Hello, hello everyone, I am Min'er, do a good job of not being busy and idle, live a wonderful life that is not salty and not light, and you and I walk together on the road of feelings...
Chinese good wishes for couples are "may lovers eventually become dependents.".
However, the world is unpredictable, there are always so many contradictions, misunderstandings, and even life and death will make lovers miss.
The bride who ran away
Thirty-four years old, deputy manager of a multinational company, in his prime, has a successful career.
He lives a simple life, takes care of his family, and although he is busy at work, he will go home at night to eat dinner with his family; during the holidays, he will volunteer and do his best to contribute more to society.
Such an excellent man, with a partner with stable feelings, has walked through the ups and downs hand in hand and is finally ready to enter the palace of marriage.
Everything is so happy and smooth, as long as you follow this road, you will usher in a happy ending.
But what no one expected was that the bride disappeared on the eve of the wedding.
The man who was struggling to find his vanished bride, named Lim Kin An, was a Malaysian.
The bride who ran away, named Xiao Fen, was a Chinese who grew up in rural Sichuan.
Born in Malaysia, Lin Jian'an has a well-off family and a successful career.
In ancient China, there was a saying called "door to door", but Lin Jian'an said that Malaysia does not pay attention to these, as long as love can be.
Although Xiao Fen's appearance is not so outstanding, in his heart Xiao Fen is the most beautiful.
One is a rich man in Malaysia, the other is an independent girl who works hard at KTV cashiering, and the two who seem to be very different are connected because of a love affair.
Lin Jian'an and Xiaofen met through the QQ drift bottle.
Such a way of communication has become the "tears of the times" of the Internet, and some people have also asked Lin Jian'an, are you not afraid of being a liar to people you know like this?
Lin Jianan said that before there was no interaction, we had videos every day.
He could be sure that the person behind the screen wasn't in disguise, and that her every smile was genuine.
Xiao Fen is a good listener, and when chatting with her, Lin Jian'an feels that she can wash away the stress and fatigue of a day's work.
She always listened quietly to Lin Jian'an to tell her about the bitterness in her heart, but she never conveyed negative emotions to Lin Jian'an.
Recalling the details of their relationship, Lin Jian'an admitted that he did not seem to give Xiao fen enough care at that time.
Xiao Fen lives a simple life and is diligent and frugal in running the family.
Lin Jian'an said that when the two interacted, he never sent flowers to Xiaofen, because every time he bought flowers, Xiaofen would complain about him spending money indiscriminately.
After the two were in contact by video for a while, Lin Jian'an came to China.
When he saw Xiao Fen, he was very excited, as if he had met his relatives, he was sure that he was very rational, and he accepted this fate given to him by God with gratitude.
The two people have been dating for more than two years and a month, but in reality they have only spent more than forty days together.
Lin Jian'an felt that he knew Xiao Fen enough, and Xiao Fen also tried to come to Malaysia to live with him.
He was in a hurry to pick up Xiao Fen at the Malaysian airport on the day, because he had to rush to work, and Lin Jian'an left after sending Xiao Fen to his home.
When I came home after a day of work in the evening, I opened the door and saw Xiao Fen and her mother preparing dinner in the kitchen, and the two of them talked and laughed.
Lin Jian'an's heart gushed with infinite tenderness at that time, that scene was like the married life of the two, so harmonious and happy, he was very happy that Xiaofen could get along with his family so well.
Xiao Fen is very considerate to him, such a gentle and gentle woman like water, let Lin Jian'an never forget, so he came to China thousands of miles away, wanted to find Xiao Fen, and also wanted to know why she left before marriage.
The last time Lin Jian'an saw Xiao Fen was Christmas day in 16 years, and on that day, he proposed to Xiao Fen.
Posing as a courier delivering the washing machine, he called Xiao Fen and asked if she was at home.
When Xiao Fen opened the door, she saw Lin Jian'an holding a diamond ring, and she was very surprised and agreed to his marriage proposal.
The two had planned to get married in 2017.
But around February 2017, Xiaofen suddenly disappeared.
Xiao Fen told Lin Jian'an that she would return to her hometown to pay respects to the New Year at the New Year.
By March, Lin Jian'an discovered Xiao Fen's abnormality, and Xiao Fen told him that he did not want to drag him down.
Xiao Fen got hepatitis B and three yangs.
Although hepatitis B is not a very deadly disease, it is highly contagious, and the two may not have children.
Lin Jian'an found that after Xiao Fen fell ill, it was like a changed person.
Xiao Fen no longer talked to him on the phone, refused to meet with him, and the two only occasionally contacted him on WeChat.
