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When "Dear Child" was just broadcast, many netizens said that it was selling anxiety, and some official media published articles criticizing, some netizens said that life has been bitter haha, why watch this kind of bitter TV series, how easy it is to watch.
A large part of the reason why it is considered to be selling anxiety is that it is too real, the entry point is that Fang Yinuo stands in front of the mirror after work to remove makeup, after removing the foundation, revealing clearly visible plaques, dull and dull face, taking off clothes can see the round belly, the stretch marks on the stomach are so vicious.
She looked at herself in front of the mirror, and her heart was full of mixed feelings, she wanted to cry, but she couldn't cry, and there were no tears. Netizens have sent bullet screens saying that all this is too real, and pregnancy is like this.
Everything that happens afterwards makes people very devastated, the husband is not there when giving birth, the husband is still not there after the birth of the child, the postpartum stool is pulled on the body, the process of taking care of the child, the husband is always absent, the topic between the two people is less and less, there are fewer and fewer words to say, and then slowly the man's heart begins to beat for other women.
This is a drama with children as the main line, but in fact it is a story of married life, some about a married family, some about a second-married family, if you understand this drama, you actually understand the true meaning of marriage.
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A long-term marriage must be that two people support each other and tolerate each other.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage is very short, short until the child just passed the age of one year, it was declared over, the breakdown of their marriage, some people say that both people are wrong, a slap can not make a sound, can not blame Xiao Lu alone.
To tell the truth, I was really shocked to see such a conclusion, where is Yinuo wrong, she just speaks more straight, not as gentle and virtuous as others, but this is not the reason for Xiao Lu's mistake.
Obviously, Xiao Lu's cheating was just a fuse for their divorce, and what really led to the divorce was not the cheating, but the bits and pieces that happened in the process of raising Hehe.
Xiao Lu is not a qualified father, nor is he a qualified husband, and although Yinuo is not a wife and mother with full marks, she can at least be qualified.
In terms of being a mother, she has really done her best, in terms of being a wife, she actually gave Xiao Lu a lot of tolerance and understanding, Xiao Lu always returned late for work, and she did not have distrust because of this.
Xiao Lu did not understand the anxiety of being a novice mother, did not take the initiative to participate in parenting, but made himself invisible, using work as an excuse to escape his responsibilities as a husband and father.
This is the main reason why their marriage did not go on, but as long as he is a responsible father who is willing to spend more time with and take care of the children, Yinuo will not divorce him so firmly.
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If you don't make changes, no one will always be tolerant of you.
Then let's talk about the marriage between Dong Fan and Xiao Lu, their marriage has also experienced great ups and downs, at the beginning the two people were very sweet and happy, and everything changed after Hehe fell ill.
After Hehe fell ill, Xiao Lu, who once loved Dong Fan, immediately changed, and he began to no longer consider Dong Fan's feelings, no longer focus on her, and then blindly broke through Dong Fan's bottom line.
Later, Xiao Lu became more and more excessive, and in order to treat Hehe's illness, he decided to abandon the house they saw without consulting Dong Fan, and planned to have another child with Yinuo to save Hehe.
Dong Fan has always been a sensible person, in their marriage, she is the one who compromises the most, especially after Hehe fell ill, she has always been very tolerant, understanding and supportive.
But because of her understanding, Xiao Lu became ignorant and constantly hurt her and made her very uncomfortable. Later, Dong Fan decided to divorce, and Xiao Lu began to see her feelings and began to consider her feelings.
In the end, Dong Fan decided not to divorce, also because Xiao Lu finally made some changes, began to consider her feelings, and shared his thoughts with her.
He also met Dong Fan, and if he had changed to someone else, he would have divorced him a hundred times. In marriage, the person who is always unpleasant, if you don't know how to make some changes, then no one will always tolerate you.
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Marriage and love are not the same, when in love, two people have a good relationship, into the marriage, the role of two people will change, the role will change, then the way of maintenance will also change.
At the end of the TV series, Yinuo and Lao Xie, Xiao Lu and Dong Fan, their marriages were saved, and at one point their marriage was about to be dissolved, but in the end, they could all get through the difficulties smoothly.
In fact, marriage crisis is very common in marriage, and this crisis may exist at any time, but the time of occurrence is different, marriage is actually very fragile, a little hit, may be gone.
It is precisely because of the fragility of the marriage that two people need to be more carefully maintained, so that the marriage can be retained, so that it will not end up empty.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Dear Little Child"