What is a woman's most sad life?

Text: East Linxiao_Nian Sanchuan, Source: Weibo @ Donglinxiao_Nian Sanchuan

A life is long enough to allow you to meet many people; a life is short, and many wishes are too late to be fulfilled. I hope that in your lifetime, you will be able to live the life you most longed for when you were young.

23 years old

You say that the work has just begun, and it should be stable.

You said that learning is important, first go to graduate school,

You say the circle of communication is too small,

There is no direction of effort.

You say, you're waiting for the right guy.

Your mom said hurry.

25 years old

Most of the friends have settled down their feelings,

Talk about marriage and marriage.

Your aunts and aunts and aunts,

Suddenly, I met a group of young talents,

To introduce to you.

Your mother also began to be anxious, telling you not to wait and not to pick.

She said women started expiring after 25.

You start thinking, otherwise,

Just one person is left alone, right?

Passable, honest.

27 years old

Open the circle of friends, friends and classmates have begun to dry the baby.

You meet a passable person.

Family conditions are passable,

Looks are passable, personality is passable.

Although not the way you want it to be,

But it's good to get by anyway.

"Marry someone, the family can live honestly,

That's it. ”

"You're 27, you can't pick anymore."

Your mom and relatives at home say that.

So I also began to talk about marriage.

You give the bride price, the dowry, the income gift,

Do it clearly.

But no one asked the other,

Who is the number that cannot be deleted in the mobile phone.

28 years old

You're finally getting married too.

At the wedding, you wear a snow-white wedding dress,

The most beautiful girl you have on the spot.

In the flickering light, you remember in the imagination,

You have also stood in this place with a person.

The man was in a straight suit,

Wearing a neat bow tie, walk towards you with flowers.

Amid the cheers, sure enough, a man came.

Unfortunately, it was not the one I imagined.

Standing on the stage, the emcee asked:

Rich or poor, sick or healthy,

Are you all willing to be together forever?

You say: I do.

The bridegroom said: I do.

Both men unexpectedly spoke casually,

It seems that anyone around you can give this answer.

In the days that followed, you became a wife.

Bid farewell to the girlhood of ten fingers that do not touch the spring water of the sun,

Start cleaning the whole house,

Learn to do laundry, cook, and cook.

Speaking of which,

You haven't even done this a few times for your parents.

29 years old

You're pregnant.

Quit the job that has gradually gained a foothold,

Raising a fetus at home.

As usual, he went out to work early and came home at night.

The chores at home are still yours,

When morning sickness is uncomfortable, there is no one around.

During the pregnancy test, he accompanied him several times.

And then complain that queuing is too much of a waste of time,

No more going.

Sometimes the mother-in-law will come and make you eat and drink,

It's all for the kids.

You were alone through this long month of October.

On the day of the birth, he came.

You cried out in pain and screamed.

He looked up from his phone, frowned, and said:

Shout something, which hurts so much.

No one else shouted.

30 years old

It was the most painful year.

The child wakes up once an hour,

They say milk powder is not nutritious,

Be sure you stick to breast milk.

So you follow the feeding once an hour.

You are confined by your mother-in-law pressed on the bed,

No landing, no bathing.

Drink countless kinds of soup every day,

Eat more than a dozen kinds of big meat supplements.

The mother-in-law is afraid of starving her good grandson,

Give you milk in a different way.

At two o'clock in the morning, the child cried again.

You get up confused.

You don't have much milk,

Baby hungry sucking pains as you gasp.

It was as if the sip was not milk, but blood.

Looking back, the husband was not in bed.

From the third day, he thought the child was too noisy,

Went to the guest room to sleep.

From this year onwards,

You don't think about skirts, food, cosmetics anymore.

It's the child, the child, the child.

You can't go out again, you're feeding your kids at night,

Doing housework at home during the day with children.

Every day the shawl is distributed,

All I could hear was the cries of children.

33 years old

The child grew up a little,

You can finally relax a little.