She would share interesting stories from the countryside with her on WeChat, but she would never mention the marriage between the two.
As long as Lin Jian'an began to care about where she was and which hospital she was going to go to, Xiao Fen would avoid the topic and say that she was tired and wanted to rest.
Xiao Fen is recuperating in Sichuan, and she is hiding from Lin Jian'an.
As a Malaysian, if it were not for Xiao Fen telling him the exact address, Lin Jian'an would probably never see Xiao Fen again in China in his lifetime.
Lin Jian'an said that he really couldn't do without her, without Xiaofen, he couldn't lift his spiritual work and couldn't face his life.
His biggest wish now is to take Xiaofen back to Malaysia to live and take good care of her for a lifetime.
The heroine burst into tears
In order to help Lin Jian'an find Xiaofen, the reporter went to Fushun County, Zigong City, Sichuan Province, Xiaofen's hometown.
A strange thing happened, the house was empty, no one answered no matter how there was a knock, the windows were covered with dust, and spider webs, which seemed to be uninhabited at all.
When the reporter asked the local village cadres about the chicken coop photos that Xiao Fen sent to Lin Jian'an's hometown, the village cadres said that it may have been a previous photo, and now there is no such place in the village.
In order to understand what really happened to Xiao Fen and why she lied to Lin Jian'an, the reporter inquired about the situation with Zhou Xiaofen's aunt in the same village.
My aunt said that the last time she saw Zhou Xiaofen was the year before, in 2015.
At that time, Zhou Xiaofen came back to do the building of the house, and the two met.
Zhou Xiaofen has been working in Shunde, Guangdong Province, and has never returned home in the past two years.
Therefore, the reporter went to Guangdong again and came to Zhou Xiaofen's home in Shunde according to the address provided by Lin Jian'an.
After some tossing and turning, the reporter finally met Zhou Xiaofen in Shunde, and with the efforts of the Shenzhen Satellite TV's "You Have a Letter" column group, Lin Jianan met with his fiancée Zhou Xiaofen, who had been separated for a long time.
After seeing Lin Jian'an's face, Zhou Xiaofen shed tears.
The host asked her if she knew the person on the screen, and Zhou Xiaofen said that she knew, and it was her previous boyfriend.
From her tone, every sentence revealed that Lin Jian'an was in the past tense, and she cried and told the host that she did not want to be with Lin Jian'an anymore.
"I don't want to bother him." These were Zhou Xiaofen's heartfelt words.
"I told him to break up, but he didn't agree." Zhou Xiaofen said, "I know what he is going to say when he sees me, and I don't want him to say it." ”
Lin Jian'an, who was sitting next door, saw Zhou Xiaofen say these words through the screen with tears in her eyes, and she could only have a bitter smile on her face.
Under the persuasion of the host, Zhou Xiaofen reluctantly agreed to listen to Lin Jian'an's heart again.
"Xiao Fen, in the past few months, without your days, I feel very sad in my heart. I can't eat, I can't drink, I can't even sleep. ”
Lin Jian'an couldn't help but choke up as he spoke.
In the face of such a Lin Jian'an, Xiao Fen burst into tears, but she said very firmly: "I know that many things can be chosen, so I let him leave me." ”
Lin Jian'an knew that the reason why Zhou Xiaofen left him was because he was afraid that the child born after the combination of the two would be inherited from hepatitis B.
But he checked a lot of information and learned that with the current medical means, this disease will not affect marriage and children, let alone affect their lives together.
When Zhou Xiaofen heard this news, she did not waver in the slightest.
Zhou Xiaofen's abnormal behavior makes everyone feel strange, if she is afraid of the hereditary nature of hepatitis B, but also proves that medical means can be solved, this is obviously the biggest problem between her and Lin Jian'an, why does she not have half a point of joy after getting a solution?
In fact, after talking to Lin Jian'an about going home to visit, Zhou Xiaofen actually did not go back to her hometown in Sichuan to see a doctor, but has been in Guangzhou, hiding from Lin Jian'an.
The reason why she was indifferent was simply because Zhou Xiaofen was not sick, she was just looking for an excuse to hide from Lin Jian'an.
Why did Zhou Xiaofen do this? Lin Jian'an is a good match no matter how he looks at it, is there still any irreconcilable problem between the two of them?
Zhou Xiaofen admitted that Lin Jian'an was very good to her, but good is not the whole of life.
In order to impress Zhou Xiaofen, Lin Jian'an put on a video he prepared for her.
The video was filmed in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, where Lin Jian'an stood in front of a new house wearing short sleeves and told Zhou Xiaofen off camera that he had prepared the new house to show him his carefully prepared love nest.
Zhou Xiaofen was already in tears when she saw the video.
