In 2019, in a courtyard in the countryside of Huainan, Anhui Province, a middle-aged man slapped himself like crazy, "snapping" one after another, very loud.
A few steps away from the man, the man's biological son, who was agitated, wanted to cross the barrier of several people and rushed over to beat his biological father.
Seeing that everyone was blocking the road, the son was angry, so he grabbed the dustpan of the family with his hand, and smashed it viciously at his father with all his strength.
After the dustpan fell short, the son was still not relieved of his hatred, and he actually slammed his head into the guardrail on the wall like a madman, in order to vent his anger.
The situation intensified, and both father and son refused to back down. The father complained bitterly, to the effect that his son had spent all his 2 million yuan and reached out to him every day for money!
Now, when Dad's debt is heavy, his body has collapsed, and he still owes 360,000 foreign debts, and he doesn't know how to pay it back, where is the money for filial piety?
On the son's side, he was scolding his father for not giving him money, and giving those few cents was like sending for food! Leave him undignified! After saying this, the son turned over the old account and reprimanded his father for "not having a face."
The son said that as soon as he and his wife moved out to live, the father would drink medicine to commit suicide, and demanded that the son must send his daughter-in-law back.
The son could not understand whether the daughter-in-law had lived with her father or with herself. It was clearly his own daughter-in-law, why should he listen to his father, and why did he manage it so widely? So, what is the truth of the matter?
The middle-aged man in brown clothes, named Li Sijin, is 44 years old. He has two sons, the eldest of whom is 23 years old and is named Li Xu.
The youngest son is only 11 years old, and he still needs to spend a lot of money to bring up, so that he can study, buy a house, and marry a daughter-in-law. Li Sijin was very diligent and willing to endure hardships, engaged in the fishing industry, and his wife worked in textile factories in other places.
The house where Li Sijing lived was a new two-story building. This small courtyard in the countryside is very well decorated and the area is relatively large. There is a motorcycle parked in the courtyard, and there is air conditioning hanging on the wall, which gives people the overall feeling, full of peace and happiness.
Although Li Sixing's family is not very rich and expensive, but the annual income can be 150,000, such a level in the countryside, has been very good. It is reasonable to say that there is no shortage of houses, there are small savings, and life should be prosperous.
But unfortunately, behind this envy, in this family, the state of the biological father and son is like water and fire, the expression on the face of the family is not related to the word happiness, and the life is quite screwed.
According to Li Sijin, the root cause of this culprit is the eldest son, Li Xu. The thing he regretted most for so many years was that he had given birth to this son, and he really shouldn't have supported him.
For 23 years, he had eaten and drunk well, spent a lot of money, but as a result, he raised a "white-eyed wolf", who was angry with himself several times and vomited blood, and had to be hospitalized for recuperation.
Even if the son nibbles on the old man, what makes him unable to let go is that the son even beat Li Sijing violently, making the neighbors laugh at the eight townships, this kind of thing is intolerable!
Li Sijin's eldest son, Li Xu, just by looking at his appearance, is also a big guy. But in his father's eyes, he was worthless and had been out in trouble since he was a child.
Because Li Xu did not have good grades when he went to school, he dropped out of school at home at the age of 12. After dropping out of school, Li Xu did not learn a skill, but mixed with some second-rate ghosts, and it was common to fight and fight.
Every time his son got into trouble, Li Sijin had to follow behind and apologize to others, losing both money and face.
The father was very disappointed in his son Li Xu, but because Li Xu was underage, he was the guardian, and Li Sijing had to take care of it.
Finally, after 5 years of suffering, Li Xu turned 18 years old and met the girl he liked.
I thought that after the boys got married, they would be able to stabilize and take care of the family a little. After becoming a father, you can be more considerate of your father's difficulties and be filial to your parents. But in the end, Li Xu still let his father down.
Just a few days before Li Xu married his fiancée, he provoked a moth again. That day, he was eating at a restaurant with his fiancée and girlfriend.
However, the fiancée's girlfriend jokingly said: "You see his character, can you follow him?" The personality difference between the two people is too big, what if it is not good? ”
Unexpectedly, it was these few undesirable words that Li Xu actually rushed into the kitchen of the hotel and took a kitchen knife. Then, with a knife in his hand, he chopped off his fingers in front of his fiancée and girlfriend.
This frightening scene stunned everyone present. Li Sijin received a phone call and heard that his son had cut off his finger, and his heart was both painful and angry.
Without further ado, there must be no delay in giving his son the reins of this matter. However, the family's money has long been ruined by the eldest son.
Seeing that his son was going to be hospitalized to pick up his fingers, and there was no money on his side, Li Si was anxious to burn his eyebrows. Miss the golden time to take over, the finger is necrotic, and the son is crippled! What to do?
