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The needs of men and women in love are completely different, men long to be adored, women want to be pampered, and the biggest hope of women throughout their lives is to be able to find someone who hurts themselves to the bone, accompany themselves to old age, and protect themselves for life.
Some people are lucky to find it and meet a man who holds her in the palm of his hand as a baby to spoil. He will accept all his shortcomings, tolerate his own little temper, and give himself warm protection, that feeling is like bathing in the sun all the time, very warm and comfortable.
Some people enter one wrong relationship after another, constantly consuming themselves, making themselves more and more unhappy, men have no pity for her, just treat them as if they were nannies, enjoy the feeling of being taken care of by women, and women gradually lose their luster in this day-to-day sleepy life.
Some people may boil it down to luck, thinking that the women who are favored by men are nothing more than lucky and find a good person. However, in fact, all luck has an element of personal management behind it, and no one will always be favored by good luck, and no one will always be accompanied by bad luck.
Instead of attributing everything you can't get to luck, find the reason for it. Why can't others have it, and you can only linger outside of good love? In fact, it is inseparable from yourself.
Women who are pampered by men have something in common. They all did three things right.
Know how to let men have face
Husbands and wives themselves are a community of honor and disgrace, the face between each other is mutual achievement, many women like to use the words of attack and ridicule to talk about their husbands, even in front of outsiders always treat them in this way, the words are full of disgust and ridicule, but in fact, when they count him, why not say themselves? When you belittle him, why aren't you saying that you have a bad vision?
Men are good-looking creatures, and their needs in their feelings are actually very simple, that is, they hope to be worshipped, to be looked up to, and to hope that women can give themselves enough face, rather than casually belittling and insulting.
What men are most afraid of is the dislike of women, disgusted with their own incompetence, disgusted with their own unworthy of each other, always able to compare themselves with other men at every turn, no man can stand it, sooner or later one day will erupt.
Love is interconnected, only if you give the man what he wants, he can give you the love you want, those women who are pampered by men, they all understand this, know how to take care of men's faces, let men willingly pay for them.
When you suppress him, you are also pushing the other party away from you, you give him face, he gives you care, so that love can be complete.
Dare to express love and praise
Girls are more introverted, in the expression of love will be more subtle, but this implication should only exist in the stage of unclear relationship between two people, the more subtle you are, the man will pay attention to you in the bottom of his heart, if two people have entered marriage, then such a subtlety, it is not necessary.
Sometimes love really wants to be expressed, if you have been hiding, it is not conducive to the long-term development of the relationship between two people, especially in the later stage, the longer you spend together, the more flat the marriage, then you must be more daring to express love.
In the process of getting along, give each other more expressions of love, even if you don't need to say some fleshy words, you can praise him more, use body language to express, give him a hug, and lean on him more, which will be of great help to the relationship between the two of you.
Praise is really important in love, in fact, men are like a child in their bones, get a little achievement and hope to be praised, you praise him more, will stimulate his enthusiasm, so as to be more motivated, give you a better life.
In life, the use of praise methods is also conducive to the integration of relationships, which can stimulate men's enthusiasm. "The Man Who Does Housework" in Which Yang Qianwei adopts this way, Ding Zigao has never cooked, Yang Qianwei kept praising him, wearing a top hat for him, letting him willingly enter the kitchen, after doing it, Yang Qianwei has also been constantly praising the delicious food, giving Ding Zigao great comfort.
In either respect, there is nothing wrong with praising more, the man will be very useful, he is happy, and naturally he is willing to be better to you.
Maintain self-independent growth and have stable spiritual sustenance
A marriage is never a binding of one party to the other, but two independent people to establish a stable and long-term relationship, independent and dependent on each other, which is the state that a benign marriage should have.
Women are not independent, the final fate is often very miserable, men may be willing to raise you when they love you at the beginning, but after a long time, they will be disgusted, become very impatient, when your relationship appears unequal, then it is difficult to get the real respect and love of men.
Many women are very independent when they are single, but once they enter marriage, it is easy to have a dependency psychology, regard men as their dependence for the rest of their lives, and completely lose themselves, but marriage is not a once and for all thing, no one can rely on in this world, only they are eternally dependent.
When you become less independent, then be prepared to be rejected sooner or later, marriage is already very realistic, don't overestimate your feelings.
No man will like a woman who is useless and cannot keep up with her own footsteps, only by maintaining independent growth, men will look up to you and be willing to die for you.
Whether it is financial or psychological, you must get rid of dependence on men, find stable spiritual sustenance for yourself, and do not regard men and marriages as your whole world, only in this way men dare not despise you.
Running a marriage requires certain skills, do not regard marriage as a very simple thing, so as not to pay or take the initiative, let it develop freely. But don't think of it too hard, only if we put our hearts into it, the marriage will not be too bad.
If you want to get the favor of men, don't just wantonly ask for it, and don't arbitrarily trample on men's self-esteem, and say something hurtful to the other party at will. You have to make it clear that the two of you are a community of honor and disgrace, and he will be good to you.
I recommend you to read the book "Marriage Psychology", which talks about some of the problems we will encounter in marriage, and also gives some solutions, we can all find the answer to marital happiness here.