I have seen a man on the Internet say such a paragraph before, they said that most women now pay attention to feminism, pay attention to equality, then they should also cancel the dowry thing, the marriage room two people buy together, parents two people manage together, so that is the fairest thing, not girls in the bride price, but also talk about equality.
This sounds like there is some truth to this, but if you think about it carefully, you can understand that this is just a man who does not want to pay. Because women and men are necessarily equal even in marriages where the economic conditions are completely equal? No, although fertility problems are a cliché, this is a hurdle in women's lives.
So when a man, a man's family doesn't think about anything else at all, and only talks about the economy, you can see that the man is not worth marrying. And girls must also polish their eyes, perhaps sometimes the bride price does not necessarily become a sum of money completely at their disposal, but the man who is willing to give the bride price is more serious about the marriage after all.
01. Disputes brought about by the premarital marital room
Zhang Yu and Li Xu were in love for four years, and at the beginning of this year, Li Xu finally proposed to Zhang Yu, which also made Zhang Yu happy and moved, and he thought that he could enter the palace of marriage.
However, the most difficult thing for a couple to cross is not the ups and downs of feelings when in love, but the discussion of various conditions before marriage, Zhang Yu and Li Xu are no exception, and the feelings of the two are directly stuck in front of the marriage room.
Zhang Yu is the only daughter in the family, his parents also have a high-paying job, so the conditions can be regarded as very good, when Zhang Yu was determined to be with Li Xu, Zhang Yu's parents also spoke, because their daughter likes, so they can not consider the conditions of Li Xu's family, and then the marriage room can also be bought by two families.
At that time, Li Xu not only agreed, but also showed great gratitude, after all, Li Xu also had an older brother above, who had just married a year ago, and the conditions of their family were really not so good. Therefore, this was originally a concession from the Zhang Yu family, but they did not expect that when it was time to really get married, the Li Xu family was not happy.
Because they feel that since Zhang Yu's parents have this condition, why don't they simply buy a house for their daughter, and they have to pay for it?
When Zhang Yu heard this statement from Li Xu's mouth, Zhang Yu felt very ridiculous, "Isn't buying a house and giving a bride price originally something that the man's family should do?" Now that our family has taken a step back because of understanding, have you started to kick your nose in the face in turn? ”
Li Xu naturally stood on the side of his parents, so when he heard Zhang Yu's words, he also directly frowned, "How can you say something so ugly?" Your parents are marrying their daughters, not selling their daughters, so that you can live happily, shouldn't they be the first choice? Obviously, the money that can be paid out must squeeze us here now, even if we really borrowed money to buy a wedding house, won't it be you who will pay it back together? How can you be so selfish? ”
"Are we selfish? Then I would like to ask you, my parents are selling their daughters, what about your sister-in-law? When your eldest brother was first married, your family was fully prepared for the wedding room bride price, is it because our family is good at talking, you have to make progress? Zhang Yu was angry and laughed, and he didn't bother to tangle with Li Xu's family anymore, and under the impulse, he directly said to break up.
02. Li Xu's family came to the door to apologize
Li Xu was also a quick temper, Zhang Yu said to break up, he agreed on the spot, and then turned his head and went home. Zhang Yu was also particularly sad after returning home, understanding that although his parents were willing to take a step back, they were not willing to let themselves completely turn upside down.
But after all, it is a four-year relationship, and it will end completely at once, and Zhang Yu is more or less sad, so Zhang Yu wanted to simply take this opportunity to take a leave of absence, go out to relax, and also take the opportunity to forget this love affair with Li Xu, so that he can get out of it.
However, the plan could not catch up with the change, and before Zhang Yu could be completely settled, Li Xu's parents took Li Xu to the door to apologize, first scolding Li Xu fiercely in front of their family, and then began to sell misery to Zhang Yu.
"Zhang Yu, you also know that your uncle and aunt especially like you, absolutely can't do that kind of thing, we are because the economic pressure is too great, will not choose to say anything, Li Xu this child is also, only know that we are distressed, forgot to consider your ideas, you are also right, we should have a bowl of water level, we also think well, this marriage house has to buy, but we also have to say ugly words in front, we really don't have so much savings, so the money to buy a house must be borrowed."
After saying this pile, Li Xu's parents quietly waited for the attitude of zhang Yu's family, and Zhang Yu's parents also understood, they just told them that they wanted a wedding dowry, anyway, they had no money, the money was borrowed, Zhang Yu wanted as much now, after marrying, they had to follow how much.
So Li Xu's family seems to have come to apologize, in fact, it is just to say that their family is aggressive, so Zhang Yu's parents do not intend to continue this marriage, but Zhang Yu was originally restless and did not make up his mind, and now that Li Xu's family has come to serve so softly, Zhang Yu is so soft-hearted.
Looking at her daughter looking at Li Xu's unwilling eyes, Zhang Yu sighed and found a compromise method, "Well, this marriage house is bought by our family, and your family can reduce the pressure a little, but we only have one condition, that is, this bride price must be exactly the same as Li Xu's brother." ”
03. In-laws kick their noses on the face
As soon as Zhang Yu's father said this, Li Xu's family had a look of joy on their faces, after all, even if it was a decoration fee of more than 100,000 yuan plus a dowry of more than 100,000 yuan, it was much better than millions of house payments, so they agreed very happily, and within a few days, they took these two sums of money to the door to propose to the family.
And Li Xu also seriously apologized to Zhang Yu, and even took Zhang Yu out to play for several days in a row, and finally let the feelings of the two people get back together, just when Zhang Yu thought that things could finally go smoothly, Li Xu's mother came to the door again, and she still picked the time the day before the wedding.
"What do you mean?" Is it to ask Zhang Yu to take out the bride price to buy a car after getting married? Zhang Yu's father frowned and asked the prospective family in front of him, and the other party also nodded his head with a natural face.
"Isn't that normal custom? The woman's family married a car, but because our family did not buy a house, so we did not mention this request, and it was ok to take out the bride price, which was also just right. Li Xu's mother smiled and giggled, as if she was determined to get married soon, and the family would not refuse.
But this is basically a wishful thinking, originally their family did not pay anything, and now they still want to return the bride price, and they simply do not want to give out any money.
Therefore, Zhang Yu's father finally figured it out this time, and without saying a word, he took out the card that Li Xu's family had brought, "The house has been renovated, and the money has been spent, so this is a double bride price that I returned to you. ”
Li Xu's mother may not have thought of such a result, so she grabbed the card for half a day without any reaction, and after trying to understand the meaning of Zhang Yu's father's words, she thought of repeating Zhang Yu's old tricks, but Zhang Yu was not a fool, and once, she could believe it a second time. So in the end, Li Xu's family lost this marriage because of their calculations and greed.
Perhaps many boys believe that the bride price is not a natural gift at all, and since girls now pay attention to women's rights, they should also overthrow all previous customs, including the bride price and marriage house that the man's family should buy. It is precisely because of this statement that more and more male families now feel that they should not give so much money, and in turn, they feel that girls who want money are material.
But in fact, this is just their wishful thinking excuses and statements, because we all understand that if only measured by money, the sacrifice of the girl in a marriage is immeasurable, not to mention, whether it is the bride price, the marriage room, or the dowry, the dowry, the dowry car, these things are negotiable, if you always beat them to death because of your selfishness, it is simply to cover up your greed.
Because we know that a girl wants a bride price and a marriage room, but it is just to give herself a guarantee after marriage, and the man's family has paid, generally will cherish this marriage more, cherish the girl who married into the family, so if you don't want to pay anything, don't want to get everything.