The host asked Zhou Xiaofen, mingming agreed to Lin Jianan's marriage proposal, why did he regret it?
She just pursed her lips and looked down in silent tears, but she could not say a word for a long time.
The host began to speculate about the reason for her remorse, first of all, whether her family did not agree to her long-distance marriage, Zhou Xiaofen silently nodded.
Does Xiao Fen not want to live in a foreign country? Zhou Xiaofen opened her mouth and said firmly, yes, if she goes to Malaysia, she simply does not have the ability to work.
Zhou Xiaofen does not know English, and although Lin Jian'an can communicate fluently with her with Chinese, she must have the ability to speak English if she wants to work.
She didn't want to be a full-time wife to raise her husband, she wanted to get paid for her own labor, but with her own culture and education, she couldn't find a job in Malaysia.
After understanding her ideas, the host chose to continue to ask, the third point, does Xiaofen feel that Lin Jian'an is not mature enough and inappropriate with herself?
Xiao Fen nodded tearfully.
Fourth, whether Xiao Fen has not yet loved Lin Jian'an enough to walk with him for a lifetime.
Zhou Xiaofen hesitated, and she did not answer the question head-on.
Obviously, Zhou Xiaofen is deeply in love with Lin Jian'an, but there are too many obstacles in front of this transnational marriage, and she does not have the courage to face it.
After listening to Zhou Xiaofen analyze his inner thoughts, Lin Jian'an was silent for a long time, and he still firmly opened his mouth to keep her: "Xiaofen, I don't want to lose you, in order to be closer to you, I will come to China to develop." Marry me, Little Fen. ”
"Will you marry me?"
In the face of Lin Jian'an's sincere confession, Zhou Xiaofen's tears flowed more and more, and her heart also struggled.
The host gave The words prepared by Lin Jian'an to Xiao Fen, still comforting her, did not say that accepting the flowers is accepting the marriage proposal, first taking the flowers and then saying, slowly considering.
The host told Xiao Fen that in fact, Lin Jian'an came this time and brought the instructions of his parents, asking him to take this daughter-in-law home.
But in the face of such a sincere Lin Jian'an, although Zhou Xiaofen struggled in pain, she still shook her head fiercely.
Seeing this scene, Lin Jian'an felt that his heart had been shattered, and Zhou Xiaofen was still unwilling to marry him.
In the face of such a result, the host was also very sad and told Zhou Xiaofen whether he was allowed to ask her another question.
"Are you in love with someone else?"
Zhou Xiaofen wiped the tears from his face and said to him, Yes.
Hearing this, Lin Jian'an also calmed down, and he said to Zhou Xiaofen: "Understand, Xiaofen, if that person can really take my place, I can bless you." ”
In the face of Lin Jian'an's last hug request, Zhou Xiaofen did not agree, but chose to get up and leave.
After stepping down, Zhou Xiaofen cried silently, holding the staff emotionally broken, she said, her family's strong opposition, so that she did not have the courage to face Lin Jian'an.
After she unilaterally said that she had broken up, the family introduced her to a partner who was going to get married this year.
She had thought that time could dilute everything, but she did not expect Lin Jian'an to be so obsessed.
For Lin Jian'an, she only had to be sorry.
Lin Jian'an's thousand-mile pursuit of marriage can only regret to quit.
The pain of transnational marriage
Zhou Xiaofen and Lin Jian'an are undoubtedly in love with each other, but as Zhou Xiaofen said, love cannot equal everything.
Transnational marriage is not all romantic love, but also involves entangled issues such as class, race, gender, and so on.
Transnational marriage is also known as cross-cultural marriage, cross-racial marriage.
Couples in cross-border marriages come from different cultural backgrounds, and their marital relationships are actually maintained in the process of cross-cultural communication.
China is vast, and even between the south and the north, between different provinces, there will be friction between husband and wife because of cultural differences, let alone transnational marriage.
Zhou Xiaofen's worries with her family are understandable, she went to Malaysia alone to develop, alone, tied her body and mind to Lin Jian'an alone, if he changes his heart, what awaits Zhou Xiaofen will be endless pain.
Although Lin Jian'an said that he would come to China for development, as a foreigner, would he complain about Zhou Xiaofen when he did not adapt to Chinese social culture? Will you regret coming to China for her thousands of miles?
No one knows whether the scene of chicken feathers in a place will come faster and more violently because it is a transnational marriage after the passion has receded.
In the long married life, Zhou Xiaofen did not dare to gamble, so she chose to quit this transnational love. Good times are always short, thank you for reading here, I hope the story between us will continue, Xiaobian is ready to listen here, is your story ready?