Helpless, Li Sijing, who wanted face, had to pull down his face, go out to beg relatives and friends, and find villagers and neighbors to borrow money.
But everyone in ten miles and eight townships knows that his son Li Xu has a bad reputation, who is willing to lend money to such a family!
Li Sijin knew it, so he had to plead repeatedly, and after some tossing and turning, the money finally arrived, and Li Xu's fingers were connected, but Li Xu's marriage was almost ruined.
Out of this file incident, it proves that Li Xu's personality is very extreme and unreliable, and the daughter-in-law also has the meaning of repentance. Li Sijing's heart was also seven up and eight down, and he couldn't bear to let his son's marriage be yellow.
Moreover, this marriage was very good, and Li Sijin and his wife were very satisfied. He had no choice but to not want this old face, and several times he spent money on dowry gifts, entrusted matchmakers to do things, and said more good things.
For the sake of the son, he can have a stable family and marry a good daughter-in-law. Li Sijing was completely out! It is said that the boy has gold under his knees, but the son is in trouble, and the father still has to be responsible and give the son a bottom.
In order to save his daughter-in-law, Li Sijin did not hesitate to do something to lose his dignity outside the door, and knelt down to beg his daughter-in-law to agree to this marriage.
In 2017, Li Xu got married as scheduled and had two children after marriage. Li Sijing felt that the burden on his shoulders was heavier, and he could not make ends meet.
In order to make his son completely independent, he worked outside and supported his son's small family. Li Sijing made a fierce heart, did not give his son money, and completely gave his son "no grain."
He hopes that his son can wake up to the fact that earning money is the responsibility of a man, that he has a wife and children, that he should think more about his family, and that he should work hard while he is young.
Li Sijin did not stop, entrusted people to find a relationship, and found a high-paying job for his son, with a salary of more than 6,000 yuan per month.
However, the son only did 2 days of work for 5 days and did not do it. Tired, the son was tired of a word, only two days of work before resigning, which blinded the father's thoughts.
Father Li Sijin scolded more and more angrily: "Things that do not argue with each other, expect your father and mother for everything, is your parents' money flowing from the water?" ”
Li Sijing saw that his son had no job, and he reached out for money to spend, and his heart was full of mixed feelings. But in the end, he still did not give his son money and wanted to force his son again.
Such a decision immediately infuriated his son, who had no money. His son Li Xu often called, but his purpose was not to care about his parents, but to continue to manage them to ask for money.
If the father does not give money, the son will mention the father's nickname and scold: "Little four seas, small four seas, you don't give me money, don't squeeze an idea, I will get it with you what you want to do with me." ”
In addition to insulting his father, li xu, the mother who gave birth to herself and was very distressed about her son, was also a stinky scolding.
The contradiction between father and son has intensified and has reached an irreconcilable point. His son Li Xu believes that since he got married and his daughter-in-law entered the house, his father did not look at him smoothly for a day, and in his eyes, his father decided that he was not doing his proper work and doing his job.
Li Xu felt that although he had been idle and troubled since he was a child, his father was also responsible, and it was every time he educated himself on the stick that led to his rebellion today.
What makes Li Xu even more angry is that after getting married, his father drove Li Xu out of the house during the New Year in 2017. Li Xu angrily recalled his father's words, saying that he built the house!
But in fact, for the matter of spending family money, Li Xu said: "In 2014, I went to work in March, 3200 yuan a month, the family needed money to build a house, and I hit 2000 yuan every month to go home. I paid 200 yuan for my mobile phone bill, which was not enough for a month, and I bought clothes. What do I eat? My friends and I know that. ”
According to Li Xu, at that time, he ate the last meal without eating, sometimes only eating one bag of instant noodles a day, and even stealing the meals of the logistics courier company next to him.
Li Xu recounted the situation at that time, and his eyes revealed helplessness, no one cared outside, saving money and contributing money to the family to build a house, and his father should not be so ruthless and unjust.
Li Xu also revealed that after he got married, the two children were born and were not financially prosperous. I did ask my father for money, but my father's actions were too hurtful and chilling.
As a manly man, he could not bear such insults. Many times, my father threw money on the ground and asked him to pick it up, so he picked it up one by one, and even his aunt felt that he was very sad.
In order not to be embarrassed anymore, Li Xu also decided that he did not plan to live with his father anymore, but to move away with his daughter-in-law and children.
However, after each move, his father Li Sijing made a lot of trouble again, either taking medicine or committing suicide, forcing them to come back to live again.
He also said that he only needed to send his daughter-in-law back. Otherwise, where the son and daughter-in-law go to rent an apartment, the father will follow, which makes the son angry to the peak, unable to understand the father's childish behavior.
The new and old hatreds between father and son have accumulated more and more, and both of them are overwhelmed. In the end, the father and son could not be calm, and when they could not say a few words, they often scolded and beat each other, and the family was restless.
