Sometimes, in front of their daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law always has a condescending attitude, and they never consider whether this will make the feelings of the son and the daughter-in-law discordant. Especially for the contradictions in the family, the mother-in-law will always have an inexplicable self-confidence, feeling that no matter what it is, she will definitely be able to handle this matter particularly perfectly. There won't be things they can't solve.
Such a thought will make the daughter-in-law feel that the mother-in-law's attitude at home is very bad, always a charity tone. I feel as if saying a word to my daughter-in-law is already the biggest tolerance that this mother-in-law can do. And these mothers-in-law usually face the family like a former feudal patriarch.
For the dowry room brought by the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law feels that since the daughter-in-law teaches her to come to the family, then this dowry room is also the internal property of her own family. The mother-in-law will always arrange her inner thoughts without the consent of her daughter-in-law.
01. Mother-in-law's coveting of the daughter-in-law's dowry room
"Son, I always heard you say that the person you are looking for is particularly rich in the family. And do you know what kind of family situation our family is? Now the house is still the old old residential area, and there is not even an elevator. You don't know that I'm older with your dad now, going up and down the stairs every day, really tired. ”
Mother continued.
"And our family really doesn't have the money to prepare a new house for you, and last time you brought the girl to our house to meet once." Didn't she also say that their family's financial conditions could provide a dowry house? In this way, you can see that she can buy a square meter, a hundred flats, and then we will all live in it. ”
Before Cui Nan could speak, her mother snapped again.
"It must be that this house has to buy a good transportation location, and our current house is too far from the market." You don't know how long I have to go grocery shopping every morning. I don't ask for too much, you will tell your girlfriend when the time comes, you must buy an elevator room, and I have to have absolute decision-making power over this house. ”
Cui Nan silently listened to her mother say this big thing, and felt that her mother had gone a little too far. After all, his family can't take a lot of money on this house, although he has a heart, but with that job, he can only barely fill 20,000 or 30,000, it can be said that this house was bought by his girlfriend's family.
Cui Nan only passed these words in her mother's ear, and did not tell her girlfriend Qu Lu these words at all. After all, Cui Nan also knew that after saying this, he would definitely let himself and Qu Lu have some contradictions in their feelings.
Therefore, in the matter of buying a house, Cui Nan is a casual attitude. As long as Qu Lu's family paid for this house, Cui Nan must be grateful to Dade in his heart, and he is bound to be very good to his wife in the future.
And when the mother wants to do something, Cui Nan will definitely stand on the side of his wife at the first time, through the tone and attitude of his mother calling herself, it is difficult to guarantee that her mother will get along well with her girlfriend in the future.
02. During the renovation period, the mother-in-law took advantage of the void
The location of this house has been set, and it is waiting for a year to be delivered. The relationship between Cui Nan and Qu Lu has also been maintained very well, and there has been no contradiction during this period. The mother-in-law always said something particularly shameless to Cui Nan at home, and she had already made this house her private property in advance.
After the house was finally handed over to Qu Lu's hands, Qu Lu's parents had already found a decoration company in advance. All the decorations in the house have been booked in advance, just waiting for the workers to start. But Qu Lu's parents didn't have more time to pay attention to the renovation process of the house.
Moreover, Cui Nan and Qu Lu also had no time to take care of them due to their busy work. Cui Nan once in a while told her mother about this.
Cui Nan's mother had a new idea in her heart, and directly called Qu Lu, saying that she didn't have to worry about this matter, and she could arrange this matter properly. And with such an older person as himself watching, the people in the decoration company are definitely doing a very good job.
Qu Lu listened to her mother-in-law on the phone so sincerely, at first Qu Lu felt that this matter was entrusted to her mother-in-law, and she was a little worried. After all, since he and Cui Nan were married, they had not been with their mother-in-law for a long time. Decorating the house is also a relatively big thing, and Qu Lu can't easily entrust it to people he doesn't trust.
"I'm the one who came over, and you still don't believe me. And no matter what I say, as your mother-in-law, you should also make a little commitment for you young people. Knowing that you are busy with your work, you certainly don't have the effort to do it. And I also heard Cui Nan say, haven't you all found a decoration company? I was just a supervisor in the past. ”
Listening to her mother-in-law say this, Qu Lu later compromised.
Of course, the mother-in-law has this idea, and it is certainly not simply to share the pressure for the two children. I felt that this matter was handled by my own hands, which was enough to show that I had also made some efforts in this house. So in the future, it is more reasonable for me to make any decisions for this house.
03. The mother-in-law's practice is punched in the face by the daughter-in-law
The house later came to the final process of renovation, and every day the mother-in-law would go happily. I feel that I can finally see this house renovated in my heart, and I have always been concerned about the renovation process of this house.
And this house is about to be renovated, and only the mother-in-law knows about this matter. After all, after the mother-in-law took this matter down, Qu Lu had already handed over the telephone contact information to the mother-in-law. Therefore, cui nan and Qu Lu both knew nothing about this matter.
The mother-in-law saw that the house was finally renovated, so she went straight back to the house and told the rest of the family about it. He also said that his family could finally live in this old house this time. There is no elevator, and it is particularly inconvenient to go out to buy vegetables, especially the geographical environment of this house is not good.
Now with a new house to live in, the family is at home and is very happy at night. Especially the mother-in-law, who can't even sleep happily at night. The next morning, he directly led the family to the dowry room given by Qu Lu. The family of seven filled the house and made it their own home.
Later, Qu Lu thought about it, this house must have been renovated, so he took the key and Cui Nan and the two people drove directly to see how the house was decorated.
When I opened the door, I saw that the home was already inhabited.
The mother-in-law cut first and played later, and 7 people lived in the daughter-in-law's 100-square-meter dowry room, and saw that Qu Lu came, which was a sentence.
"It's fun enough to let you sleep on the couch."
Of course, Qu Lu couldn't bear this, so he directly drove out this brazen person from the family, and since then he has never had contact with his in-laws.
Don't feel that you can always rely on others to get something that doesn't belong to you, and if you really don't have the ability, then don't covet the ability of others. Especially the property of his son and daughter-in-law, as an in-laws, do not feel that his son was raised by himself, then after the son gets married, everything can have all the right to decide.
This blind thinking will definitely make them suffer a big loss, especially since they have little respect for their daughter-in-law, thinking that since the daughter-in-law has become a family with them, then the daughter-in-law should listen to everything they say, and cannot resist the decisions they have made for the family. If the daughter-in-law only has a little disagreement with them, they will make a big fuss at home.
Especially these people who are mothers-in-law at home usually feel that they have worked too hard in their lives, and now they have finally survived from daughter-in-law to mother-in-law, and now they can do whatever they want.