There is a folk saying, "Father and son are wronged, and debts are turned into husband and wife." Many people will jokingly call children who are born unconscious "debt collectors", believing that children are debts they owe in their previous lives, and that the birth and maintenance of this life is to collect debts.
In Xiangtan, Hunan, there is such a "debt collector", who is still unemployed in his thirties, eats and wears all by his parents, has no intention of marrying and having children, and only indulges in his own world and dreams of the pretentious Spring and Autumn Period.
This man was old Pan's son, Pan Jie.
In 1986, pan lao, a middle school teacher, soon after marrying his wife who came from a skilled worker background, had Pan Jie. Due to Lao Pan's busy work, he usually lives in school and only has time to go home to see his son on weekends and holidays. Pan Jie was raised by his mother since he was a child. On weekdays, Pan's mother will go to work in the factory, and she will also take Pan Jie's "drag oil bottle" together, and the surrounding workers are all close as sisters, and seeing that Pan Jie always treats him as his own child, in this way, Pan Jie's infancy was spoiled in the pile of women.
When it was time to go to school, the two parents also attached great importance to the child and sent him to the best school in the neighborhood. Her mother picked up and dropped her up on time every day in the wind and rain, and Pan Jie was also very competitive, and she was always at the top of the school. There is such a smart child who does not have to worry about learning, and the parents are naturally very happy, and they are also willing to spend money to meet some of the child's small hobbies.
Pan Jie likes to hang out, and sometimes when he can't sit still at school, he will think of a way to hang out. Since Pan Jie's "going out" did not affect his grades, Pan Jie's parents were worried that it was dangerous for him to skip school and sneak out, and agreed to help him ask the teacher for "sick leave". In addition, which playground to go to and what to eat are all decided by Pan Jie alone. Sometimes, in order to satisfy the child's appetite, Panjie's mother can even brave the heavy rain to go to the cake shop far from home to buy cake for him.
The time came to 1998, and in the blink of an eye, Pan Jie was a junior high school student. After entering junior high school, Pan Jie is no longer as simple as before. Because Pan Jie's parents chose a good junior high school far from home when they first chose the school, Pan Jie had no choice but to board at the school. In this way, Pan Jie's communication with his parents became less, and the long-term study away from home made him rebel.
Since the junior high school curriculum did not reach the limits of Pan Jie, he still insisted on the "old tradition" of learning while playing. Seeing that his classmates in other accommodations had pocket money, Pan Jie naturally did not want to live behind others and asked for pocket money from his family. "Xueba" always asks for money from the family. In this way, Pan Jie has more "play" capital.
The third year of junior high school study pressure, Pan Jie is not a fan of "sea tactics", naturally more willing to go out with classmates. Soon after China entered the Internet in 2000, Internet cafes of all sizes began to appear in all corners of urban and rural areas, which of course became a good place for Pan Jie and his classmates to have fun. In this way, Panjie became obsessed with online games.
Even if he became a "networm" in the third year of junior high school, Pan Jie was still admitted to a good high school. In his eyes, he can use his multi-purpose self, of course, a genius who has never been seen before or since. In this way, Panjie became proud and complacent, and throughout the three years of high school, he was always with the game. Because he often needs to go out to the Internet café, in order to cope with his parents, Pan Jie also lied that he was going to study at the same school.
In 2001, there were only a few simple stand-alone games in China, which was still limited in appeal to Pan Jie, but when Pan Jie was in his third year of high school, a large number of online games and page games began to enter the Chinese market, and local game companies also began to exert their strength, at this time, online games completely surrounded Pan Jie into a grand virtual social environment.
Panjie enjoys the joy of improving his character and meeting new people in the game, and naturally has no intention of learning again. In the end, the results of the college entrance examination came out, and Pan Jie, who could easily be admitted to a key university in the eyes of the teacher, was not even admitted to the undergraduate. PanJie's parents, who found that their son had "changed into a person", were naturally very angry, but in their view, after graduating from school, the pressure to make money would naturally make Panjie give up his small "hobby".
However, they did not expect that with the development of technology level, online games became more and more attractive to Pan Jie. Throughout his studies at the junior college, Panjay was left unchecked and had a lot of money in his hands. In 2005, the "World of Warcraft" national costume was opened, and this point card game was undoubtedly a "luxury" among college students at that time, but Pan Jie never skipped about spending on the length of time spent buying games.
It is said that "college plays games, graduation stalls", Pan Jie barely pressed the passing line to finish his course, but he could not find any job he would do with a college diploma. After going out to work a few jobs, Pan Jie felt that it was too hard, and after earning some money, Pan Jie did not want to continue to work. He bought a computer, quit his job, and began to "go back to his old business."
Mother watched Pan Jie hide in the room all day playing games, a dozen years, the anger held in her heart and did not dare to spit it out. After all, it is his own heart and liver, even if he grows up, he is reluctant to scold, so he has to sit next to Pan Jie all day and chant, hoping that his son can suddenly open up and do something serious one day. However, Pan Mu did not expect that her persuasion made Pan Jie more and more irritable, pan Jie believed that it was his mother's nagging that disturbed him to play games, and finally he even punched and kicked at his mother.
Pan's mother was once beaten by Pan Jie to a broken finger, Pan's father really can't see it, although the old couple's retirement salary is also more than 7,000, but such a big son does not go out to start a family, and his family is about to become a joke in the mouth of the neighbors. So together with Pan Muyi, they began to find a daughter-in-law for Pan Jie.
But who would look up to someone like Pan Jie who has no job and no income? Two or three years later, the two old couples have made 59 blind dates for Pan Jie, and none of them have failed. At this time, the old couple began to regret the indulgence of this "clever" son.
However, it was too late, and even if they were willing to keep Panjie, how long would they be able to keep them? Not to mention that Pan Jie himself is already a 35-year-old adult, with the obligation to support his parents, even if the parents do not pursue, the law will not tolerate him to continue to sink.
Article 1067 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China stipulates that if parents do not perform their maintenance obligations, minor children or adult children who cannot live independently have the right to require their parents to pay maintenance.
Parents whose adult children do not fulfill their maintenance obligations, lack the ability to work or have difficulties in living, have the right to demand that the adult children pay alimony.
It is said that raising children to prevent the elderly, but the Pan family has raised children, and whether they can "prevent the elderly" is still unknown. It can only be said that "jiao'er has no filial piety, and the habit is like killing a son", if the concern for Pan Jie at that time could not only exist in the reward of the material level, but also pay more attention to the development of his physical and mental aspects, would things not develop to this point? This question is worth pondering by every parent.