Li Sijin thought of splitting up the family, and there were still 360,000 foreign debts to be repaid, and he didn't want to spend it like this anymore. However, talking to my son, I can't talk about it at all.
Therefore, Li Sijin took the initiative to find a mediator, hoping to discuss a solution through the way of an intermediary, let the son sign the family separation agreement, reach a consensus, break off the father-son relationship, and never have contact with each other.
This time, the person entrusted was Xie Hui, director of the local township comprehensive management office. However, even if a mediator was present and the father and son met, Li Xu still ignored it and rushed out to beat his father.
Although the people who came to help mediate quickly persuaded them to stop it, they could not do anything about it several times.
In the end, the mediator had to temporarily separate the father and son to carry out ideological work, opinion transmission, and agreement signing separately.
Li Si said bitterly, my adopted son is filial piety, not to me, I am in debt, my son is still not grateful, such a day does not want to continue, just want to be separated from my son immediately.
Li Sijin said that he sincerely did not intend to help his son plug the hole and pay off the debt, hoping that his son could bear the debt. And himself, in addition to having this eldest son, there is also a younger son, only 11 years old, and his health is not very good, and he will need to take care of him in the future.
Hearing this proposal of "separating the family", Li Xu did not agree at all.
Who parents, he thinks, don't worry about their children? Don't give your child money? Debts are owed by the father and should be repaid by the father. This is Li Xu's colloquialism, and the efforts of his parents have become a matter of course in him.
Of course, it is not surprising that Li Xu has such a thought, he has been wearing clothes since he was a child to stretch out his hands and eat to open his mouth, and he has long been accustomed to his father's spoiling. However, as a hard-working father, Li Sijing could not hide his pain, and even others could not look at it.
Li Sijin cried: The matter of separating the family is not so easy!
Li Sijin said that he had also proposed: "I will open another gate for him, you don't go through a gate with me, I don't want you to take care of it, and I don't care about you." ”
But Li Sijin planned to build the courtyard wall, and he was afraid that his son would come up and smash it. The father was full of fear for his son Li Xu, in addition to money.
"I've been tired all these years, for whom?" "Do you know what I did at the gate to borrow money?" "Where am I not enough for him?" "2 million, I have spent no less than this number on him in all these years." ”
Years of hard work, scene after scene emerges. The bitterness of borrowing money, the white eyes of people, the dignity of discarding, and the helplessness of being beaten all make people feel that li Sijing, who is middle-aged, is extremely lost and disheartened.
Li Sijin recalled: "Once, a mouthful of blood from my breath spewed out and I stayed in the courtyard for 19 days. His son Li Xu didn't call a phone, and he didn't even come to see it. ”
Li Si was heartbroken, and the relationship between father and son had deteriorated to this day, so that it could not be repaired, which was also something he had never expected.
Some kind people advised Li Xu, then no matter what, it is your father, can you turn Gan Ge into a jade?
Even if you can't do it kindly, at least you shouldn't beat your father! Good lai, apologize to your biological father and comfort his father's heart.
In this regard, Li Xu argued: "He forced me to be anxious, I was injured all over my body, let me apologize, unless I die." ”
Hearing this, Li Sijing, who is a manly husband, once again burst into tears.
"The whole family is going to kill me!" Li Xu said this, the mood was particularly excited, swinging his fist and smashing into the furniture of the home, the warm pot exploded, and the crackling sound of broken glass added a lot of momentum to Li Xu.
If the timid people were at the scene, it is estimated that they would be scared enough. The neighbor old lady came over kindly, was persuading something, and had broken thoughts in her mouth.
But at this moment, Li Xu was still cursing, looking at Li Sijian outside, screaming angrily: "Forcing me to be anxious, my temper will come up today." ”
Li Sijin finally couldn't bear it, walked in and pointed to his son, and said to him: "I just came to you today to adjust, not to find you to fight, am I here to arrest you?" The father and son quarreled again, and the son was ready to move again.
Li Sijing never dreamed that his son would fight his father who had raised him for many years in front of so many people. A grievance surged into his heart, and Li Si burst into tears.
Sitting in the courtyard, Li Si was very angry: "What do you buy, I will get it for you, I don't use the money?" ”
The mediator came forward again to calm Li Sijing: "Freezing three feet is not a day's cold."
But Li Sijing was still angry: "Can I not worry?" I've been here for so many years, where's the money? Did I gamble, or did I do it? I started from scratch, what did I get? ”
The matter of separating the family is deadlocked. The old lady of the neighbor could not see it, and helped Li Sijin come up with an idea: "You earn two money, you pay off the debt." He earns two dollars, he gets food, forget it. ”
On the other side, Li Xu was still shouting: "I walked from the door of the house and drove me away." What kind of scolding, even the beast is not as good. He bought the powdered milk and I gave it to him. What does my little child drink, and in the end drink 30 yuan of milk powder, is it not shameful? ”
It can be heard that Li Xu's dissatisfaction is that he complained that his father gave too little money to make such a scene.