With a child of three years,

Never slept soundly.

Never had a good meal.

Standing in front of the mirror,

You can't even believe the sallow face in front of you.

The woman with the withered hair was herself.

So I opened my phone and wanted to buy something for myself.

For the past three years, you have ordered,

All baby products.

But I remembered that I hadn't worked for three years.

The savings have been spent pretty much.

So in the evening, you tell your husband,

Give me some money.

Your husband was furious when he heard this:

How to ask for money again!

Didn't I give you money every month!

You're angry too, so reason with him,

What can you do with a child for a thousand dollars a month?

Ask him if he knows how much a good can of milk powder costs.

How much milk powder should your child drink in a month.

How much diaper is not wet.

You tell him it's all your own money.

Your husband is sneering,

The look in his eyes was full of contempt and mockery.

"Isn't it money to say so much?"

Play at home all day long,

It's going to cost so much money. He said.

35 years old

The child adapted to kindergarten.

You got a temporary job.

Your husband has been promoted.

Everything seems to be moving in a good direction.

However, you are on your husband's collar,

A red lip print was found.

You have a big fight, and you point at your husband and scold him for not having a face.

Your husband said that she was gentle and sensible, what do you have?

In a trance, you remember when you first met,

That's what he praises you for.

He said you are so gentle,

Speak softly and softly,

I can't even argue with people.

You remember yourself just now,

Suddenly, I also fell into doubt.

What about your gentleness and understanding?

In the end, you reconciled.

Your parents advise, his parents advise,

Your friends are advised.

They say, the seven-year itch,

He is now the marriage slack.

Just let him take it in.

They say, man,

There will always be such a little thought, you have to endure.

They say, no matter how good other women are,

Your wife is you too. It's okay.

So you put up with it.

Because some people say: Children can't live without their fathers.

40 years old

You don't seem to know that.

Suddenly, I stepped into the 4-word head.

Forty is not confused,

You really suddenly see life very openly.

He was blessed with a big belly.

Eyebrows faded away from the qingjun when they got married,

The purring during sleep became louder and louder.

But I actually received a little heart,

Not making too much of a fuss.

But you don't care too much.

You only take good care of your children.

45 years old

Kids are in junior high school.

To the rebellious period,

The way you speak to your parents changes to yelling.

He shouted: I want to be free!

I want to be independent! Leave me alone!

You hold the fruit plate, trying to get closer but not daring to get closer.

Looking at this beautiful child,

You're a little confused.

The children I raised,

How did it suddenly become different?

But you don't dare to contradict him,

You even stopped the husband who went to beat up the children.

Because of this child,

It's your last hope.

Your life is like this,

You don't want your child's life to turn into a cycle like this.

You put all your hopes on your child,

More care and attention was given.

So your child roars louder.

47 years old

When the child reaches high school, he begins to live on campus.

You miss your child, call him.

He responded with uh-uh

Hung up the phone within a minute.

You look at the phone that went black,

And the husband who snores with his back to you.

Stayed for a while.

48 years old

The child is going to take the college entrance examination.

You're even more nervous than he is.

Prepare food and drink for him every day,

Worry about him.

Take care of the child with his rejection.

After the college entrance examination, you expect him to fill in a close to home,

Be stable and willing to find a job.

The child "slammed" the door shut,

Filled in a thousand miles away,

An interesting, but less popular major than that.

You stomp your feet in anger,

In the end, I could only sigh.

Got his luggage ready for him.

50 years old

Your body slowly gets worse.

The distant child called and he said he was homesick.

You burst into tears as soon as you hear it.

But he pretended to laugh and said,

That mom is waiting for you to come back.

Then you tell the child

The neighbor's dog gave birth to a cub,

Said the girl next door is married,

Said the opposite house is going to be demolished,

Also complained as usual

One of his dad's stinks.

The child listened and laughed.

He said, "Okay, Mom." I'll go back for the holidays.

You breathe a sigh of relief and hang up the phone.

