Mom and Dad want their children to be obedient and sensible, but it is not necessarily a good thing that children are too honest. Obedient and sensible children must also know how to express their emotions, and when your interests are violated, a reasonable tantrum is also a means of self-protection. When you are in a bad mood, the venting of emotions can pour out the inner garbage, and holding yourself in your heart is the most wrong way.
Compared with obedient children, children who "lose their temper" are the blessings of parents and mothers
Of course, we don't want to have a child who is wrong, but a child who always lets others bully and does not know how to protect himself is even more heart-wrenching.
Linlin is a child in the kindergarten class, and today the teacher called her mother to the kindergarten because Linlin and the children had a fight.
Linlin's class teacher said: "This child is usually quite obedient, but this time he scratched the hand of a little girl in the class." Linlin's mother took a look, and sure enough, the other child's small hand broke several deep scratches, and blood flowed out. The teacher said to let Linlin apologize, but the child just didn't apologize.
Mom asked Linlin, "Why did you grab someone else's hand?" Linlin said to her mother: "It was she who grabbed the rope of my sweatshirt hat, and then I was out of breath, so I scratched her hand." Mom took a closer look, and Linlin's neck was indeed a little red.
The teacher said, "But you are not injured, what have you seen in Sugar Sugar's hands?" Linlin's mother was not happy at this time, and she said to the teacher: "Teacher, you are not right about this!" The child's right or wrong should not be judged by who is more seriously injured. My son grabbed her hand for self-preservation and should not have apologized in the first place. If my son hadn't scratched her hand and been strangled by her, it wouldn't have been a simple matter of apologizing. ”
I still prefer this mother and son's approach, when our lives are threatened, protecting ourselves is the most important thing. When our children are wronged, parents should stand up in front of others to defend their children, which is a better way of education. If it's not your fault, you don't have to worry about damaging your image because of the dispute, and there's no need to wronged yourself in order to please anyone.
Tantrums are out of control, life is out of control, will lose their temper is not a tantrum, but a reasonable expression of their emotions, not only no harm to themselves, but also these benefits, parents should not as long as the child loses his temper to suppress him.
There is a saying: "People are not fierce, they are unstable." "When you are hurt by others, roaring and reprimanding can bring you strength and shock to the other party, and emotional resistance is also a way to protect yourself."
In addition, physical harm is visible, and our inner harm is invisible, but it is actually more serious. So, whether it's a child in the class or a woman in a marriage, the days of the good old people who can't stand it are the most difficult. In order not to hurt others, swallowing grievances into the stomach and tears flowing in the heart is the most uncomfortable. Over time, the child's personality growth will be affected, and the quality of life of adults will also decline.
If your child never loses his temper, or often loses his temper, it means that there are some problems in the way parents educate their children. How to guide children to express their emotions correctly and be a person who will lose their temper is what parents need to do.
We must cultivate children to be informal, but we must also "not tolerate big things."
It is certainly not right to lose your temper because of a small thing, or to lose your temper without reason. First of all, we should guide our children not to lose their temper when they do wrong things, and the big husband can bend and stretch, and if there is a mistake, he must take the initiative to correct it. If it is a small mistake made by others, you can also forgive without thinking about forgiveness, but on the issue of touching your own bottom line, you can be angry and express your anger.
Teach children to lose their temper and also grasp the measure and learn to think rationally.
Some people often feel that as long as they have a good temper, there is no way to think. We also often see some people who are obviously justified at the beginning, but as a result, they do something irrational and are punished by the law.
Tantrums are OK, but you must also know how to think about problems and grasp the measure of things when you lose your temper. Even if you are already angry, you must remain objectively calm in order to achieve the effect you want.
Let the child understand that tantrums are a means, and solving problems is the key.
When you lose your temper, your emotions are relieved, and solving the problem still depends on communication. We should guide children, no matter how angry, to be able to express their views clearly and methodically, and to explain their experiences, which is the key to solving the problem.
Interactive topic: The goal of family education should be to cultivate children who are kind but not easy to mess with, upright but not reckless, what do you think?