When the father heard this, he was so angry that he frantically slapped his mouth: "I was wrong to raise my son!" I was wrong! "The scene is awkward and disturbing.
The mediator hurried to stop it, and something came slowly. However, things did not go in a good direction, and both of them were angry.
Suddenly, Li Sijin picked up the hoe and rushed to his son. "Aaaah! Don't, don't! The courtyard was filled with screams, but soon, Li Sijin looked at his daughter-in-law's face and stopped.
"That's a good girl, a good girl of mine!" It turned out that in Li Sijin's heart, his son was not worthy of other people's daughters at all, and he delayed other people's children.
Looking at the face of the "good girl", he did not really do anything to Li Xu and was reluctant to do it.
The mediator has repeatedly stressed that today is to solve the problem, and impulse cannot solve the problem, and it is impossible to do it.
Li Sijin was still pouring bitter water: "I sold last year's rice and treated your children." I pocket private money, all for you! ”
The more Li Sijing spoke, the more sad he became, and his heart ached. He squatted down in pain and covered his chest. The mediator quickly helped him to sit down and went to the house to get a large pile of medicine.
The mediator was very concerned about Li Sijin's body, afraid that he would vomit blood again and ruin his health, and instructed Li Sijin to take medicine quickly.
Some people were anxious and urged Li Xu to quickly pour a glass of water for his father, but the mediator was very rational, did not have hope for Li Xu, and hurriedly got up to help get the water.
Li Sijin faced the dilemma and felt sad: "A Saturday hundred pieces of Chinese medicine, eat a pack a day, boil water to drink." ”
He covered his face, and after taking the medicine, he finally calmed down.
But his heart ached unbearably, he cried quietly, crying uncontrollably, grievances, heartache, hatred, helplessness, entanglement, a brain emotion, all vented out at this moment. People around are advising, don't be sick, no one is replaced by the body.
On the other side, Li Xu, knowing that his father was so angry that he wanted to take medicine, the old disease recurred, and still refused to visit his father. Mediation has reached a stalemate and has had to be stopped.
Regarding the contradiction between father and son, no neighbor is willing to say, and the neighbors around them are just waiting and watching, and they do not comment on half a word. Eventually, with the help of a mediator, the father and son finally signed a "separation" agreement.
It is said that the two agreed to break off the father-son relationship, and the debt of 360,000 yuan was repaid by Li Sijin. Son Li Xu, as long as he is responsible for his own living expenses, he can support himself.
In this way, both of them agreed, signed the pledge, and the mediator was relieved.
I thought that the matter was resolved satisfactorily, but what was unexpected was that after the mediator left, he learned that Li Sijin had been beaten into the hospital again.
This news makes people feel sad, and it is difficult to imagine what kind of suffering Li Sijin's old life will be spent in.
But I also sincerely hope that Li Xu's two children can grow up safely in such a family and grow up physically and mentally healthily.
This is like su Mingcheng's nibbling on the old man in the TV set "All Is Good", Li Xu nibbled into reality, personally ruined the father-son relationship, lost a biological father who loved him, and broke his father's heart.
A middle-aged father, only because he raised an unfilial child, suffered from old age and beatings. As a result, the family fell in the middle of the road, not only did they have no savings, but even their bodies were dragged down.
Since my son entered the society at the age of 12, fighting, losing money and apologizing, and trying to find ways to get money to do things, this is a common thing.
The son has accidents every year, and the father wipes his ass and spends money. After being busy for most of his life, my father was out there and owed a bunch of debts!
The life of Li Sijing and his son is basically "one who keeps asking for money, and one who borrows money to raise filial piety." ”
Some people say that this is Zhou Yu beating Huang Gai, one willing to fight and one willing to be beaten.
If Li Sijing is a child, he will use the right method to educate his children and cultivate his filial piety spirit as soon as possible. Perhaps, Li Xu would not have fallen to the level he is today, and it would be impossible for him to punch his father.
But there are also some people who believe that doumi nourishes grace and bears rice to raise revenge. If the child is born unfilial, no matter how good the father is to him, it is useless. The father did not stop the loss in time, but let his son be afraid.
Sometimes trying to pestering his son and managing his son's life is an irrational behavior. It is long overdue and the family property is divided as soon as possible.
However, it is difficult for qing officials to judge family affairs, and Li Sijin has the responsibility of teaching his son to have no way, but Li Xu, as a son, has not realized his father's difficulty, let alone the unethical mistake of beating his father, perhaps Li Xu can only appreciate his father's good intentions when he grows up.