The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
After marriage, couples will face many contradictions from the family and individuals, especially when there is a certain amount of pressure on the economy, when one of the spouses finds that the partner has some subsidies for the original family, there will be dissatisfaction in the heart.
However, many times, this dissatisfaction will only be forcibly suppressed by oneself, but over time, this emotion will always be vented one day.
At this time, there will inevitably be large-scale quarrels between husband and wife, and even a cold war situation.
From this, an idea will appear in the minds of the couple, that is, the AA system.
We cannot deny that the AA system can greatly reduce the sense of responsibility that has long been imbalanced between husband and wife to some extent, so that the husband and wife can carry the burden of the family forward together, but the feelings between husband and wife will also be greatly inferior because of the AA system, and even try to shirk the responsibility on their shoulders under the pretext of fairness.
In the short term, although the AA system can alleviate the contradictions between husband and wife, in the long run, it is not conducive to the development of feelings between husband and wife, and even causes a situation of mutual indifference.
01 had to accept the AA system, but finally adapted to this mode of getting along with husband and wife
Since Xiao Yu married her husband, she has been instilled by her husband the idea of "don't give to her mother's family".
Xiao Yu and her husband met through blind dates, the two were in a relationship of only three months at the urging of their families to get married in a hurry, after marriage, Xiao Yu thought to herself, since she has chosen each other as her husband, she must live well in the future and be dedicated to home.
Xiao Yu's idea is good, but the couple, who originally did not have much emotional foundation, once fell into a crisis when they encountered economic pressure.
As the saying goes: Marriage without material support is like a mess, and this sentence is most appropriate to put into Xiao Yu's marriage.
It just so happened that during that time, Xiao Yu's mother's parents' health was not very good, so in his spare time, Xiao Yu went to her mother's house several times, but all this changed in her husband's eyes.
The husband thinks that Xiaoyu often returns to her mother's house when she has nothing to do, and she has to bring a lot of things back every time, and she naturally has some dissatisfaction in her heart.
Later, after dinner, because of a small matter, the husband and wife had a fierce quarrel, and in a fit of anger, the husband proposed the AA system request. In the face of her husband's request, Xiao Yu consciously found that she had no way out and could only reluctantly agree.
02 Preparing a bride price for her brother, she was questioned by her husband
Before this, The life mode of Xiaoyu and her husband was that Xiaoyu usually handled housework at home and occasionally did some odd jobs, while her husband had been working outside the home, so in her husband's impression, the family's income was basically earned by herself, and had nothing to do with Xiaoyu.
And Xiao Yu also has no way to do anything about this, it just so happens that now that the two have AA system, it is pointless to continue to argue about these.
Since Xiaoyu and her husband AA system, she went out to find a job, because she had not been exposed to the workplace for a long time, so in the beginning, Xiaoyu had difficulty adapting for a while.
Later, Xiaoyu's girlfriend for many years suddenly told her that she was working on a project and asked Xiaoyu if she was interested in participating, and Xiaoyu quit her job after understanding clearly and started a business with her girlfriend.
Fortunately, Xiao Yu and his girlfriend's career gradually grew, and with it, Xiao Yu's income was also greatly improved.
Just at this time, Xiao Yu's maternal brother also reached the marriageable age, and with the ability of his parents, it was difficult to shoulder the heavy responsibility of his brother marrying his wife, but also in order to repay the parenting grace of his parents, Xiao Yu prepared a bride price for his brother in advance.
Unexpectedly, this move was actually questioned by her husband.
03 Can you handle me?
As a pillow person who gets along day and night, Xiao Yu, the dissatisfaction in her husband's heart, has also been aware of it.
Although Xiao Yu's true income did not tell her husband, her husband also saw the large and small gifts that Xiao Yu brought every time she returned to her mother's house. However, the husband and wife have already AA system, and for Xiaoyu's behavior, the husband has no reason to refute it.
But when her husband learned that Xiaoyu was preparing a bride price for her brother, he couldn't bear it any longer.
That night, after the two of them had dinner, the husband first asked: Xiao Yu, is our brother going to get married? How did he prepare for the bride price?
Hearing her husband ask this, Xiao Yu knew that her husband already knew some insider information, so he generously admitted: I helped him prepare.
When the husband heard this, his tone was obviously a little excited: Why?
Seeing her husband's angry appearance, Xiao Yu couldn't help but ask: Can you control me? After saying that, he got up and left.
After leaving, Xiao Yu had a feeling, when he was a housewife before, in the face of her husband's questioning, she did not dare to refute it, but now the status between the two seems to be completely reversed, Xiao Yu immediately thought about it, and she was relieved, after all, now she no longer needs to rely on her husband, plus her own hand has far surpassed him, which has caused the current situation.
Conclusion: Since the husband and wife have chosen the AA system, as long as the other party bears the part of the responsibility that should be borne, as for the other, there is no right to ask questions, just like Xiaoyu's encounter, although the AA system can alleviate the pressure of the husband and wife, but after getting used to this mode of getting along, the husband and wife are like strangers, and the love between each other has long disappeared.