Money and face! After watching the mature decade

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People who have no ability care most about face

There is a saying that the more useless a person is, the more he is obsessed with those insignificant bottom lines, and he must show his strong self-esteem everywhere.

Because apart from self-esteem, we had nothing at that time.

The so-called face, for poor and white young people who are eager to succeed, overemphasizing self-esteem is actually a stumbling block.

Especially for some fragile and sensitive people, self-esteem has become a weapon to ask others. Self-esteem is greater than love, even bigger than the sky, too strong and too sensitive self-esteem, in fact, comes from inferiority.

The French writer Eusenaar said: "There is nothing dirtier in the world than self-esteem." "Because of self-esteem, a person's vulnerability, inferiority, sensitivity and uselessness have the best excuses and cover.

In Mencius, there is a parable of a Qi man begging for food.

A Qi man begged for sacrifices at the grave to fill his hunger, but boasted in front of his wives and concubines that rich and powerful people often invited him to dinner.

Full of wine and food, he came home with a drunken and smoky look, scolding and grinning, and commanding.

After a long time, the wives and concubines began to suspect him, so they followed him, and the last thing they saw was that he was not at the rich man's banquet, but at the cemetery in the eastern suburbs, asking for the rest of the sacrifices to eat.

They are like what Lu Xun said in the "Miscellaneous Essays on the Pavilion":

As long as you grasp this face, it is like grabbing the little braid on Ah Q's head, leading him to the east and leading him to the west.

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Loving face and being particular are two different things

Some people are more exquisite and decent in their daily lives, one is to conform to their identity and values, and the other is to live a more exquisite life and a higher quality of life.

But if you are too good-looking and poor, you will be suspected of admiring vanity, especially if you exceed your own ability to put on a pomp and circumstance, be blind and exquisite, and be tired, and maybe drag others down.

This kind of face is toxic and can make people's minds lose their minds and go astray.

Then again, in today's society, many times, only "having face" will be "bought face".

People who are really powerful will not be too keen on bluffing.

Because with Lizi, you don't have to rely on face to make others look up to you.

And if you have not yet reached a certain condition, have not reached a certain height, have to punch a swollen face and be fat, you are doomed to be very tired and hard, and in the end you are exhausted, but you have no time to make yourself more capable - spend time and energy on face.

In "The Golden Powder Family", Jin Yanxi likes Leng Qingqiu so much. In the end of the breakup, Jin Yanxi also said, "Except for Leng Qingqiu, I have never loved another woman in my life."

But even with such feelings, the two eventually ended up flying apart.

Speaking of the main reason, after getting married, Jin Yanxi knew that his wife did not like him to return home in the middle of the night, but he returned night and night because he could not let go of the young master's face.

What's more, he also had a close relationship with female celebrities, just for fear of falling behind the words of others: "If you are married, you are afraid of your wife." ”

In the long run, the end of the two can be imagined.

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Lizi is far more important than face

There is a sobering sentence in "A Generation of Grandmasters":

People live in the world, some live into face, some live into the inside. And only Lizi can win real face.

In fact, smart people will value Lizi, improve themselves from the heart, and make themselves more and more powerful.

Someone asked Ma Yun what is his biggest insight? He said that by learning one more skill, you can say less than one word of asking for help.

Injured because of being looked down upon, chafing at why you don't practice your listening well, and angry that you are not as good as others.

There is no way to vent all emotions, except embarrassment and powerlessness to feel unseemly about yourself.

That feeling made me understand one thing, face and self-esteem are never given by others, but earned by their own skills.

Only if you have more skills, you can say less if you ask for people, and if you don't have the ability, you will not only lose face when you ask for people, but also miss the people and things that make you move, and even miss the new scenery of life.

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Capable people don't care about face

A passage circulates:

When you put down your face and make money, it means that you have understood things;

When you use money to earn back face, it means that you have succeeded;

When you can make money with face, it means that you are already a character;

When you are still there drinking, bragging, not knowing how to pretend to understand, and only loving face, it means that your life is like this.

The ancients said: "Big husband, can flex and stretch", people who are really capable do not care about face.

Han Xin endured the humiliation of his crotch in order to become a general who commanded the Million Heroes Division; the King of Yue suffered the humiliation of the King of Wu and finally destroyed the State of Wu; Cao Xueqin's family fell in the middle of the road and endured the ridicule of the people who lived in the city, and only then did one of the four famous works, "Dream of the Red Chamber".

Face is sometimes a burden on the mind, and when you learn to let go of unnecessary face, your life will be much more comfortable.

When you put down your face and make money, it means that you have understood things.

When you use money to earn back face, it means that you have succeeded.

When you can make money with face, it means that you are already a character.

When you are still there drinking and bragging, pretending to understand nothing, and only loving the so-called face, it means that your life is like this!

If you have watched it once, twice, three times and still don't understand it, please read it a few more times, I am sure you will gain something!

I like this passage very much:

Money can't feed you for a lifetime. Beauty, can not show off for a lifetime. The poorest is nothing more than begging for food, and the immortal will always come out.

Whoever dares to say that his life is perfect, whose life is not sour, sweet and bitter, who dares to guarantee that he has always been a successful life.

No matter how beautiful people are, there is also cold and bitterness behind them; No matter how happy people are, they also have helpless difficulties in their hearts.

No one's life is easy, respecting others is respecting yourself. If you want to be noble before people, you have to suffer after people.

——Dedicated to all people who strive for ideals!