The truth that family ugliness is not publicized is well known.
We can often see parents reprimanding their children on the road, not to mention how much such behavior affects the people around them, for children, the harm is absolutely fatal.
On the one hand, it was to lose face, and their mother's reprimand attracted too much strange attention. On the other hand, they are very afraid in their hearts, afraid that they will receive greater punishment when they go home.
Training children really has to be divided into occasions
Linlin grew up around her grandparents, her mother did not manage herself for a day, even if it was a New Year's holiday, her mother and father were also walking through the scene, and after eating, they hurried away.
At first, Linlin felt that he did not have a father and mother, and he was very ignorant of the understanding of father's love and mother's love, and he was very incomprehensible when he saw other children saying to their mothers that I love you.
After Linlin went to kindergarten, she was taken to live next to her mother, although there were many places that were not adapted, but the grandparents were too old to take care of Linlin, so they could only obey their mother's arrangements.
Even so, Linlin and her mother have very little communication, I don't know if my mother is not good at words, or I don't like Linlin from the bottom of my heart. Another time, Linlin and the class children had a conflict, and the teacher complained to her mother, who was very angry.
In the evening, when my mother picked up Linlin from school, she was at the gate of the kindergarten, in front of all the parents, and reprimanded Linlin loudly, which was originally a very small thing, but it made everyone in the kindergarten know.
Linlin saw that the other parents stopped to watch the hilarity, felt very embarrassed, lowered her head, and her mother saw that Linlin's performance was even more intense. Linlin couldn't bear it and said loudly to her mother: I hate you!
It didn't take long for Linlin to be diagnosed with depression and had to undergo regular psychological counseling. Knowing that seeing her child sick, the mother realized how incompetent she was.
I'd rather get used to a child in the eyes of outsiders than reprimand him in public! Don't lose your baby's dignity
Children have self-esteem no matter how young they are
Many parents think that the child is so small, what self-esteem do you have? If you have self-esteem after being scolded once, you will have a long memory, and it is impossible to make the same mistake again!
Moreover, the child's thinking is so simple, after encountering problems, it will not be related to his self-esteem at all. At the very least, you must wait until your child is 8 years old to have self-esteem!
This is extremely wrong! From the birth of the baby, the stimulation of the outside world will induce their abilities to develop rapidly, and at the age of 2, the self-consciousness will develop for the first time.
The main manifestation is that you can use your own thoughts to trend your own behavior, know how to say no to your parents, and when you are not willing to complete something, or want to complete it independently, you will directly inform your parents.
Similarly, at this time, the child's self-esteem will also develop quietly. They will feel sad and feel that their self-esteem is frustrated because their demands have not been met.
I also grieve because other people hurt themselves and get angry because they lose face in front of someone they like. If you meet a vengeful baby, you may retaliate after the fact!
Respect for children is an important educational principle
As the saying goes, do not do to others what you do not want, many parents will complain that the more their children grow up, the more they do not respect themselves, always shout at themselves, and do some behaviors that are difficult for them to accept.
At this time, the most important thing parents should do is to reflect on themselves and imagine how they once treated their children when they were young. Is it giving the child full respect and recognition?
In such a situation, most of them are parents who ignore their children's feelings from an early age. When children are not yet able to express themselves and deal with external affairs, they will only learn from each other, and how their parents treat them, they will treat other people, including parents.
But when children get a respected emotional experience, they will form the correct three views. Even when other people hurt themselves, they will think of the positive side and will not drill the horns.
The child's sense of security all comes from the parents
The act of reprimanding a child in front of outsiders is not a sign of politeness in our eyes. Under the ideological trend that family ugliness cannot be publicized, it is not allowed to do such behavior.
But why do so many parents make this low-level mistake? It may be influenced by emotions, it may be that you have not been given enough respect since childhood. Whatever the reason, a child shouldn't be a victim of his own emotions, should he?
Today's Topic:
Have you ever reprimanded your own children in front of outsiders? Do you think this behavior is correct or irrelevant? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!