Seeing that her husband also held his ears and listened vigorously,

Discovered,

Just pretending not to look overboard and watch TV without anything.

You want to laugh,

Just ask him: Do you want to have children too?

He raised his face and said, "Where is it!" Nonsense!

Then turned his head and went back to the room.

You laughed.

And then you look at his awkward body,

Fat body, bleaching hair.

Find out you're all old.

55 years old

The child graduated and it was difficult to find a job for a while.

He wandered away, with sorrow, chagrin, and bitterness.

The call came again.

This time, you didn't stop him again.

You say, kid, do what you want to do.

You say, Mom is at home.

No matter how difficult it is, you still have a home.

The child was very happy and stayed in that place.

Climb up slowly and slowly.

You watch his work slowly get on track,

Watching him get better and better.

You're happy.

It's just that he's getting busier and busier, but he can't go home often.

So you sit on the couch with your husband

Guarding the empty house,

Waiting for a child who returns home two or three times a year.

60 years old

The children are also married.

The bride is a beautiful girl.

Snow-white skin, long dark hair,

Laugh and dimples.

Very gentle.

Gentle to,

You even thought you saw yourself when you were younger.

She said: Mom, drink tea.

You take the tea and pat the girl's hand,

Hand over a red packet.

You wish she could have been so gentle all the time.

The son and daughter-in-law moved out together,

Have their own home.

The husband retired and went out to play cards and chess when he had nothing to do.

I don't go home very often.

The house suddenly fell empty,

You don't know what you're going to do.

Recalling the past thirty years,

You only have children and a husband in your life.

61 years old

You start following the neighborhood to square dancing.

The big horns put those up,

Music that is laughed at by young people.

You still don't know where to start.

But soon, it was pulled into the crowd.

The big sister upstairs said to you: You just came, right?

It's okay, just follow us.

The eldest sister's voice is loud,

Very enthusiastic to pull you along with the jump.

You follow her and blend in little by little into the team.

You are all women nearby,

It's all about the kids who aren't around.

The husband himself was busy.

So you meet,

In the future, we will all dance and chat together.

You've had a lot of fun during this time.

You finally know why so many people like to come to the square and dance.

What did that sentence say?

They're not dancing, they're lonely.

62 years old

The son's child was born.

They were all too busy and inexperienced.

Soldiers and horses are in chaos, and they are at a loss,

My son dialed your phone.

He said Mom, help us with the baby.

Your mother-in-law didn't help you much back then.

But today, a word from your son,

Or make you unable to refuse.

In a word, it pulls you back to the most painful year.

The difference is,

This time you are carefully feeding your child with a bottle.

70 years old

The child's children have also grown up.

You're completely old.

His hair was gray and he couldn't dance.

75 years old

You're lying in a hospital bed, surrounded by people.

Everyone was crying.

They say, you're a good daughter,

You are a good wife, you are a good mother.

You are a good person.

You have closed eyes and it's hard to breathe.

You know you're dying.

But you still hear those words.

You're a bit dazed.

Good daughter?

It's that you want to reassure your mother.

Stop nagging a little, just marry someone casually?

A good mother?

It means that you know that your life is like this,

So put all the pressure on the child,

Or is it that you want to be a good person?

What about giving up the life you love?

So, is that a good person?

At this point a lot of things flash in front of your eyes.

The white-clad boy on the high school playground,

Seventeen-year-old flying skirt,

Laughing hand in hand with friends as they walk around the mall.

Many, many pictures appear in this instant,

Kneaded and mixed together.

Your heart beats violently,

Hands and feet were cold rapidly.

The cries around him suddenly became louder.

Before consciousness disappears,

You just have time to think about one last question:

Would I like to be a good person?

When you wake up, you find yourself back in time to 23.

Your mom asks you: Why don't you have a boyfriend yet

You say: Hee-hee

Then blocked your mom.

Author: Dong Linxiao_Nian Sanchuan Source: Weibo @Donglinxiao_Nian Sanchuan