Perhaps in life, each of us will have a little pride in our bones, unwilling to bow our heads and unwilling to admit defeat.
Sometimes even if you know that you want to be strong, you will not let yourself get the slightest benefit, and you will be competitive, so as to preserve your poor self-esteem.
However, life is not a battlefield, and you don't have to fight to the death.
It is often said:
"Those who are too rigid are easy to fold, and those who are gentle are not defeated."
In this world, many times, many things, not tough to get better results.
On the contrary, being too tough is easy to make people resentful, intensifying more contradictions, and eventually gaining more than they lose, and even putting themselves in prison and bad fate.
And knowing how to smile and bow your head, to retreat into progress, often can easily resolve the dilemma and get the effect you want to achieve.
Smiling and bowing your head, interpersonal relationships are more harmonious
A French philosopher once said:
"If you want to make enemies, you are better than your friends; if you want to make friends, please make friends better than you." 」
When people get along with each other, there will inevitably be times when differences and contradictions will occur.
And many times, these contradictions are not a big deal.
As long as one party can show weakness first, then all the unhappiness will disappear, and everyone will be the best friend as before.
But if you are afraid, you will not bow your head, he will not compromise, two people will fight to the end, neither of them will get the benefits, but they will still bury the friendship.
Really smart people, they always know how to weigh the pros and cons, for some unnecessary disputes, should bow their heads, so as to maintain the relationship and win respect.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A few friends of a young man went to the young man's bedroom to sit down.
One of the friends noticed that the young man had a grip on his desk and tried it with all his might and ended up making only two.
So I said to the young man, such a big grip you can make a few. The young man casually replied with more than 50 sentences.
The friend didn't believe it: "Just blow it, if you can hold 50, I will walk out upside down." ”
Stimulated, the young man began to do it, but when he did 49, the young man suddenly threw away the grip and said, "I'm too tired to do it." ”
Franklin said:
"If you're competitive and like to compete with others, you're probably going to win for a short time. But this victory is meaningless and worthless, because you will never get the favor of the other side. ”
Not everything in the world needs to be "won."
Sometimes smile and bow your head, and you will find that not only will you not lose anything, but you will get more and more important things.
Smiling and bowing your head, the emotional marriage is happier
Someone said:
The last place in the world that needs to "win" is in the family, in the marriage. ”
Indeed, home is a place to talk about love, and there is no need to show how sharp your teeth are, how high your IQ is, and you don't need to fight to win or lose.
Blindly having to be strong and competitive will only make the family that could have been warm smoke everywhere, and then sacrifice their feelings in the cold war and quarrels.
Only when the husband understands how to be soft, the wife is not more real, and the hand of the son dances together, can he walk through the chicken feathers of life and live a swaying life.
I once watched a video like this:
The husband and wife quarreled, because the wife was too unreasonable to make trouble, and the husband was very angry for a while, and also said some cruel words.
Furious, the wife said to her husband, "You roll." ”
Listening to his wife say this, the husband could not hang on to his face, turned around and slammed the door, and said in a gamble: "I will come back again, I am the grandson." ”
However, after less than ten minutes, my wife heard a knock at the door, and there was a voice outside the door: "Grandma, I am back, you are tired, first open the door for me." ”
Hearing her husband's words, the wife laughed and opened the door, and the two of them were as good as ever.
I really like this sentence:
"Those who are strong and competitive in love are not heroes; being able to be soft in front of their lovers is the real skill."
Husband and wife quarrel, if you have to fight for a right or wrong, a high and low, then the feelings will only be consumed day by day.
And knowing how to smile and bow your head is not instigation, but we would rather admit it, so as to feel what is called happiness.
Smile and bow your head, and your work will go more smoothly
Writer Liu Tong said:
"When you are young, you always have to pay some price for being tough because of face."
It is undeniable that in this world, everyone has a strong sense of self-esteem, and there is no one who does not want face.
However, we should know that face is the most useless thing in the world, blindly fighting for face, being strong, and in the end it will only be yourself who suffers losses.
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Gu Jia can be said to be painstaking in order to be able to attract a large customer to her family's company.
However, when Xu Huanshan went to meet this customer, it was only because the other party's words made him feel uncomfortable, making him feel lost face, and he lost his temper.
Not only did it lose a very important order, but it brought great trouble to its own company. In the end, Gu Jia drank to atone for her sins and only then resolved the trouble.
Tu Lei once said in "Love Defense War":
"Face does not exist when there is no strength to support, because there is no inside."
There is no one in this world who does not want decency, and there is no one who does not want self-esteem.
However, there is also a saying called: "People under the eaves have to bow their heads."
Maybe you lose your temper and you feel good at that moment, but the price you have to pay may be something you can't afford.
Truly mature and wise people, they have long lost that cheap face, but they can bend and stretch,
Because they know that many times only by knowing how to bow their heads can they better adapt to the world and live a better life.
There is a saying:
"Smiling and bowing your head is sometimes more powerful than being tough."
In life, there are always some things that need to be shown weakness and need to be compromised.
Many times only when you know how to bow your head, then you can get more friendship and opportunities, so as to embrace a better future.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.