Some people treat their daughter-in-law as a cow and a horse for their own family, and even the cattle of the commune production team do not dare to do so. But the mother-in-law still says that the daughter-in-law married to serve their families, and who can exploit them without exploiting them?
This is undoubtedly painful for the daughter-in-law, on the one hand, she is not willing to tear her face with her in-laws because of her own grievances, which is likely to mean that everything she currently has will be destroyed. On the other hand, if you blindly accept all the injustices of fate, you are likely to make the other party become more aggressive to yourself, so what should you do?
Many times our cowardice tends to fuel the arrogance of others, who will have an illusion of our fear, so they trample on our dignity again and again, so that we have to obey all their demands absolutely. If we don't say anything, we're really going to lose.
In the in-laws' family is not happy at all
Duo Duo felt that marrying into her in-laws' family was not at all a blessing but to suffer, no matter how crazy her husband bragged in front of her when she was not married before, the reality in front of her and the chicken feathers in front of her made her feel like a year.
I think that I was not the housewife I am now, but a young girl who did not understand the world, and I was with my first love for five years, and I did not make up my mind to get married. At that time, his own age was not small, his parents also began to urge his marriage, and Duo Duo had always maintained a state of hesitation, could his marriage really be happy?
In order to be able to dispel the idea of hesitation as soon as possible, the husband and mother-in-law took turns to show Duoduo that their family wanted to marry her, and watching the gentle whispers of their family gradually make Duoduo gradually lose her worries, if she could live with them in the future, she would be so relaxed and happy.
However, life after marriage and before marriage are really very different, perhaps at the beginning they are all false treatment, and gradually in the future together to reveal their truest face. The sister-in-law also came back from work during that time to live in Duoduo's house, and the four people under the same roof can be described as very lively.
At first, this kind of bustle was a happy and harmonious scene for Duoduo, but later it was found that this kind of bustle and hustle and bustle was someone else's, and the in-laws did not regard themselves as a family at all, and they did not have the warmth they had promised. She felt so out of place in this home.
Harsh mother-in-law
Duo Duo is originally an introverted girl, even if she is wronged, she does not easily fight back, and the requirements for everyone are often responded with a nod. Perhaps grasping her weakness, the mother-in-law thinks that she has found a good daughter-in-law who can't fight back and scolds and doesn't return the mouth, so she has higher requirements for her in the details.
Although Duo Duo is not a spoiled petite woman, her parents are usually not willing to let themselves do dirty work at home, so some of the excessive requirements of the mother-in-law make Duo Duo very unaccustomed. Because her job is not so faceless, the mother-in-law simply let her quit her job to serve the family wholeheartedly, so in the future, she will say this matter every time: "You see that you have no use for anything, you rely on my son to support you, if you are not satisfied with this, I don't know what is going on in your head." ”
Duo Duo knew that her mother-in-law wanted to completely pinch herself, but she was originally soft in personality and could only become a small white rabbit that could be slaughtered. Since the mother-in-law is not satisfied with the rice she cooks, she will delve into cooking with all her heart. Since the mother-in-law is not willing to wash her clothes in the washing machine, she washes them by hand in the winter.
She also had naïve fantasies that the perfection of her work could be exchanged for the approval of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, and truly accept herself and them as a family. But the housework and exclusion that I get are indeed countless, is this my fate?
Duo Duo has been trying to find a way to explain to them and let them stop bullying themselves like this. Coincidentally, during this time, Duo Duo went down the stairs and sprained her foot, and the pain was so bad that the doctor told her that the best way to recover quickly was to recuperate.
So Duo Duo obeyed the doctor's advice, except for having to lie in bed, she thought that she would soon recover, but her absence at home caused dissatisfaction from her sister-in-law and mother-in-law. Everything in the house seems to be shut down, and the mother-in-law is very angry that Duo Duo is lying in bed and no one is doing housework at home.
She came to the bedside and said to her daughter-in-law, "Isn't it just that you have broken your feet, and you can't get out of bed when you lie down?" There are so many things waiting for you to do at home, washing and cooking without you can't do it! ”
Duo Duo is very wronged, is it true that as a patient, she also has to do everything for their in-laws as a cow and a horse? How did the family live before they got married?
It's all good to go back to my mother's house
When he finally couldn't help but tell his husband about his grievances, his husband also symbolically gave the blossoms the master. However, the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law acted together again, the mother-in-law said that she could not cook food with her hands, and the sister-in-law said that she was afraid that she could not wash her clothes with water. In short, each of them has their own reasons, anyway, they are not willing to do housework in the final analysis.
Duo Duo is more and more angry the more she thinks, and she finally can't stand it, isn't this just a blatant bullying? For such a long time, he had been obedient and tried to meet all their requirements, and now that he was injured, no one cared about it, and he had to sprinkle salt on his wounds to make himself blindly obey.
She could not continue like this, she had reached the brink of collapse, and in the name of pain, she had to go back to her mother's house for a week. This also caused the mother-in-law's dissatisfaction: "It is just temperament, not that you can't walk on the ground, but also to recuperate, I see that you just don't want to stay with us." ”
It is really right, that is, to see that their family is not pleasing to the eye, Duo Duo just wants to find a clean place to relax herself. However, during this time in my mother's house, I was also a little worried, and who did the housework without myself at home? Is it going to be a mess? The thought of probably going to the house to clean up the mess feels very big.
But what I didn't expect was that as soon as I entered the house, I saw them sitting together to eat, and there were still big fish and meat in front of me. You should know that usually when you buy ribs, your mother-in-law will say that she is a loser, and now duo duo fully understands that they will not do anything at all, they just want to squeeze themselves and push everything on themselves.
For a moment, Duo Duo felt a little sad, what was the purpose of her marriage, was it unconditional to pay but could not exchange it for a good sound? In order to trick themselves into getting married quickly, they said that the future was all farting, and those things that were crazy did not get them at all.
Do you want to continue to endure? But even if you resist, who cares about yourself? The reason why I want to marry myself into the door so quickly is that I need a nanny who cleans and cooks for the house, if this is the case, what hope do I have for my life?
Some in-laws just want everything to be put on their daughter-in-law, thinking that they have spent a lot of money to marry their daughter-in-law who comes home and should clean up their family in an orderly manner. They can change their dirty clothes and prepare a meal carefully, but their daughters-in-law are not gods, and they also long to be respected and cared for.
Who doesn't have a life of their own? Even if the men in the family are busy for the future of the family, should the woman be ignored, should she become the most obscure one? No one is willing to do this to a housewife, but many women sacrifice their future in order to take care of the overall situation.
Even so, they have not been able to get a word of praise, they don't want much, I hope that the family can treat her as a member of the family, can share their joys and sorrows with each other, then even if it is a little bitter and tired, it is worth it.
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