aged couples should understand as soon as possible that the real basis of life is a harmonious family, a happy marriage, a normal mentality, and good quality.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.