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01. Preface
Love is romantic and aesthetic, and marriage is often very realistic.
Marriage and love often present different states. Love is more willing to remain pure, and marriage is all about taking into account all practical issues.
When you are in love, full of love, talk about money, always feel that it will be very tacky. However, walking into marriage, money is an issue that has to be discussed.
Marriage, love alone, is not enough.
Marriage, with endless trivialities of chai rice oil and salt, is full of trivial things, as well as complex human relationships and family relationships. Everywhere, you need to spend money.
The writer Lian Yue once said: "People who dare not talk about money will never mature." ”
Money, in marriage, is an indispensable medium. Men and women learn to talk about "money" and are a compulsory course.
When a woman is in love, she can better understand the man's consumption concept and know how big the gap is between the two people.
Whether a man loves you from the bottom of his heart, he can know the answer by "talking about money".
02, talk about money, can see a person's ability
Love, only need the wind and snow and romance, can feed the spiritual needs of two people. However, marriage needs the running-in of chai rice oil and salt, and it is tested by money everywhere.
Talking about money can see a person's ability, but also see his values, and whether he has a heart to forge ahead.
Leng Qingqiu and Jin Yanxi in "The Golden Powder Family" were together at first, which was very beautiful.
However, because before getting married, Leng Qingqiu did not realize how big the gap between them was, nor did he carefully think about how big the gap between the values of the two people really was.
Jin Yanxi put up the young master's shelf all day long, and for the sake of face, he would rather spend a lot of real gold and silver. Moreover, he spends all day drinking, without the slightest difficulty in the housekeeper, and has no real ability to make money.
Leng Qingqiu is from a small family, in order to understand the dilemma, she went to be a teacher, and she can earn money to support herself by her own ability.
However, Jin Yanxi felt that it was a very humiliating thing to let women go out to work. In the end, because of money, the contradiction between the two people became more and more intense, and finally regrettably ran away from each other.
Love, in trivial life, is easy to disappear. If partners can't talk about money together, life will become a chicken feather.
Between lovers, similar values, in order to better run for life.
A woman bravely talks to a man about money, can see if he is self-motivated, has the right values, and has the ability to make money.
03, talk about money, you can see whether each other is a level of people
Love is beautiful, but marriage is a fusion of two people's lives and habits, as well as values.
Zhang Ailing said: "Love looks romantic and pure, but in the end the reality is cruel, because she can't stand the cooking of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar." ”
Only similar values can reduce the run-in and reduce the occurrence of contradictions.
Qiu Donna in "Life Home" fell in love with Xiao Bai in college, and the love between the two people was very sincere, but it made Qiu Donna feel very stressed.
Qiu Donna saved up money for a long time before she bought a pair of limited edition sneakers for Xiao Bai. And Xiao Bai felt that the shoes she sent were not a precious gift, and he was now pursuing a newer style.
Because the difference between the two people's cognition in terms of money is too large, resulting in the quality of life and taste of the two people in the future, and even the circle of friends will be very different.
People who are not in a circle, strong integration will only make each other more hurt.
Talking about money, you can see whether each other is a level of people, and how big the gap in values is. If two people are together and the gap is too large, then life is easy to contradict.
Similar values will be recognized by each other when consuming. At the same time, we can set up the same goal and strive for a better future.
04. Summary
There is a line in the TV series "The Dual Core Era": "Love and marriage are not maintained by face, and even the best feelings and marriages need money to maintain." ”
When men and women are together, it's important to learn to talk about money.
If you dare not talk about face because of face and affection, life will eventually present each other's values, then there may be many contradictions.
Many people always say that they will not be separated for a lifetime, but they disperse as they walk. Talking about money before marriage will have a deeper understanding of each other.
If two people agree with each other's ideas and statements in the process of negotiating money, then when they get along in the future, they will not easily touch each other's bottom line and principles, and it will be easier and easier to get along.
The future of both people is not fully considered, and if the economic problems are not solved, the future road will not be easy.
Talk about money, only to know each other's living habits, to know each other's values, to know whether it is appropriate to be together.
So, women, boldly talk to men about money, you can more clearly understand each other's feelings, more in-depth understanding of men's character and ability.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.