"Tell you, sooner or later you're going to get beaten!" If you want to get less hurt, you'd better hurry up and practice your body! This obviously threatening and provocative sentence did not come from a rogue or a gangster, but a son's harsh words to his own father. Not only that, but even his own mother was inadvertently injured by him, and there was no trace of guilt afterwards.
He spends most of his time in online games every day, his parents introduced him to nearly 60 blind dates, all of which were broken by him, which is famous in the town where he lives, and many insiders say that he was victimized by online games, so is this really the case?
The man, pan jie, was born in 1983 in Hunan to a family of intellectuals, and his father was named Pan Jie, a people's teacher who was highly respected in the local area.
Pan Jie has a city hukou from birth, plus he is the only son in the family, so he is loved by the whole family, and other brothers and sisters are envious.
Pan Jie was also very sensible and obedient when he was a child, often helping his parents to do some housework within their ability, and his relatives and friends praised Pan Jie's two sons for their happiness in the future.
However, Panjie's father, because the school where he taught was far from home, could only rent a house near the school, so he rarely returned home, resulting in the fact that Panjie's childhood memories had almost no father's existence, and as he grew older, he became more and more alienated from his father. The responsibility of taking care of Pan Jie was also entrusted to Pan Jie's mother.
Pan Jie's mother is very fond of Pan Jie, reluctant to let the child suffer a little sin, everything is properly arranged for him, let Pan Jie concentrate on learning, so Pan Jie has been very attached to his mother since he was a child.
Pan Jie has been smart and clever since he was a child, and he has learned with half the effort, and his grades in elementary school have always been among the best, and later he can be admitted to the best local junior high school, which is a natural thing. At this time, Pan Jie was still a good boy, but since he went to junior high school, everything has changed.
Because of the distance from home in junior high school, Pan Jie's parents boarded Pan Jie at the school. The couple is afraid that the child will not adapt to the life of the school, and the child will prepare some pocket money for Panjedo when he is hungry and frozen, as if this will make up for the regret that they cannot accompany them.
Coming to the new living environment, Pan Jie, who has opened his mouth and stretched out his clothes since he was a child, seems to be very uncomfortable, and there is always a fear of facing the unknown in his heart. He can't do a lot of simple things, which makes many classmates like to laugh at him.
During that time, Pan Jie called his mother as soon as he had time, saying that he wanted to go home, and he was not used to life at school. But after sending her children to school, the mother also entered the factory to work, rarely had leisure time to chat with her son, and could only persuade the child to adapt to the life of the school, saying that the child would grow up sooner or later and could not always snuggle in the mother's arms. Pan Jie always hung up the phone disappointedly every time, his mind was not yet mature, and he always felt that his parents did not care about him at all.
Over time, Pan Jie began to become inferior and sensitive, he did not like to participate in any activities in the class, nor did he like to communicate and chat with his classmates. Until one day, he went to an Internet café with a classmate and saw a variety of fun games, and when he played the game, he once again felt the joy of everything he was centered on himself as a child.
Originally excellent grades of children, the grades suddenly began to decline, the teacher after knowing that Pan Jie always likes to go to the Internet café to play games, he bitterly advised him: it is not easy for your parents to provide you with reading, a lifetime of love is invested in you, you have to cherish ah!
But when Pan Jie heard this, he seemed to be even more aggrieved, and he thought extremely, obviously his parents did not care about themselves, sent themselves to school, here he was not happy at all, so he persuaded the teacher to go in the left ear and out of the right ear.
The teacher had no choice but to tell Pan Jie's mother about the incident. After Pan Jie's mother learned about it, although she was also very angry, she was reluctant to scold Pan Jie, but only advised her son to focus on learning and not to be too greedy.
Pan Jie was initially called a parent, and he was also a little nervous, but when he heard that his mother only nagged twice, he put his mind at ease and still put his mind on the online game.
In Pan Jie's heart, the virtual network is his best destination, and in reality, he is extremely confident in the virtual world, and he is full and happy. But in exchange for the plummeting results, Pan Jie did not care, barely admitted to an ordinary high school, continue his game career.
Since playing the game, Pan Jie's temper has also increased, he is angry at the slightest unhappiness, and his relationship with his parents is no longer as harmonious as before, and he vents his anger in the virtual world in real life.
Later, the most critical three years of high school were wasted by him with games, Pan Jie lived in the virtual world without sleeping, he did not go back when he went home once a week, and in the face of his mother's persuasion, he did not take it seriously, but just played the game with a mind.
Pan Jie's parents' temper is gentle, and they have no choice in the face of their son, who has begun to have a bad personality, and can only hope that he will be able to understand things when he grows up.
How can it be good to only know how to play the game? He could not go to college he had to repeat the study, once a genius teenager was finally only admitted to a college, but the college time is also a mixed day, he in order to play games, eat a meal a day, only sleepy really can't stand it will squint in the Internet café for a while, and finally thin as the skin and bones. His parents were very distressed when they saw it, so they advised him not to be so desperate, but where could Pan Jie listen at this time?
