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Recently, the TV series "Dear Child" has caused heated discussion on the Internet, and even caused criticism from the state media, saying that it over-sells anxiety, dog blood, eyeballs and so on. Although I didn't follow the show in its entirety, I also knew the general plot. Whether it's too real or not is too real for me, because my personal experience doesn't represent thousands of couples, thousands of families, and the artwork is always rendered and retouched.
However, this drama also largely reflects the Chinese family, and many families can see their own family life or the shadow of someone in him. The common problems of Chinese-style families: missing fathers, anxious mothers, and unclear old people.
The giant baby's absent father is the culprit in a series of family conflicts
Xiao Lu, played by Qin Hao, cannot be said to be a completely irresponsible husband and father. On the contrary, when Fang Yinuo just gave birth to a child, he also took good care of it, and he would also go around between his mother and wife, and he was also bent on earning more money so that the mother and daughter could live a good life.
But it was still irritating to watch him, because he exposed most of the giant baby-like absent dads. When the wife just gave birth to the child, she was not ready to be a father, and she lacked understanding and empathy for the other half, and a series of subsequent practices exposed his giant baby, escaping the pressure and responsibility given to him as a husband and father.
There are too many dads like this in life, even many worse than him, who are completely giant baby men who can't afford the responsibilities of being a dad and husband. Let the wife take on the responsibility of childcare alone, bear all the trivialities of the family, and even take care of the husband like the son.
Not to mention the companionship and care of the child, as the child's father, completely absent from the child's growth. Such a man's inability to reconcile the contradictions between his mother and his wife, and his poor education of his children, are the culprits of a series of family conflicts.
Anxious moms are a time bomb of family instability
Watching this TV series, the biggest feeling is that Fang Yinuo's mother is too anxious. If the child is just born, anxiety is understandable. The key is that the children are more than one year old, she is still full of anxiety about all aspects of the child, the child is vaccinated, and the three adults are still tossing and turning.
It is understandable that a woman's anxiety after becoming a mother is too much, but if the anxiety is too much, and she does not know how to adjust her mentality at the right time, it will only make the family a chicken feather. Anxious mothers are like enemies of anything that happens to their children, panic at every little thing, and make all kinds of demands and complaints about other people. Others, under the pressure of anxious mothers, must be careful not to stretch, resulting in pressure on everyone. Arguably, anxious moms are a time bomb of family instability.
Confused parents are the biggest killers of couples' feelings
The biggest killer of couples' feelings is not The little three, but the parents who can't figure it out. In the TV series "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo's mother played a role in fueling the breakdown of her daughter's marriage. Good parents maintain the relationship between young people in it. However, Fang's mother did the opposite, provoking the relationship between the two in various ways, and adding fuel to the fire in all kinds of incidents.
It can be said that it is Fang's mother's confusion that makes the small couple have many contradictions and eventually lead to divorce. Unclear parents are the biggest killer of couple feelings, there is no sense of boundaries, too much mixing and small two mouths, not to solve the problem is only responsible for fanning the wind and ignition, there is such a big parent, the small couple want to be stable is also difficult.
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