In 2012, a blind date show on Hunan Satellite TV caught fire, and there was a guest in the program, who failed on 59 consecutive blind dates, and said to his father in front of the show: "Sooner or later you will be beaten!" This exaggerated character is not a script, but a normal performance of the protagonist Pan Jie in his daily life.
Pan Jie is very famous in the local area, he has passed the age of establishment, he only knows how to play online games all day, he does not want to go out to work without a family, and one of the things that makes him most famous is to play games, he has crippled his old mother...
When so many people's indignant behavior is gathered in one person, Pan Jie immediately gained the attention of netizens, people are curious about this grumpy personality, what is caused by life out of reality, a person who mutilates his mother for the game, how can anyone give him a blind date?
One, infinite coddling
Perhaps to everyone's surprise, panjie was a very smart and well-behaved child when he was a child, and his father was a people's teacher, and his mother was also highly educated, and the direction of this script is really not like the reality of many years later.
Born in 1986, Pan Jie's parents have a good income, and they are the only sons in the family, so they have not lacked anything since childhood, and his parents can be said to have exceeded the limits of pampering and have become a kind of coddling.
When he was a child, Pan Jie wanted anything and his parents would not refuse, if he accidentally made a mistake, his parents would not give any punishment, and when he was a child, Pan Jie never ran into trouble, and he was very sensible, learning well, and his parents were also very relieved about their own way of education.
However, while the parents doted on Pan Jie, they did not give too much companionship, their respective work is very busy, often leaving Pan Jie alone at home, and it is precisely for this reason that pan Jie's future growth lays hidden dangers.
After graduating from primary school, Pan Jie studied well and was admitted to the best local junior high school, but the junior high school was far from home, and his parents let Pan Jie board in the school, but not every child could accept boarding life, especially an only child who had been spoiled since childhood.
Pan Jie is not used to sharing a room with others, nor does he like to communicate with people, under the care of his parents, he has almost no ability to take care of himself, and slowly becomes a little inferior.
He called his mother and said that he didn't have any friends here and wanted to go home, but his mother felt that this was a normal phenomenon in the process of growing up, just comforted a few words, and usually gave Pan Jie some pocket money.
In fact, what a growing child needs most is not how rich material it is, but the companionship and guidance of his family. All the difficulties they encounter may be the first time in their lives, and if they are not taught to face them correctly, they are likely to go astray.
Second, the 'addiction' that is difficult to control
Led by a senior student, Pan Jie entered the Internet café for the first time, and Pan Jie, who had been unhappy at school, found a long-lost sense of happiness here. At first, he just played a small game for a day, but when he returned to school, he couldn't sleep anymore, and his eyes were all the shadows of the game.
It didn't take long for Pan Jie to come into contact with online games, and the friends who played together felt that Pan Jie had a good time and praised him a few times, but in Pan Jie's eyes, he had not been affirmed by his peers for a long time.
He worked harder to delve into online games, and at the same time gained more happiness and a sense of accomplishment from it, and learning had been left behind by him, and soon his grades plummeted.
It is reasonable to say that at this time, his mood must not be very good, after all, in school, the quality of academic performance no one can really not care, if at this time his parents can accompany Pan Jie, educate him to restrain his game addiction, encourage him to continue to study hard, maybe Pan Jie can return to the formal.
But this time, the parents still chose to see this as a normal phenomenon, the child's greedy play, just casually asked about it, did not deal with it.
The decline in grades made Pan Jie more self-abandoned, and then he simply did not go to school, he took the money given by his parents, soaked in the Internet café every day, and when the money was gone, he asked his parents for it.
At this time, Pan Jie also happened to enter the rebellious period, the teacher's education could not listen to a word, and often resisted, their teachers did not choose to continue to deepen education, but showed obvious disgust, no longer care about him, to use a sentence that education practitioners often said in those years, that is, "give up." ”
Pan Jie was also happy that no one bothered him, just like that, he spent his entire student days in online games, and at that time, there was no anti-addiction, and Pan Jie played as long as he wanted.
Third, detached from the real world
Parents look at such Pan Jie, their hearts are very anxious, but they think that it is useless to harshly rebuke children, and when the children grow up and understand things, they will not be so disobedient.
But this time it was miscalculated, until a few years after Pan Jie graduated from school, his parents did not wait for Pan Jie to put down the mouse, turn off the computer and go to work.
What is Panjie's mentality at this time? He actually can't care about this kind of thing, so many years of gaming career, so that he only has the tasks in the game in his mind every day.
reality? Why think about something that gives you a headache just thinking about it. In this way, he ate and drank every day, immersed in the online game world, and no one would bother him.
But Pan Jie's mother finally couldn't watch it, and when Pan Jie played a game, Pan Jie's mother directly unplugged the network cable plug, and the Pan Jie game that was being operated immediately dropped, and a nameless fire rushed to the heart.
He loudly reprimanded his mother, and started to grab the network cable in his mother's hand, and his mother couldn't bear to slap Pan Jie, this slap did not make Pan Jie sober, but made him lose his mind, he pushed down his mother, plugged in the Internet cable to continue to surf the Internet.
His mother hurt her hand when she fell, because she was not immediately taken to the hospital, she was disabled, Pan Jie heard nothing to say, what he felt in his heart no one knew, maybe he was completely numb.
Pan Jie's mother knows that it is too late to educate and punish now, but anyone in the world will give up Pan Jie, and everyone has seen the rest of the things in the show, they chose to give Pan Jie a blind date again and again, enough to fail 59 times, and still think that Pan Jie can start a family.
According to the media people who re-found Pan Jie's hometown, Pan Jie is still addicted to the Internet café, his parents are old, and he knows that no one will choose to marry a giant baby who can only play games, so he also gave up Zhang Luo.
Pan Jie's parents always feel that after a stage, Pan Jie will grow up and suddenly understand things, but the growth of people's spiritual world is actually traceable, unlike saplings, watering and waiting.
Pan Jie himself will use his own worldview to justify his behavior every time he encounters setbacks in life, and in the long run, he has changed from self-abandonment to living in his own world.
Is he still saved? No one knows, because Pan Jie, who walked out of the online game world, could only hear ridicule and insults, of course, this is also his own. Pan Jie's life is not caused by online games, he began to lose control very early, and in our real society, there is always a kind of loss of control that can tempt him, after all, if you can't overcome desire with your will, anyone can become a slave to nature.
Resources:
1. "Let's Date", Hunan Satellite TV
2. Psychology and Life, by Zimbardo