Many of the TV dramas we watched when we were children were idol dramas about the young master marrying the young master and Cinderella marrying the domineering president.
The sequelae of watching these idol dramas is that when you grow up, you can't look at ordinary social animals in reality.
Wanting to achieve class crossing through marriage was once the inner thought of many women.
Even now, it is also important to look upwards, and not everyone accepts it.
However, in recent years, the concept of marriage and love has changed, and more and more girls, even if they are chased by rich people, can be very sober.
An example like Sun Yining's rejection of Wang Sicong shows that she no longer believes in the so-called sincerity of the rich second generation.
According to her understanding, middle-class men in Shenzhen will only fall in love with Xiaobaimei, who comes to work in other places, but will not get married.
Marriage is more considered is the door-to-door pair, the income is comparable.
No one in this society gets married to help the poor, that's the reality.
Therefore, whether rich people pursue girls or not depends on the conditions of girls.
Falling in love only needs to be pretty and good-looking.
When you get married, you will care about the girl's family lineage, income, education and so on.
In today's exquisite self-interest, everyone is weighing the pros and cons.
Or it's the same throughout the ages, but now we're all naked.
But think about it, if you are pursued by handsome and rich handsome men, most people will have a hard time resisting the temptation.
Rich men not only use wealth to pursue girls, but also use routines, gentle traps, and packaged sincerity.
Therefore, when girls are pursued, they will also be full of superiority.
Some girls feel that they are favored by high-value people, even if they are upside down, they do not lose money.
So in the face of money and the love of men, there are always very few women who can stay sober.
Sometimes they just set up a person, and before they can pay, someone starts to be deceived.
But rich men are not fools, there is never a shortage of women around them, and there is no only true love.
Most rich men are just cheating on feelings under the guise of true love.
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Be wary of the traps of rich men
There is no shortage of women around them, and they know what women like most.
With money can buy a lot of women's sincerity, so they won't believe that the woman he's with is because of love.
They are more often just for fun, but they can't express it bluntly, so they will create the illusion of true love for a girl.
If the girl has a good appearance but a simple mind, and the gap between the family situation and the man is very large, it may not be as good as the story of Jin Yanxi and Leng Qingqiu in the TV series "Golden Powder Family".
At least when Jin Yanxi was pursuing Leng Qingqiu, he confirmed that he was in love.
He was in love with her at first sight, a crazy infatuation.
Today's rich men can never pursue as fiercely as Jin Yanxi.
But in essence, he still used a passion, money, and family background to catch up with Leng Qingqiu, but it was also the beginning of the tragedy.
Maybe Jin Yanxi felt that she loved Leng Qingqiu very much, and how happy she was to marry her.
But I didn't expect that after getting married, I didn't live the life of a prince and a princess.
Jin Yanxi still couldn't give up the flower world outside, and hoped that Leng Qingqiu wouldn't interfere with him.
He cheated, bubbled up, Leng Qingqiu hoped that he would change, hoped that he would be responsible.
As a result, the two quarreled frequently, and their feelings were not as good as a day.
In the original work, after Jin Yanxi and Leng Qingqiu were separated, they did not think about it day and night.
Leng Qingqiu did not go to the south, and finally fell on the streets and sold words for a living.
Jin Yanxi went abroad to become a movie star, and became famous after making a movie that smeared his marriage.
Think of the cold and clear autumn when you are indifferent to Juju and just want to live a peaceful life, and Jin Yanxi, who is obsessed with the world of flowers and flowers, is not the same kind of person at all, and separation is inevitable.
Leng Qingqiu married into the Jin family is Gao Pan, and she also vainly tries to change this stupid child.
But he didn't think that he didn't have this chip to affect Jin Yanxi.
As an ordinary girl who is pursued by a rich man, she will indeed fantasize about having a future with him, and she will also believe that he may be sincere for a while.
But human nature is human nature, and most of the rich men today are loveless.
Some are just constantly pursuing women who make him fresh, and it is even more difficult to marry home.
Even if he is responsible, he loves the girl to death, what about marrying back?
Can he stop the feelings from fading after he is towards Qin Twilight Chu's heart?
