With the broadcast of "Xiao MinJia", the audience was almost blown up by the pair of Liu Xiaojie and Xu Zheng. In the face of Xu Zheng, who has a strong desire to control and an extreme personality, Liu Xiaojie has repeatedly tolerated it and flashed marriage for the second time!
It's really hard to understand, look beautiful, work is stable, have money and a car and a house, there is a qianfeng who especially understands himself, why did Liu Xiaojie choose a scumbag again?
This is not the first time that Liu Xiaojie has fallen behind emotionally.
Liu Xiaojie's first marriage was with his mother Bao male Tong Bing, after marriage, because her mother-in-law always liked to meddle in the lives of the two, Liu Xiaojie finally chose to divorce.
Just as we applauded Liu Xiaojie's "fast knife cutting mess". Unexpectedly, she ignored it and flashed marriage again.
Xu was a very controlling person, he exaggerated to the point that he even ate his nephew's vinegar; seeing Qian Feng on Liu Xiaojie's shoulder, he was so angry that he crashed the car into Qian Feng's car!
He always brainwashed Liu Xiaojie, "I love you very much" and "because I care about you"; he tricked Liu Xiaojie into carrying his parents to get a permit; confiscated Liu Xiaojie's computer and mobile phone, in order to prevent Liu Xiaojie from going out, he did not hesitate to self-harm and stabbed himself in the thigh!
Liu Xiaojie is very capable in life and work, why is it unclear when it comes to feelings? Put the Qian Feng in front of you don't want to choose the scumbag again and again, a flash marriage is not enough, even dare to choose a second time?
Always say that art is higher than life, in fact, life is more bloody than art, in real life, there are many girls like Liu Xiaojie, in the face of love, in the face of scumbags, girls have no remorse, moths to put out fire, and finally all over the body.
Why, some girls are so easy to attract scumbags? In the face of scumbags, they are always confused?
Without love, they can't live
It is very interesting that Liu Xiaojie, Liu Xiaomin and his mother, a family of three are divorced.
Liu Xiaojie's parents broke up very early, and it was not easy for her mother to pull the two sisters up by herself. Although the mother loves them very much, she has to admit that the lack of father's love has a fatal emotional impact on girls. The daughter's earliest understanding of love originated from her father. Girls who lack fatherly love are prone to early love and early marriage.
As Teacher Li Xue said: "Because she did not have a stable personality core, she did not taste unconditional and focused love in her childhood." A man who spends some money for her will make her feel that no one has ever been so good to me and cares so much about me. There is no way to repay, only to donate the body and keep the relationship. ”
At the same time, the two failed marriages of her mother and sister made Liu Xiaojie's heart lack of security, which was actually very fragile.
Although she is strong on the surface and looks like a strong woman, this is just the armor she built for herself to protect herself, which looks strong, but it is actually vulnerable.
In the face of a man like Qian Feng, who has no routine, she will firmly stop him outside, but in the face of Xu Zheng, who breaks the siege for himself, sends himself to work, and sends chicken soup, these "warm" routines easily break the shell, and Liu Xiaojie easily falls into it.
Liu Xiaojie's heart is too lacking in love, they lack the love of the opposite sex, they are too yearning for love, and it is easy to be impressed by the little good of others, and such a girl is easy to become the target of scumbags.
The "love brain" of love is bigger than the sky
American psychologist Fossick once said that there are no failed marriages in the world, only failed people, and all marriage problems reflect the essence of human beings.
The same family origin, the same once had a failed marriage, sister Liu Xiaomin faced the second choice, very cautious, and even in the face of marriage is not easy to let go.
And the sister to eat a loss is not enough, immediately choose to be on the second time. Liu Xiaojie is a typical love brain, in the face of love, she has become unclear.
In the final analysis, it is still a difference in personality, Liu Xiaojie usually has a big grin and looks very refreshing, but from the perspective of the first marriage is a flash marriage flash, she is an irrational love brain, easy to impulsively do things.
People who love brains, in this love, it is easy to put themselves in a very humble position, they would rather sacrifice themselves, but also make each other happy;
They are easily blinded by love, can not see each other's little problems, even if the shortcomings, in the eyes of the love brain, is also an amplified advantage;
People who love brains like to dream, she always thinks that the other party can change for herself, and always fantasizes about which person the other party loves last!
You can never explain the reason with the person who is in love with the brain, and your advice is "uneasy and kind" in her eyes, until she is injured all over the body, she does not know regret, but in the face of the next relationship, she still does not repent.
What is the bottom line in love?
Why does Liu Xiaojie always know at the last moment how bad the other party is?
The fact that the man will hide part of it before marriage is one reason, and Liu Xiaojie's own bottom line is too low is the most important reason. In the face of Xu Zheng's repeated demands to advance, Liu Xiaojie constantly chose to forgive, and eventually caused his own tragedy.
In "Children of the Qiao Family", Qiao Simei is a girl with no bottom line, who is repeatedly tolerant and unprincipled in the face of her husband's cheating, which leads to Qi Chenggang being more unscrupulous.
A few days ago, in a college library, a video of a boy constantly slapping his girlfriend's face was uploaded to the Internet, and the girl faced her boyfriend's slap, without a trace of resistance and dissatisfaction, and still calmly read with her boyfriend after being beaten.
In the face of love, these girls always set their bottom line too low. They always believe that the other person's impulse is because they love themselves; they blindly and confidently believe that the other person will definitely change for themselves.
As everyone knows, nature is difficult to move, today is a slap, tomorrow is a fist, today he is jealous for you, tomorrow will go to extremes. Your repeated concessions will only be exchanged for the other party's gains!
Step by step, step by step, and finally let yourself be confused and deep in the mud.
Oswald Schwartz said that "a happy marriage is one of the greatest happiness in life, and an unhappy marriage is tantamount to living in hell." ”
As a parent, we hope that our children will have a happy marriage in the future, and the child's concept of love, marriage, and mate selection standards are actually formed and accumulated little by little.
Therefore, in the education of children, we must pay attention to it
Parents should show more kindness and love
Hellinger, the founder of the famous family arrangement system, proposed that the happy family relationship is like this: the couple stands closely side by side, and the child stands in the middle position in front of the parents, forming a stable isosceles triangle relationship. Husbands and wives are life partners and common destiny. Of all family relationships, husband and wife are the first.
Children have seen the best love in the love of their parents, and when they grow up, boys will be more positive and positive in getting along with friends of the opposite sex and their attitudes towards married life; girls will be more rational and calm in the face of love, they will take their father as a template, choose carefully, and will not easily give up their bottom line.
Bottom-line education should be carried out for children
Whether it is boys or girls, there must be a bottom line education. This bottom line includes the moral bottom line, the physical bottom line and the emotional bottom line.
The moral bottom line, let the child know what can and cannot be done, especially in feelings, boys with moral education know how to respect women, care for women, and cherish women. Girls know what can be forgiven and which must not be compromised!
The bottom line of the body, which is especially important for adolescent children, boys do not force each other, girls know how to protect themselves.
Emotional bottom line, love is not OK, Ning Que is not abusive is responsible for their own best. Don't train your child to become a love brain, face value control, can balance feelings and life, can choose the person who is most suitable for themselves, this is a smart child!
A person's life, accompanied by a lover to spend most of their lives, how to choose, how to choose determine the quality of your life in the second half of your life!
There are boys in the family, and parents should not raise them to be "scumbags".
There are girls in the family, and parents should not cultivate them into "love brains".
Calmly and rationally face love, in order to harvest a person who accompanies a lifetime.