After graduation, Pan Jie could not find a job that satisfied him and his family, so he stayed idle at home and played games. In the end, the mother really couldn't see her son fall like this, so she secretly pulled out her son's network cable, Pan Jie found out like a cat was trampled on the tail, angry, and even moved his hands with his mother, the mother was beaten to the nose and blue face, and the father was angry enough to drive him out of the house.
Pan Jie, however, found an Internet café nearby and continued to play games. In the end, the parents softened and took the child back home.
In order not to let the child always go to the Internet café to play games and recharge games, Pan Jie's parents simply stopped giving him pocket money. In the end, there was no way, Pan Jie had to work odd jobs outside to make some money to spend, but his life in addition to working hours or playing games, work for 3 or 4 years after saving some money has spare time to play games at home.
Pan Jie's parents think that the game has ruined the child, since he can't discipline the child, he wants to help the boss Pan Jie find a girlfriend, hoping that he can help him take the right path after getting married and starting a family, and he can have more responsibility when he has children in the future.
Therefore, from the age of 23 to the age of 33, whether it was a mediator or an introduction, he went on a blind date of nearly 60 times, but none of them were successful.
Not to mention that Pan Jie is always playing games and does not run his life in reality at all. The woman also said that Pan Jie's suspicions are very heavy, he always thinks that women want to marry him in order to rely on rich people, and he is also worried that his wife will wear a green hat for herself in the future, so she does not want to get married and start a family. He is also reluctant to take on family responsibilities, believing that he can live well alone and happily.
The sensitive Panjie also believes that his parents introduce themselves to objects again and again because they want people to see their jokes, so they always speak ill of their parents. After listening, the parents could only smile helplessly, and there was nothing they could do.
Through working in recent years, Pan Jie has more or less saved some savings, but he is reluctant to spend a penny on his family, all of which is used to buy computer accessories or games.
Why did the game make Panjie so obsessed?
Sometimes Panjie's parents would sit by and look at what game their son was playing, and finally find that it was extremely boring and had no fun at all. But even if Pan Jie hears his parents calling him to dinner, he still has to finish the tasks in the game before he can do other things.
Pan Jie, who is in his thirties, is also old and old, but he has not had a successful love affair, and the father feels that there must be a psychological problem with his son, but Pan Jie believes that it is the responsibility of his parents, and even said that if he really can't stand it, his parents can move out.
However, the house they live in is the only property that their father will share in school after retirement, and Panjie is willing to say that he let his parents move out. Not only that, Pan Jie was very dissatisfied with his father's appearance of doing nothing at home all day after he retired at the age of 55, and he was in charge of himself all day except watching TV, turning a blind eye to his elderly parents and not caring at all.
In his heart, he always believed that what his parents did for him was deserved, and he only felt that his parents owed him and that he was not wrong. He sees himself as the center of the world and takes outrageous, absurd ideas as correct.
In fact, Pan Jie's mother is very ill, not only suffering from diabetes, but also serious diseases such as coronary heart disease, heart disease, and hemangioma, and she has to take injections and medicines at a fixed time every day.
But even though Pan Jie knew a lot about his mother's various diseases, he never paid attention to them, and even blurted out: "Blame them for their fate, I am so cold-blooded."
This deeply stung the hearts of his parents, but Pan Jie looked indifferent, did not feel that he had done anything wrong, and thought that the whole world was like this.
In order to find out whether Pan Jie had a psychological problem, he dragged the child to see a psychologist. After the doctor's examination, it was found that Pan Jie was suffering from paranoid personality disorder, which has a strong sense of insecurity, always has an inferiority complex, and later may have found emotional sustenance in the Internet, and he has a strong Internet addiction.
This disease can not be treated in a short time, and in the end, Panjie's parents had no choice but to let their son be hospitalized.
Parents work hard to make their families better off and so that their children can get better educational resources. But how much investment can be left in the education of children?
This education is not some book knowledge or a training course.
People say that parents are the best teachers for children, rather than holding their children in the palm of their hands and taking care of everything to eat and drink, it is more critical to help children plan for a longer-term future.
Give children a life of good food and clothing, but do not cultivate their correct living habits. When Pan Jie entered puberty, he did not focus on the child's inner changes, which eventually led to Pan Jie becoming the Internet addicted teenager.
Can we say it's all the cause of the game? Even without the Internet, there are many other temptations in reality, and once you lose the love and "control" of your mother, you will naturally go astray.
In fact, the way of love is not right, if the most important basic principles of character and behavior are not taught to the child, then even if the child is cultivated into a decathlon and versatile person, it still cannot make up for the defects in the child's character and the incompleteness of the personality.
A life from scratch, parents are the leader, the child's white paper will appear in the end what kind of scenery must be pulled by the bottom color of this paper to render.
Being born without teaching, teaching without a way, is the greatest sin of parenthood, the most selfish harm of one life to another.
If the child goes astray, then despite the parents' efforts, they are still thankless.