A man with money and resources in his hands is difficult to settle down and willingly be trapped by a woman.
So, although they will spend money for women, once the novelty passes, it will be directly lost.
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Money and affection cannot be combined
Those who can marry back are still responsible, at least at the moment when he decides to marry a girl, his heart at that time belongs to the girl.
But there are a lot of rich men who just cheat a relationship for the purpose of getting married, in the name of being in love.
But it's not that girls shouldn't fall in love with rich men, there's nothing they shouldn't do, but it depends on whether they want to or not.
Just don't fall in love with the brain, and see clearly your own strengths and weaknesses in such an unequal relationship.
Girls in such a relationship, may not suffer materially, but in the relationship is doomed to suffer.
If the conditions are not good enough when the girl is in love, there is no chip, then the initiative is in the hands of the man.
He decides the ebb and flow of the relationship, while the girl is completely passive.
Unless the girl does not covet his benefits, then she can choose to break up.
If you are reluctant to break up in such a relationship, you must understand what you want.
Be prepared for a future with him, and then be able to get what you want in this relationship, and don't regret it in the future.
At this time, you can't have too many expectations of him psychologically, hoping that he will be single-minded and excessively demanding emotional value.
Because if he is willing to pay, he does not want to buy tiredness, but needs girls to provide emotional value.
There are always many regrets in the matter of feelings, and a man cannot be handsome, rich and loyal, which does not exist.
If he is willing to give, then he must be confused about loyalty.
If you can't accept the nature of men, you are not suitable for falling in love with rich men, otherwise you may be hurt to the skin.
Men who have no money and are loyal, women can't look up to them.
Ordinary men who live a life, with high-value beauty, she will feel that she has suffered losses.
If you calculate it, you can only encounter what kind of feelings, and it is also very good to go through the experience.
Only after more experience will you understand what you want and will only be more sober.
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Not being greedy is the best self-protection
In fact, we think from another angle ourselves, women have money, but also have the capital to change their hearts.
If a man can't satisfy himself, he will change him, which is the common sentiment of people.
So when you fall in love with a rich man, you should be aware of this risk.
You may be abandoned at any time, replaced, suffer from gain and loss, and sadly, mental torture.
There is also a choice not to be greedy and to establish your own value.
Although life will be difficult on your own, it is better to live in anxiety.
No matter how good and handsome he is, it has nothing to do with himself, and it is too much to weigh the gap between himself and the other party, is it too big?
If so, don't go in at the beginning of the bureau.
Because once we know what mentality they have to pursue women, naturally there is nothing worth getting on.
Just like Sun Yining knows very well that even if Wang Sicong licks again, it does not mean that he lacks women, and she must be.
It's not love, it's just that I don't get what I like.
The most feared thing is self-deception, which is the self-persuasion that women are good at.
When a man is slightly better, he feels that he is his true love.
After spending a little money, you have to pay it back and show your innocence.
Some girls who love brains, they don't have to pursue laboriously, rely on their mouths, and the payment of cheap actions can win their hearts.
Girls with weak cores and low sense of value are easily deceived, so not being greedy is the best self-protection.
But girls with a low sense of value are almost impossible to resist, and it is impossible to soberly reject the pursuit of rich men.
In many scams, women are deceived by hundreds of thousands, millions, tens of millions, all because they believe in men's packaging.
How can a handsome and considerate man pursue himself, how can he not be moved?
They think that they can paste upside down, and this kind of thinking will lead to the loss of money.
There is no shortage of girls who have been deceived, who have high education and successful careers.
As long as women lack love and meet cheaters who are good at disguise, their IQ will drop.
Rich men have a lot of routines, true and false are difficult to distinguish, who knows whether others can rely on it, is it just a fresh play?
Whether men have money or not, character and responsibility are the first.
Divorced from character, he was rich, handsome, and useless no matter how good he was.
Money may be one of the conditions for choosing a man, but not as the only condition.
When facing their pursuit, they should remain rational and prolong the time to observe each other more before making decisions.
Author | Fei Yu A person who likes to explore himself, with growth as the goal, experience as the road, sincerity as the heart, and live a life of maximum freedom.