Actor Hu Xing'er and her ex have been in love for about eight years, during which the ex has been in constant scandal, and Hu Xing'er has always been with him, she thinks that one day the lover will definitely change, but there is no, and finally Hu Xing'er chose to leave.
In the third year after the breakup, Hu Xing'er got married, and some people said that if the ex proposed marriage once in those eight years, then Hu Xing'er would definitely agree without hesitation, and when she got married, Hu Xing'er did not care about the previous suspicions, and generously invited the ex to attend her wedding.
When interviewed about what she thought about the relationship, Hu Xing'er said that her ex taught her to be a mature and stable person, and her ex taught her to be an adult, and only her husband taught her to be a child.
Therefore, this kind of thing really depends on fate, looks at time, and meeting the right person at the right time is a kind of luck, and meeting the wrong person at the wrong time is a sigh.
Loving someone is the innocence that protects the other person, that is, it can make the other person carefree, and with a person who does not love himself, we will not have a good sense of experience, but will be deeply tortured.
In a relationship between the sexes, don't connect with a man who treats you like this, no matter how much you love.
Let you learn to suffer from gain and loss
01), the TV series "Golden Powder Family" in the Jin Yanxi is a playboy, he does not like others to discipline himself, so when the cold as white moonlight and gentle and virtuous Leng Qingqiu appeared, he felt at a glance that this was the person he had been looking for, so he took out the posture of the rich family's children and threw money, and finally hugged the beauty, and Leng Qingqiu entered the marriage hall.
It should have been a good story, but the man has an inferior root nature of liking the new and the old, seeing different thoughts, and the white moonlight that was once white has become a white rice grain after getting it.
On the contrary, Jin Xiuzhu, who had been bored before, attracted Yan Xi's attention at this moment, in order to please the other party, he spent all his time on Jin Xiuzhu's body, and he did not go home once a month, so that Leng Qingqiu suffered from loss and tossing and turning.
02), when we send a message to our mother, even if the mother does not reply, we will not have the worry of "is my mother not loving me", because we can make it clear that my mother must love us;
But when we message men, we will suffer if we don't reply in time, because we don't know and are not sure whether the other party loves themselves or not.
However, loving someone can give people a sense of security, and if not, it means that this so-called love is not so profound.
Makes you become self-doubtful
01), there is a man with no education, no money and no ability, and her girlfriend is kind-hearted, educated, capable and good-looking, when the two people are together, the man knows that he is not as good as his girlfriend in all aspects, but he did not think about making himself excellent, but constantly belittled his girlfriend, saying that she is not good and that is not good.
Slowly, the girlfriend is becoming less and less confident, and the once bright girl is now cowering, but it doesn't matter, this is exactly the result that men want, because the girlfriend at this time is fully worthy of herself, and there is not much pressure when getting along.
Acts like this are PUA. So, what is PUA?
02), the so-called PUA, in fact, is a kind of spiritual control, to put it bluntly, is to enhance the sense of unworthiness of the heart through continuous depreciation, so that they have self-doubt and self-denial of themselves, and they are not embarrassed to accept the praise of others, and even feel that they do not deserve to get beautiful things.
In a relationship between the sexes, good love will be like a teacher, which will make two people constantly get better and better when they are together, rather than going downhill.
So, if a man never mentions your shining point when he is with you, but constantly attacks your shortcomings, and even belittles you, don't hesitate, such a man is not suitable for you and is not worthy of your love.
Makes you feel depressed from time to time
Will Smith once said: "Life will be enriched in all kinds of friendships, love for others, and love for others, this is the greatest joy of survival." ”
We run a relationship in order to experience the beauty of it, to experience how lucky it is to be with the person we love, and with such a person, we are like entering a house where we have lived, and some only have a sense of familiarity, a sense of solidity and a sense of freedom.
A man, a man who is responsible for feelings, should understand when dealing with feelings that love is not a flash in the pan but a long stream, so when getting along with a lover, you can't just satisfy your own possessiveness without considering each other's feelings, to limit each other's freedom.
If there is a man who cannot make you feel comfortable and free, then this man must not love you so much, and he is selfish, because he only considers his own feelings, but does not care whether you are happy or willing, and such a man is not worthy of our lifelong trust.